Feeling like you are not heard or misunderstood is one of the fastest paths to loneliness. When we don’t believe that another person really knows or understands our heart we can get lost in a crowd, feeling all alone. Many men who struggle to connect with their wives will know exactly what I am talking about; this may be his daily experience. Tragically, it is also likely that he may feel alone and misunderstood in his marriage. As a man in recovery learns how to communicate his heart to his wife, it is extremely important that you first listen to hers. This will begin to strengthen the connection between you and hopefully soften each others’ hearts. To go bounding in, expecting her to just listen to you, while you have not listened to her, may become a set-up to recreate the wound that makes you feel so alone and insignificant.

This is not an article about communication tools or how to communicate (read those too). My primary focus is to encourage you to understand and connect with your wife’s heart and not just what she intends to communicate; her heart is deeper than that. That is not to say that communication in and of itself cannot be intimate, but you can at times connect at the heart without needing the rules of healthy communication, or even a word.

Likely there are times that your wife will repeat herself. This is both an opportunity and a signal. If your wife is repeating herself, most likely she is signaling that she is not feeling “heard” or connected to you. This can be an opportunity once you recognize the signal because now you know you have probably missed it. You can clarify her intended message but her heart needs to be “held.” You may do this simply by holding her. An empathetic word or touch can go a long way. Of course there may be times when a hug is not appropriate. If she doesn’t want you to touch her, maybe she is angry with you, make extra efforts to empathize with her by listening respectfully. The expression on your face may say to her if you care or not.

Another way to “hear” your wife’s heart is to watch for it. When you first started dating, you may have made an effort to notice things she likes and dislikes. Do this again but in deeper ways. Get to know more fully what makes her happy, sad, what her dreams are, etc. When you know these things, never stop looking for them and use them to exhort and encourage her.

When she is upset after a phone call from her parents – “I know how devastating it is for you when your dad disregards you feelings. Do you want to talk about it?”

When she is screaming at you – “If I hadn’t had my mind so focused on work, I would have remembered how important it is for you that I remember the anniversary of your father’s death; I know it makes you feel important to me.”

When she won’t say a word to you – “I know when you won’t talk to me you are usually hurt. I would love to talk about it when you are ready.”

Don’t always wait for the difficult moments to engage her, engage her in the easy ones. It may seem too simple to start dating her again, but it isn’t. First, it will be difficult to date her again consistently. Second, it may not be complex, but it got you a wife the first time. Just like you hopefully do with your kids, look for connecting moments to share. Just as Mary Magdalene poured her precious perfumes over Jesus’ feet, treat her extravagantly. Extravagance is not about money, although some of you who may be scrooges will have to loosen up a bit; it is about time, affection, and serving. As you get moving, she will be on your mind more and it will be easier and more rewarding to continue. You will remember what you once knew about her and learn what you never knew.

When you rebuild the connection between your hearts, it takes time for her to be able to trust it. Many men will come to realize they never “heard” their wives before. Take heart, things may be rough in your marriage right now, but to know and connect with your wife in deeper ways than you have ever known – the best years may be yet ahead of you.

Copyright 2004 Bob Parkins, LMFT – All rights reserved

Bob Parkins is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Fair Oaks, CA. He specializes in helping couples rebuild their marriage after an affair and leads weekly men’s groups for sexual addiction. Please visit Bob’s website at bobparkinslmft.com/ bobparkinslmft.com/

Are you married? Do you have a secret? Do you keep secrets from your spouse? Do you lead a double life? Why do you not get divorced? Why does your spouse not suspect? If you have answered yes or no to any of these questions, read on.

Marriage today is complicated. Both partners need to be employed to make ends meet. This causes stress on the family unit. Children still need their parents love, attention and most of all need to feel special and secure.

When you are in a long term marriage and you feel your life is on track – why rock the boat? Do you really look for reasons to make yourself unhappy? As long as life runs smoothly on a day to day basis, you and the children are happy – what could happen?

When a spouse becomes ill, is in an accident or dies now is the time the blinders can come off. You really begin to know your partner. When you start going through their clothes and personal papers the life they have lived will start to unravel. Nobody can keep a family secret forever.

They could have been:

(1) Gay

(2) Drugs

(3) Alcohol

(4) Gambler

(5) Affair

(6) Sex Maniac

(7) Other

Your spouse could even have a second family somewhere in the world and you never knew about it. Not everybody’s marriage needs to have secrets and fantasies but keep your eyes and ears open for any sign of deception. Rock the boat. Ask questions before it is too late.

Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read other articles on various subjects.

Copyright Linda E. Meckler 2007

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In the world of business there is an old adage saying that location is everything. That may be true, but your wedding is not all about business. It’s about making a memory and celebrating the lifelong commitment of two people to one another. So unless you are one who has to go wherever people go in your area to be seen, consider these five factors as you choose your wedding location.

First a note to those who do feel a need to have their wedding celebration at the hottest wedding location in town: Plan ahead. Wedding locations like those fill up early, and I mean really early. In my corner of the country I’m told that the top wedding locations fill their prime wedding dates upwards of eighteen months ahead! And unless your family has a lot of money, you might want to start saving your pennies now. Those most prestigious wedding locations are not cheap, commanding a price that is in direct relation to their level of prestige.

For the rest of us choosing a wedding location might seem simple, and it is, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t important considerations to be weighed prior to putting deposit money on the line:

First, talk with your spouse to be.

That’s right, the first thing you need to do when choosing a wedding location is to talk to your future spouse.

“Why? He doesn’t care about that stuff! As a matter of fact he’s practiced in his disinterest, so why should I bother?”

Exactly.

“What?”

Exactly. In my experience boys have been told all of their lives that the wedding celebration is for the bride, that he doesn’t get a say. As a result guys tend to take a practiced disinterest in wedding preparations. It makes having no say in the event easier to deal with. The problem is that this is a day that you want to be able to look back on as a couple with fond memories. To do that you need to talk to him and convince him that you really do care about designing a wedding that fits both of you and that starts with the wedding location. It might take some time for you to convince him that you are serious and not just being polite, but it could go a long way toward opening up the communication lines between the two of you and that is worth it’s weight in gold even if it doesn’t end up affecting your wedding plans.

Second, consider the needs of the support people who will be doing the work that goes into creating your special day. That includes Aunt Gladys who volunteered to decorate the reception hall. Make sure you arrange to gain access to the reception hall with plenty of time for her complete her decorations without killing Uncle George in the process.

Likewise, consider the needs of the professionals who provide your photography, set up the cake, or flowers. Each business has its own realities that make it difficult, if not impossible to provide you the service that you’re paying for if the schedule that you arrange with the managers of the wedding location doesn’t allow enough time.

A good practice is to make a quick survey of wedding professionals that you are considering using about the time constraints they anticipate around your particular wedding date before you book your wedding location. Most professionals will appreciate the effort and be more likely to do what they can to accommodate your constraints when you get to their stage in your wedding planning.

Thirdly, consider the type of wedding location that best reflects the wedding celebration you and your spouse want. For people who are active members of a local community of faith this might be as simple as a trip down to your place of worship. For outdoor enthusiasts, a park or ranch might be a more appropriate wedding location. For those that want to celebrate into the wee hours of the morning, a hotel ballroom might be appropriate for the reception, if not for the wedding location itself.

For more wedding location options try contacting your local tourism board. They can provide you with a list of wedding locations and reception facilities in your area. Likewise an internet search might provide some ideas for wedding locations that you hadn’t thought of or weren’t aware of, as would a local wedding coordinator.

Fourth, consider the calendar when booking the wedding location. This sounds obvious, but it has deeper implications than merely finding a date that works for everyone in the party. The calendar dictates what kind of flowers will grace your wedding celebration (unless you are rich enough to import flowers from the other side of the globe), but it can also save you or cost you a lot of money. If you plan a wedding in a church or other public building during the Christmas season, for example, you might not have to worry about decorating. Just remember that this can backfire on you too because you won’t be in control of the decorations.

Obviously, there are times of the year when weddings are common and during those times you can expect to pay a premium for all of the services. This includes everything from the wedding location itself to the flowers, cake, food, and photography. But more than that, did you know that you can save a significant amount of money by scheduling your wedding on a Friday or a Sunday? You can, and the reason is simply because those are not the times that people traditionally demand so it is entirely possible that you will be able to get a better price on everything if you schedule your wedding celebration on a day and time other than Saturday afternoon.

Another aspect of the calendar to consider is major events in your town. If you book your wedding on the same weekend that the national square dancing association is having their convention in your city (or rodeo weekend, or, or…) you might find it difficult, if not impossible to get hotel rooms for any guests traveling in from out of town.

Finally, consider the restrictions that each wedding location places on your wedding celebration either intentionally or by default. A park, for example, could be a great wedding location but it might not provide enough power to allow a band or DJ to set up. Churches, likewise, might have restrictions on what kind of music you can play (to be fair, we have to recognize that many businesses are placing restrictions on the playing of religious music as well), your dress, or whether or not you can have a dance as a part of the celebration. Furthermore, many hotels require that you use their staff and catering services as a part of the agreement (this is convenient but you can often do better both in quality and price by going with an outside vendor).

Bottom line; consider the details of whatever wedding location you settle on. It is most likely that it will shape the rest of your day in some way. Be sure that the effect it has on your wedding celebration fits with the wedding memories that you are trying to build.

Jeanette Shinn is the co-owner of Your Exciting Wedding Favors ExcitingWeddingFavors.com ExcitingWeddingFavors.com a website dedicated to helping brides realize their wedding day dreams with tons of tips, ideas, and the latest wedding news stories from across the country, as well as offering wedding favors, and accessories to enhance the entire wedding experience. Jeanette is also the founder and edible design artist behind Layer By Layer, frostingonthecake.com frostingonthecake.com, a special order bakery serving weddings and other special occasion needs of the Portland, Oregon metropolitan area.

Traditional invitations, at least in America and most of Europe, have always been white or ivory paper printed with black ink, and always engraved or embossed. (You should see an expensive Indian invitation, though – they’re delivered in boxes and include some remarkable things!)

Brides often still want the elegance and formality of the traditional invitation, but many others want something a little, or a lot, different.

Remember, the invitation is the first thing the guest sees for the wedding. It sets the tone of your big day, and gives the guest a clue as to whether the wedding is formal, semiformal, or casual.

1. Anatomy Of A Wedding Invitation

Wedding invitations traditionally include:

- The outer envelope or mailing envelope
- Invitation
- Reception card
- RSVP card for invitation and reception
- An inner envelope to mail back the RSVP card
- Map, driving directions, and important phone numbers; also information on where to stay while in town for the wedding.

Some more elaborate invitations also include an engraved card and a second inner envelope to hold the invitation – bringing the envelope total to three. Do you need all this? It’s up to you. In a very casual small wedding, just an email can be sufficient; in the aforementioned Indian invitation, a hard wood box contained all the above material in brilliant red in a cloth-lined pocket, along with photos of the bride and groom under rice paper, stationery, and even a pen! To cap it off, when you opened the box by untying a red ribbon, it played Indian wedding music.

2. Wedding Invitation Types

There are several types or styles of wedding invitation you can send your guests…

- Engraved or embossed: This type of wedding invitation involves stamping the card in a mold to leave an indentation or imprint. Engraved invitations take the longest to prepare; six weeks or so should be allowed after you approve the design and content. They are required for the most formal weddings.

- Thermographed: These wedding invitations are printed with the same process used to create raised lettering on business cards. These are somewhat less formal than engraved, yet still elegant. You can print in colors besides black.

- Calligraphed: These handwritten wedding invitations look old fashioned and elegant, but also take quite a while. You should never try to do this if you’ve never done calligraphy; it takes a special flair, and the ink smears easily.

- Hand Colored or Personalized: Making your own wedding invitations is a new trend, adding a personal touch to your special day. For my brother’s wedding, I helped him print out rose-based invitations that opened like double doors in the middle; the doors were tied with a ribbon matching his wedding colors and the whole card was delicately edged with shimmering gold paint, like old-fashioned books. Creativity and your personality will dictate how your personalized cards look.

- Boxed set wedding invitations: These pre-prepared invitations can have personalized messages printed on them by inkjet or laser printer; with the proper equipment, you can even print in metallic leaf with a laser printer. These sets are fast, easy to use, and can be a perfect choice.

3. Addressing Wedding Invitation Envelopes

It’s not considered proper to use labels on your envelopes, but you do have a choice between the cramping of hand-lettering envelopes yourself, the expense of hiring a professional calligrapher to do it for you, or using calligraphic fonts on your computer to print all the addresses for you.

The most critical thing, though, is having all the correct information. The most beautiful wedding invitation in the world is worthless if it goes astray

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The concept of a partner wanting to change you is more common than it may seem. A lot of people get in relationships where they spend a great deal of time trying to change their partners. In my opinion this strategy is not very useful, and generally leads to emotional pain in the end. Why is this? Because each person has their own values which they hold dear to themselves. This is true no matter what gender, race, or age they are.

Everyone has something that they feel is very important, and there are also things that they don’t find to be that important. The things which a person feels are important could be listed in a hierarchal structure. At the top are the things that matter the most, and as you make your way down, the things become less important. This is an important concept to understand, because it defines how an individual will view the world around them. They will interpret things in a certain way, and they will react to what they feel is the right result. So, when you go on a date with a person, you must accept them the way they are.

Trying to change them will make things difficult for the both of you. If their values are in direct conflict with your own, there are only two options left on the table. The first option is to reach what is called a compromise. Agree on what you are willing to give up for the mutual benefit of the relationship, and expect your partner to do the same. The next option is to simply go your separate ways. This will be better in the end, because it won’t do you much good to continue in a relationship that you will be unhappy in. Never assume that a person will like your values, and don’t try to force them to like them.

Sometimes, you must accept the fact that some things are just not meant to be. A lack of compatibility is one of the leading causes of relationship failure today. You must be compatible with the person you are dating if you wish to find success. Therefore, don’t allow anyone to change who you are, and don’t try to change someone you are dating. It will only lead to conflict and pain.

Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. He graduated Magna Cum Laude in May 2006. He is currently the Chief Executive Officer of PlanJam — a new interactive planning website for planjam.com/weblog dating advice.

It’s a known fact that men and women are different. No one has put it more eloquently as John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. He has taught us so much about how each sex ticks emotionally and we have really benefited from his insights.

What we haven’t yet embraced is our similarities, like our feelings as loving, giving and sometimes fearful, scared and lonely human beings. Behind the Venus and Mars metaphor, how really different are we when it comes to love? On the surface we face the same love-dilemmas, we just process them differently. So if that is the case, what can we do as women to improve the relationships we have now and create loving and lasting relationships in the future?

Here’s the thing, we know we are emotional creatures. Our emotions are so powerful that they can develop or destroy relationships at the drop of a tear. But, and it’s a big but…we can change this so that our emotions no longer hold us to relationship ransom. How? Well funnily enough it’s all about love. Love is the answer, remember?!

Love and your relationships should adhere to one simple rule and that is, if you want to have great and lasting relationships with anyone (and this includes family and friends), you have to love yourself first.

Go back and read that paragraph again.

It is the truth and we all secretly know this but we still look outside ourselves for real love. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying romantic relationships cannot be filled with earth-shattering love. I am saying that without self-love these relationships cannot and will not last.

This is how men and women are very alike. We both require a reasonable amount of self-love in order to fully enjoy any type of worthy relationship (please note the use of the word ‘worthy’). As women from a different planet, we lack the necessary anti-bodies for that well-known disease ‘low self-esteem.’ OK, plenty of men suffer from it too, heck who doesn’t? But because we are more emotional we tend to look to our relationships to make us feel better. They soon become bad-tasting dishes made from our low self-esteem mixed with the subsequent unworthy relationships. It can go and on like this forever if we don’t stop the cycle with the one simple rule…love yourself first.

If loving ourselves first is the answer to all our relationship issues, how do we achieve that? It is not as difficult as you may think. In fact I have broken it down for you into the two following exercises:

1. The ‘I Forgive Me’ Exercise

2. The ‘If Only’ Exercise

The ‘I Forgive Me’ Exercise

Forgiving yourself for whatever you may have said, done or thought in the past is the first step towards loving yourself. Freeing yourself from past mistakes, or what I call ‘learning opportunities,’ allows you to make a fresh start with a clear conscious. Take time to go through this exercise thoroughly. Go back into your past and dig out all the things you have never forgiven yourself for. Fill in the blanks:

I forgive myself for thinking that……………………

I forgive myself for believing that…………………..

I forgive myself for saying that………………………

I forgive myself for doing…………………………….

I forgive myself for being…………………………….

I forgive myself for having……………………………

I forgive myself for not thinking that……………………

I forgive myself for not believing that…………………..

I forgive myself for not saying………………………

I forgive myself for not doing…………………………….

I forgive myself for not being…………………………….

I forgive myself for not having……………………………

Always forgive yourself. It leaves you open for developing into a more loving person. You can only truly love yourself when you have no bad feelings about yourself. Forgiveness clears the way for you to be happy. Forgiveness, like most things in life, is a choice. Choose to forgive and see how different your outlook on life becomes. Actively forgive all the time. Do not pre-condition forgiveness, just forgive because you can. It is self-healing and an act of self-love.

If you have complete the ‘I Forgive Me’ exercise you have given yourself a gift of freedom. Sounds overly dramatic butin realty by forgiving yourself you open up new opportunities and free yourself from past mistakes or unhappy times. I urge you to go back to this exercise from time to time to see if there are any other issues you want to forgive yourself for. Practice forgiveness, master forgiveness…it is one of the most powerful things you can do and enables you to love yourself more readily.

I want you to get the most out of this article and so I have another important exercise for you. Read the following introduction and then complete the exercise as honestly and as completely as you can.

Unconditional love is the greatest gift there is. To some it may seem unreachable and so I want to help you understand two things: 1. That it IS obtainable. 2. That I can show you how to overcome the obstacles to it.

The irony is that we put obstacles to unconditional love in our way. We actually stop ourselves from loving ourselves unconditionally! It’s no one else’s fault but ours. So here’s the thing, if you could clear away all those barriers to love, would you?
Some barriers are bigger than others, but most of them boil down to one thing, self-loathing. This is a very strange emotion because it too can come in different sizes. Let me explain; as women we often put conditions to loving ourselves, these are sometimes expressed as our ‘if only’ phrase. For example, look at the following list and be honest, do any of these resonate with you?

If only I were….

taller, smarter, prettier, shorter, funnier, more confident, thinner, bigger-breasted,less like me, stronger, quieter,louder,
more like her…

…then I would accept and love myself more!

There should be no barriers at all to loving yourself. Women need to understand that they are perfect as they are. Enjoy being yourself, stop worrying about your looks, age, being single, being divorced or being right. We are all perfect despite our flaws! Embrace it and relax!

Master self-acceptance and self-love, make it a big part of your journey in life. Forget struggling – look for support and guidance whenever you feel you need it, but always be moving towards love.

Alexandra Watson has helped countless women create happy and fulfilling lives through her happiness system. She has developed a fool-proof, easy-to-follow seven step system to happiness that any woman can use and see results fast. John Gray, author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus calls Alexandra’s book The Happiness System for Women ‘a vibrant and exciting journey to the centre of your soul’. Alexandra has featured internationally on TV, radio and in many publications. She can be contacted by email on: mailto:HappinessAuthor@aol.com HappinessAuthor@aol.com or visit her website at AlexandraWatson.com AlexandraWatson.com

Our introduction to this topic will include the basics, which will be followed by a more in depth look at this topic.

If you think that you will be finale your matrimony in the near impending and you are hesitant what the impending will possess for you, you may want to commence pleasing the right precautions now. You have to make indeed that you are protecting your pecuniary refuge for later.

Decrease uncrucial expenses as presently as you can. greet with your husband and allow to cancel utilities and other bills. You will doubtless requisite to have money later on and this is a way to conserve money. plug off your special chattels that you do not requisite or want anymore. You can do this now to evade behind it later on.

Cancel all of your jointly owned acclaim cards. You both should allow to cancel the cards and get detach ones. You requisite to cancel the cards because the husband can arraign up all kinds of different arraign on the cards and you will get caught paying them back. Canceling the cards now can conserve you money that you will requisite to have later on.

During the second part, we must switch to a more serious side to fully communicate the subject matter in a way for all to understand.

You may want to detach the jointly owned stack accounts. If you have stack accounts together, you may want to split the money first. If not, your husband may choose to go and take attention of the money on their own and give you with nothing. If you have outstanding bills for the home, explicate this to the husband so that the arrangements can be made to pay for them. If you do open up a different stack account, do it at another stack. Do not defer with the same crowd.

rest contributing to mutual accounts like 401K and allowance devices. telltale your place of employment commonly does this. Make the crucial arrangements so that your money is not being added to this account. You have to do this pending you find out what will occur to those accounts and who will profit from them.

Keep your job or try and find one. You have to make indeed that you are protecting manually and able to heave your family. If you are not receiving any returns from your husband, you will have to do something to backing your monthly requisites. You may want to ask your ‘presently to be ex’ if they can help you pecuniarly pending the divorce proceedings are over. This is only recommended if you are finale the divorce in a good way. If you are fighting over everything and not receiving along, you requisite to exchange your attorney and have them ask for you.

Find out more by reading our other articles on this topic and other subjects we have written related to it.

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All of you guys out there might be wondering exactly what you need to do to get a date with that hot girl you met at the bar yesterday or that woman you talked to in your class last week. This may seem like a difficult task, but it doesn’t have to be. If you are one of the many men who want to learn how to win a girl’s heart, you should read our tips for ways to win a girl over.

Most importantly, if you want to learn how to win a girls’ heart, you need to demonstrate that you are a "prize" worth fighting for. You may be thinking to yourself "What are you talking about? Everyone knows that women are always considered the catch, and men are supposed to chase them." Well, smart men know the exact opposite is true. You need to turn the woman’s mindset around and have her thinking that she needs to pursue you. You have to convince her that you are one that she definitely doesn’t want to let get away, just like men have traditionally done for years with women.

For guys learning how to win a girl’s heart, you can demonstrate higher value to a woman in many ways. One of the first methods is to show her that you are not desperate and that you don’t "need" to date her or win her approval. She will most likely be caught off guard at first because this is not a typical male response. Most women are used to guys doing everything in their power to win over a woman. By taking a figurative step back, you will be showing her that you are not needy.

A surefire way of winning a woman over is to build a rapport with her. You need to start by making her feel comfortable with you. Choose topics of interest to her and make sure you have her full attention. Once a comfort zone has been established, you can work on building attraction. Be playful and tease her a little, but don’t ever appear that you are actually trying to win her over. Smart men realize that by drawing her closer to you and then figuratively pulling away will just increase the attraction between you. If you don’t believe me, just think of how a magnet works; attraction is created when unlike poles meet, whereas like poles just end up being repelled.

If you want to learn how to win a girl’s heart, you need to follow some simple steps. Convince the woman that you are the "prize" by demonstrating your higher value; don’t appear too needy. You also need to establish a comfort zone before you start to build the attraction between the two of you. If you do these things consistently, her heart will belong to you before you know it.

Derek Rake is the author of the highly popular The Seducer’s Vault Report, a directory of free ebooks, mp3s and videos on dating and seduction on the Internet. Sign up at TheSeducersVault.com TheSeducersVault.com to receive the report for free.

Some dating manners

When it is time to meet in the real life it usually feels a little nervous. But when people get prepared everything usually gets a little easier. The following articles I am going to publish here are some thing I believe people should have in mind when they are taking the next step in Internet Dating. Meet in real life that is.

Smiles can take you far!

Seek eye contact. You just Can’t say this to often. Then be brave enough to keep up the eye contact a few extra seconds so the other person can get a confirmation that you where looking at him/her and didn’t just took a look around. When you eventually have let down the eye contact you really should try to pick it up again a few seconds later to show the other person that you are looking for a serious flirt. This is where the smile comes in hand. If the other person that you are now flirting with is looking at you to and if you are not smiling you are not very wise. A smile in this situation is probably better then buying her ten drinks in the bar

Next step is probably the most critical and daring. It is to be brave enough to take the first step. Usually it’s enough to just say Hi to get a nice conversation started. But my advice is to be on the safe side. Prepare yourself with 2-3 questions or comment and maybe finishing comment if the situation should make you feel uncomfortable so you can excuse yourself and walk away, maybe to come back later to go for it again.

Ted Ljungqvist
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My name is Ted Ljungqvist and I am a resident of Sweden. I’m going to write and publish some articles about dating. Hope you like my work and send me some comments.

If you thought you had your work cut out for you for your twenty-eighth anniversary, wait until you see what your anniversary gift idea is for number 29. It just happens to be a rehash of anniversary number 17. So now you have to not only think of something different, but you also better remember what you got 12 years ago or you may just end up getting the same thing all over again. If you’re breaking out into a cold sweat thinking about this dilemma, don’t worry. We have just the thing to make this anniversary a sure fire hit.

First of all, let’s get out of the way just what it is that you’re going to be getting this year. It’s furniture. That’s right, the same thing you got 12 years ago. Can’t remember what you got? Not a problem. Most people when they buy furniture immediately think of the inside of the home. Very few people think of the outside of the home. Are the wheels starting to turn? They should. Here’s your chance to get that sun deck or patio furniture that you’ve always wanted.

Certainly, by this time, after 29 years of marriage, you’ve got your own home and that backyard is probably as bare as the day you moved in. Well, it’s time to spruce it up a bit. Fortunately, there are more kinds of outdoor furniture than you can imagine.

For starters, how about a brand new dining set for the yard? This is great for those hot summer cookouts. They come in a variety of shapes, sizes and colors, not to mention a number of different finishes. You can get them in wood, metal or just about any kind of material. Some places even make these made to order. Sure, you’re going to pay a little extra for a custom set, but after 29 years, what’s money?

How about a nice new bench for your wife and you to sit on out there on the back porch? These come in a variety of woods and styles. You can get yourself a half rib bench or even a backless one if you think you can make do without the support. If you want to be really fancy, you can get one of those golf park benches. You can pick up a really nice one for about $250.

Maybe you’d like a nice garden bench set. These usually come with one long bench, two chairs and a table. They’re all made of wood and very sturdy. Sets range from about $300 to $800 depending on the number of pieces in the set and the kind of wood that the set is made out of.

Of course, if you’re on a tight budget, you can just get a couple of his and her lawn chairs. These come in a ton of styles and can be picked up relatively cheaply for around $150.

For whatever your budget or taste in furniture is, there is no reason that you can’t think of a special anniversary gift for this day that’s only one year away from 30 years of wedding bliss together.

Boy, how time flies.

Michael Russell

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