What do you think the newest wedding favors are? There are tons of great ideas out there and lots of hot products for wedding favors. In fact there are so many different wedding favor products that it can quickly become overwhelming for the uninitiated. Everyone claims that they have the newest wedding favors and hot items but is it true? Below you will find some of the hottest trends and newest ideas in wedding favors. Yet this will not point the hottest wedding favor this year because that is somewhat a matter of opinion it will instead give you some things that are becoming popular and are new ideas for wedding favors.

You can easily incorporate many of these ideas into your own wedding favors and who knows maybe you will have the next hottest wedding favor out there.

Unusual

One trend that we definitely see is wedding favors that are tending towards the unusual. This just means that the old classic wedding favor ideas have gone out the door and individual are not looking for something unusually and unique about their wedding favor. Things that will help it stick out and be remembered.

Exotic

Another huge trend in wedding favors is going exotic. People love to have their own unique and never before seen wedding favors and ideas. This pushes the limits of everyone to be more creative and think up of more great products. Anyway one way that many couples are making their wedding favor stand out is by finding things from exotic places. For example a small potted bamboo sprig from China is a popular item right now that is pretty exotic. Anything that is ethnic and from a foreign country and different is becoming popular.

Elegant

Another trend in wedding favors is to a movement away from the big ordinary wedding favors towards things that are smaller and more elegant. So instead of giving a big 5 pound box of See’s Candies people are opting to go with exotic chocolate truffles. Five or Six of these wonderfully handmade chocolate truffles makes a great and very popular wedding favor.

Personalized

The biggest trend in wedding favors right now and in fact everywhere is to personalize or customize things. This means instead of having a wedding favor that is store bought and you are stuck with people are searching online and finding companies that will help them personalize or customize their wedding favors. Adding these little personal touches like the name, location and date of the event or including a picture of the couple to be married. Some people are even adding in the name of the guest to make it very personalized. This is a very nice gesture and one that your guests will love. Instead of taking your favors home and tossing them on the couch they will leave their wedding favor out on display and enjoy it everyday.

So overall by personalizing, thinking small, and going exotic you can easily tap into the newest wedding favors and the hottest trends in the market. Using a computer online to do some research before hand is also a great idea.

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Print it out and sit down with your fiance. Check off the boxes that meet your priorities. Give it to your baker about 3-6 months before the big day. Not only will the list get you excited and inspired, but it will provide your baker with the “ingredients” for perfection.

THE STYLE OF YOUR WEDDING CAKE
When you think of the perfect wedding cake, what descriptive words come to mind? Choose the word(s) that best describe the wedding cake you’d most like to create:

[ ] Contemporary
[ ] Dramatic
[ ] Elaborate
[ ] Ceremonial
[ ] Round
[ ] Simple
[ ] Square
[ ] Traditional
[ ] Unique

THE SHAPE AND STRUCTURE OF YOUR WEDDING CAKE
Given your cake’s style, which shape will represent it best? (Your cake designer can help you decide.)

[ ] Circular
[ ] Hexagonal
[ ] Octagonal
[ ] Rectangular
[ ] Sheet cake
[ ] Square
[ ] Tiered
[ ] Stacked

WHAT IS THE PRIMARY USE OF YOUR WEDDING CAKE
The use? To eat! But of course. That’s the main objective. But your cake designer can assist you in putting your finances to use in the most efficient way. How flashy do you want your cake to be? How can you cut costs? Answer your own question, by ‘checking off’ your priority:

[ ] For show
[ ] A delicious dessert
[ ] Both

FLAVORS AND FILLINGS OF YOUR WEDDING CAKE
It’s YOUR Wedding. Don’t hold back, indulge!

[ ] Angel food
[ ] Berries and whipped cream
[ ] Carrot (spice)
[ ] Chocolate
[ ] Golden
[ ] Lemon
[ ] Liqueurs
[ ] Mocha
[ ] Mousse
[ ] Orange
[ ] Raspberry
[ ] Truffle
[ ] White chocolate

THE COLOR OF YOUR WEDDING CAKE
Are you a traditional wedding couple? If so, you may opt to stick with colors that accent your decorative color scheme, wedding attire, and bouquet.

[ ] Pale Blue
[ ] Green (pale)
[ ] Lavender
[ ] Peach
[ ] Pink
[ ] White
[ ] Yellow
[ ] Chocolate Brown
[ ] Beige

THE WEDDING CAKE DECOR
What do you wish to add to your cake’s appearance? Dress your cake as pretty as you can.

[ ] Chocolate shavings
[ ] Fresh flowers
[ ] Strawberries (Make sure none of your guests are allergic)
[ ] Gold or silver leaf
[ ] Pearls
[ ] Sugar blooms
[ ] Toppers

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Traditionally, the father of the bride speech is the first speech that takes place at a wedding. Why? Because traditionally, it’s the brides parents who are paying for the wedding! But nowadays, this isn’t always the case.

But it’s still considered polite for the father of the bride to make the first speech at a wedding.

So if you’re going to be giving a father of the bride speech, here’s how it works:

First, the Master of Ceremonies (MC for short) will ask you (the father of the bride) to speak. And then it will be time to deliver your speech.

So what kind of things should you say in your speech?

Well first of all, you will probably want to thank all the guests for coming, all the people who have contributed, and you may like to make an extra thank you to the people who have had to travel long way to be there.

Traditionally after this you will talk about your daughter and what she means to you. You’ll also share your thoughts about handing her over to her partner to be cared for.

Here’s a few tips for what you could talk about in your father of the bride speech:

Firstly, be honest and open when you talk about how you feel about your daughter. Take some time to plan what you’re going to talk about. You can talk about memories, and about her life. One of the best ways of doing this is to focus on a particular story from your daughters past.

Take some time to find the best story you’d like to tell about her. Think of something that reveals her character, or something that makes a funny story, or something that shows how much you love your daughter.

Something to remember if you choose the funny story option is to make it meaningful in some way – not just funny. Try to add some sentimentality to it. And don’t worry about being too sentimental. This is your daughters wedding day, when else is a better time to be sentimental and get away with it?

One thing you won’t want to leave out of your father if the bride speech is welcoming your new son-in-law into your family. A good way to do this is to tell a little story of when you first met your son-in-law and time you have spent with him or his family.

I hope you found this article useful. Good luck with your speech!

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Wedding preparations can be overwhelming and endless it seems. Many brides and grooms by their side have had a meltdown prior to the wedding. If you can relate, you are not alone.

Be encouraged and take heart. Fear not! The best is yet to come. It has been said that marriage is like making mashed potatoes. First, you peel the potatoes. Secondly, you place them in hot water to boil. Thirdly, you mash them all up together until they become one.

Whatever stage of life you are currently in, I’m here to tell you that you’re going to make it. Maybe you are presently being peeled by life’s circumstances and wedding preparations up to your eyeballs. Perhaps you are now boiling in hot water and undergoing some emotional stress. Relationally we are all being brought closer together and smoothing out one another’s rough edges. The process however can be like crushing grapes to make wine. Nevertheless remember how delicious and intoxicating the wine can be once the grapes are crushed.

Life and love flows in seasons and stages. There are many circular parallels between nature and life itself. Perhaps you are currently enduring the winter season of your relationship and engagement. Realize your love has not died, but rather its roots are going deep and your love’s foundation being strengthened. Commitment surpasses romantic notions and fluctuating feelings. Often love is more of a decision than a feeling.

Death and life are always occurring simultaneously. Marital love that lasts a lifetime requires that we welcome and embrace a more intense type of relational interaction as we become one. That means you both must be committed to personal growth individually and together. Therefore when some things are identified as harmful to your marriage, you need to humbly repent of them and be willing to die to them. As you die to deadly habits and refine your character, you will resurrect and breathe fresh life into your marriage. The more you die to self, the more you together as one shall love and live.

Here are three wedding preparation prayers to pray together:

“Dear Lord, please help me to be humble, self-aware, and selfless in my love toward others. As we prepare for holy matrimony, prepare my heart and establish me in your holiness. Forgive me hurtful things done and said. Please kindly cleanse and forgive me. Create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit within me. Help me to experience the love of my heavenly Father and mold me to be more like you. Holy Spirit help me to love myself and others unconditionally. Enable me to be loving, kind, peaceable, and compassionate. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.”

“Heavenly Father, the wedding details and planning is overwhelming as You know. Please have mercy on us and help us through it all. You instituted and encourage marriage in Your Word. We are endeavoring to love and obey You. As we do and plan for our wedding, please kindly empower, undergird, and uphold us. Please help us inwardly to experience a breakthrough rather than be broken down by all of the planning and preparations. Give us Your glorious and radiant Holy Spirit to embody and personify what marriage is truly all about. Fill us to overflowing with your divine love so we can be the light of the world. Thank you for giving us each other to love and brighten each other’s days. Help us to always honor and respect one another. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.”

“Lord Jesus, please impart to me your peace. Prince of peace give me a divine release and help me relinquish control. God, help me not be overwhelmed and overtaken by all of the wedding details. Please intervene and take control of that which is beyond my control. Help me to enjoy this our wedding day and not be a bridezilla. Father in heaven, give me the groom a compassionate, tender, supportive, understanding, and nurturing heart. Help us to grow together day by day through it all and remain honorable in all we say and do. Let our love be preeminent above all else. Reveal to us your love and life God, so we can live by a higher law and not be limited by the miniscule matters here below. Show yourself strong God when we are weak. We vow to give You all of the glory for every victory. In Jesus Name. Amen.”

Be encouraged my friends. You are not alone. There is nothing new under the sun. The honeymoon is ahead after the wedding and will be a most wonderful time for you to rest and rejoice in one another’s love. Ironically and truthfully planning a wedding may be one of the most stressful times your life. Nevertheless it will greatly show you much about yourself and where you need to grow and mature.

Rejoice and continually cultivate your maturing love. Wishes for love, laughter, and happily ever after!

Paul Davis is a wedding minister who officiates marriage ceremonies and vow renewals. Paul has been in ministry for over 15 years, blessing people around the world. He has traveled to over 50 countries and 6 continents having a worldwide impact.

As a relational coach, Paul’s compassion for people and passion for transformation makes him very successful. His depth, understanding, experiential wisdom, and disarming sense of humor makes Paul a personal favorite of many couples. Highly celebrated and sought after, Paul has authored several books including Breakthrough for a Broken Heart and Are You Ready for True Love?

Paul’s organization Dream-Maker Ministries is making a difference throughout the world building dreams, breaking limitations, and reviving nations. Paul’s interpersonal and unprecedented experience engineering breakthroughs for individuals and organizations is revolutionary.

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Do you wish that you had better rapport with your spouse? Are you at a loss for what to do to increase communication and emotional intimacy?

Recently, Christian Godefroy published a story titled “The Dancing Cow” in a newsletter I receive. When I read the story, I immediately thought of how the main point applies to married couples.

Here’s the story:

Michal and Kental started arguing as to which of them wrote the better music.
“My music is better,” Michal said. “My melodies bring tears to the eyes of all women.”

“No, my music is better,” Kental disagreed. “My scores are more enchanting than anything! Your music couldn’t move a cow, my poor Michal.”

“And what do you think? That your scores would make it dance?”

The dispute was in full swing when a peasant passed by, leading his cow back home from the field. The two musicians saw an opportunity to put their theories to the test.

“Hello there,” they said. “Would you mind if we played something for your cow?”

“Well, if it gives you pleasure, why not? She’s seen a lot worse in her day, I can tell you.”

Michal warmed his hands, tuned his balalaika (a stringed instrument of Russian origin) and played the most beautiful melody ever heard by a cow. But without
result – the beast ruminated without moving an ear.

Vexed, Michal passed the instrument to his compatriot, who played a lively score with the same result – no reaction from the cow.

“It’s a lost cause,” Michal cried. “Your cow does not have a musical ear.”

“Well, I don’t know about that,” the peasant replied. “If you would lend me your instrument for a moment, I could play something for her.”

Intrigued, Michal and Kental handed over the balalaika. The peasant did his best to imitate the humming of the flies and the mooing of little cows. The cow lifted her ears, started whipping her tail from side to side, and walked closer to the peasant as if to hear the music better.

The main point of the story according to Godefrey is that ”if you have trouble communicating with people, it may be that, like Michal and Kental, you are not playing the music they are used to hearing.” This is really profound wisdom!

In other words, you have to start where the other person is, using that person’s frame of reference. You can’t start where you are if the other person isn’t in the same place and doesn’t have the same background and experience. First, you have to enter the other person’s world and start with what’s familiar to him (or her) to get his attention.

In the story, perhaps in time the cow could have learned to respond to other music besides the sounds the peasant played at first. But initially, the cow showed no reaction whatsoever until the peasant played the sounds that the cow could relate to and was familiar with—the humming of flies and the mooing of little cows.

So the beginning point for getting the cow’s attention and involvement was to start making the sounds the cow was most familiar with. The cow could relate to those sounds and responded with attention and movement.

Are you wondering how this applies to building better rapport with your spouse? Here’s all you have to remember to apply the moral of the dancing cow story: To begin building better communication and rapport with your spouse, start in his (or her) world first—enter his world and start where he is right now.

Here are some suggestions:

1. Temporarily downplay your own needs and what you want from your spouse. Initiate conversations where you ask your spouse about his (or her) day, his work, and his activities, showing interest and empathy.

For example, you may say, “It must be frustrating to have a boss who changes his mind so much” or “You must have been disappointed when it rained and you couldn’t take your usual jog after work today.” See if he will open up and talk about his frustrations, disappointments, and dreams.

2. Make a concerted effort to understand your spouse’s mindset and feelings about the things that happen in her (or his) world. If she holds differing opinions, try to understand why and how they are different. Pretend you’re on a debate team and need to understand her viewpoint to be able to present it to others and to defend it.

If her tastes in music are different from yours, for example, be open to learning more about why she enjoys the music she does. Look for any common denominators between your taste and hers that you can build on.

Even if you never change your mind about your likes and dislikes, your spouse will appreciate the fact that you were motivated enough to want to understand her world better.

3. Go out of your way to show that you care about your spouse and that you appreciate him (or her). Most spouses take the partner for granted in many ways and stop expressing appreciation and saying “Thank you.”

Go out of your way to notice the large and small things that your partner does that you appreciate. Say a verbal “Thank you” or buy a special card and express your feelings in writing. Sincere appreciation can foster rapport.

4. When you’re talking to your spouse, try to match your breathing and speaking rates to his (or hers). It’s harder to build rapport when your spouse is laid-back and relaxed at the moment and you’re agitated and upset.

Without being obvious and making it look like you’re mimicking your partner, slow down and adjust your breathing rate to more closely match that of your partner’s. Align your rate of speech to match his and try to get in sync with his energy at the moment.

You might also try sitting or standing in the same position your spouse is, without making it obvious that you’re copying his behavior. In addition, you can align your facial expression and gestures with his.

Many good communicators do these things unconsciously because they help to build rapport and offer a good starting point for better communication. The key to doing this successfully is to start where your spouse is at the moment in terms of energy level and emotions.

5. Slowly encourage your partner to expand his (or her) world. For example, after listening to your spouse’s description of what happened at work, if he doesn’t ask about your day, summarize what happened in two or three short sentences before ending the conversation.

If your spouse spends every evening in front of the television set, ask her (or him) to select five minutes when the television can be turned off and you can take a “snuggle break.” Start small and build up to longer amounts of time.

Offer to give your spouse a foot, shoulder, or back massage. Really put yourself into the experience as you ease away your partner’s cares of the day with your healing touch. Let your partner know how much you enjoy being able to do this for her (or him) and see if she offers to reciprocate either then or later.

You’ll be more likely to succeed in building rapport if your partner feels that you’re sincerely interested in what happens to him (or her), that you appreciate him, that you care about him, that you value him, and that you want to spend time with him.

If what you’re doing isn’t working, remember the story of the dancing cow and change the “tune” you’re playing. Instead of trying to begin where you want things to be, start in your partner’s frame of reference and slowly move in the direction you want to eventually go.

Nancy J. Wasson, Ph.D., is co-creator of Overcome Control Conflict with Your Spouse or Partner, available at ControllingSpouse.com ControllingSpouse.com She is also co-author of Keep Your Marriage: What to Do When Your Spouse Says “I don’t love you anymore!” which is available at KeepYourMarriage.com KeepYourMarriage.com, as well as a free weekly Keep Your Marriage Internet Magazine . Dr. Wasson offers telephone and email coaching to individuals and couples who want to overcome relationship problems and create a rewarding, loving partnership.

Stay Married

Along with any tough decision comes reluctance, especially when that decision involves an actual process and might potentially involve emotional pain or anguish. Deciding whether or not to get a divorce or stay married can be a frightening time for most people, even if they know deep inside themselves that they have to actually make a decision, one way or another.

People are reluctant to embark on an ‘emotionally driven’ decision making process because they fear that it will be uncomfortable or painful for them. The irony here is obvious…if they need to make this decision, their life or a portion if it, is already uncomfortable. One thing is for certain, deciding whether to get a divorce or stay married is indeed a process.

This process, like any other, includes key elements…elements that need to be examined. The elements of this process are self-revealing and can only come from within the person making the decision. The decision making process is comprised of stages and viewpoints about those stages. Stages are smaller pieces of the overall process and the viewpoints of each of those stages are only defined by the person making the decision. If you’re trying to decide whether or not you should get a divorce or stay married, you must look at the stage of life you are currently in, and understand how you feel about it by clearly defining your viewpoint about it.

Are you completely unhappy?

Relatively unhappy?

Partially unhappy?

Do you feel that your marriage is unhealthy enough that you intend to do something about it?

Etc.

You can look back in the past and reflect on other stages of your life and examine how you felt about those stages if they contributed to your problem as you view it now. Reflecting on the past can be an effective way to identify key occurrences that may have shaped the way your viewpoint is currently. Reflecting also can help you to identify trends in behavior that may have contributed to your viewpoint. But in the end, the viewpoint and stage that matters most is the current one and that’s the one that you need to define and assess most.

It is human tendency to reflect on the past and hold onto thoughts and feelings that were once good, but doing this might keep you in a stale mate if you dwell on the past too much. You have to look at the present time and actually “decide to decide” so to speak. Once you do realize that you need to decide whether or not to get a divorce, there will be things that will creep up that will actually keep you from taking action and deciding.

Here are 5 reasons you might not be deciding to take action when it comes to deciding whether you should get a divorce or stay married:

1. You know that the severity of divorce is something not to be taken lightly so you avoid that “potential” outcome by doing nothing.

I assure you, if you realize that divorce is serious, you’re ahead of the game because it means that you will do what it takes to change your situation!

2. You haven’t decided to take action because you think you actually do want a divorce, and you think that divorce can create emotional scars that take a long time to heal.

3. You know that, whatever the outcome, you’re really not ready to face a potentially painful end result, so you avoid the situation all together.

4. You are just flat out scared to make a decision about divorce because you know that making this difficult decision will involve profound change and deep “self-examination”. And, like most of us, you want to avoid the pain and discomfort that goes with that.

5. You just don’t know where to start because you are confused due to the emotional complexities of the situation. You really don’t know how you feel.

All are these are valid points, but they are really just excuses to do nothing.

And, if you do nothing, the problem will still remain. And that problem is “indecision”.

You haven’t committed to decide. If any of these things are keeping you from making a decision about whether to stay married, you’re doing more harm to yourself than good. In fact, by doing nothing, you are only compounding your problem. You are contributing to your own unhappiness by not taking action and that is just flat out unhealthy!

The first stage to going through the process of deciding whether or not to get a divorce, is to overcome your fear of the potential outcome and embrace this ‘emotionally driven’ process. Defining your fears and identifying why you aren’t making the decision, or at least starting the decision making process about getting a divorce or staying married, is the only way you will be able to reach your ultimate goal…making a final decision to either get divorced or try to work it out.

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Cruises booked at the last minute may be stressful to plan, but are still an enjoyable vacation option. If you are planning to elope or just enjoy being spontaneous, a last minute cruise may be just the thing for you.

Last Minute Cruise Deals – Finding the Bargains
You must be flexible if you are on the lookout for last minute cruises. If you are looking for a specific itinerary or departure date, then a last minute cruise may not be right for you. On the other hand, if you are fine with not knowing where you will be sailing up to nearly the last minute, then let the search for last minute cruises begin!

Travel agents are the best resource for finding last minute cruise package deals. An agent specializing in cruises will be able to inform you of last minute discounts, offers, and cruise availability. By visiting the cruise line’s website, you can learn about exclusive special deals and last minute cruise offers. If you need to know about departure dates, itineraries, and departure points as early as possible, it is best to check back with the sites frequently in order to make arrangements as soon as the last minute cruises become available.

Keep in mind that your cabin selection will be limited when booking a last minute cruise. In addition, you will probably have less than a month to prepare for your cruise. If you are flexible, however, you will be able to have a great time on your cruise, even if you are not staying in a luxury cabin.

Benefits and Pitfalls of Last Minute Cruise Packages
Despite the monetary savings of last minute cruises, there are a number of additional benefits to this type of honeymoon cruise. First of all, it is fun, spontaneous and wild. If you are eloping, this fits in perfectly with the experience. In addition, you might embark on a journey to a location you would never have thought of visiting if not for the last minute cruise discount. This can result in an eye-opening experience as you visit countries or islands you never dreamed of seeing.

Of course, if you are someone that needs to have your honeymoon cruise well planned out in advance, a last minute cruise is probably not right for you. You most likely will not have the time to explore the shore excursion options available with the cruise, let alone to book them ahead of time. You also might get stuck in a small and cramped cabin that includes bunk beds, which is not particularly romantic for a honeymoon cruise. You also will probably be unable to add special packages, such as honeymoon cruise packages, to a last minute cruise deal.

If you have no problem with making last minute honeymoon cruise arrangements – of it the thought even excites you a little – than a last minute cruise deal is a good choice for you!

Kenneth Koch is the owner of Your Wedding Place.com, a resource for brides featuring wedding articles and tips. For more honeymoon cruise related articles, tips and ideas visit yourweddingplace.com/wedding-planning/category.php?pg=honeymoon-cruise-ideas yourweddingplace.com/wedding-planning/category.php?pg=honeymoon-cruise-ideas

It’s been months since your breakup but you’re still stuck in bed grieving over your lost love. You couldn’t eat (or stop eating), sleep or work because he’s all you could ever think of. You keep repeating your heartbreak mantra, “Why did he leave me…what did I do?” as you succumb to a series of hysterical crying fits. You’re officially a victim of a broken heart.

So how do you smart from a brush-off? Here are some tips to help you survive heartbreak hell.

1. Lose it

Moan. Sob. Let it all hang out. Rid yourself of all-consuming anger and vent every ounce of vitriol in your system. Allow yourself a good wallow. Take a pillow and pretend it was him and do everything with it the way you’d want to get back at him. Throw all his letters and photos away. Call your friends and tell them your heartaches for the 20th time. Grieve your heart out on a guy who was no better than a rotten carcass.

2. Accept what you can’t change

So, it’s over. This may be hard to swallow but the reality is it’s all over and there’s nothing you can do about it. You are left without a choice but to believe and accept it. Remember, acceptance is the key to healing.

3. Work It Out

Put your positive attitude at work and head to the gym for some 30-minute work out a day. Exercise won’t only sweep the mopey mood away but it will also make you feel and look good as it helps pump out endorphins, the body’s natural chemicals that make you feel strong and oozing with sex appeal.

4. Aromatherapy for the heart

Aromatherapy is believed to lift depression and soothe irritable nerves. If you haven’t tried it, you should try it now as it works wonders not just to your body but also to your mind and spirit. Here’s a quick recipe: Fill a 10-ounce bottle of organic vegetable oil with 9 drops of lavender oil, 15 drops of sandalwood oil, 4 drops of rose essential oil and 10 drops of warm water. Dispense 10 drops of the mixture to a warm bath and you’re ready to soak!

5. Put a front if necessary

You may still be experiencing emotional turmoil inside but if you stay confined within the four walls of your room chances are you’ll feel even more miserable. Get out and show the world that you’re not an emotional wreck. Crack a smile and flash those pearly whites. At first, you may find it awkward putting on a face but soon enough you’d become so good at it you’d be doing it for real, without even noticing it yourself.

6. Adopt a pet

Need some lovin’? Get a pet. Pets aren’t only cuddly and affectionate but are also a good diversion of your time and focus. Sure you crave human affection but unlike humans, your pet can’t talk so the chances of getting yourself hurt are slim, at least not emotionally.

7. Close the door

Don’t be a fool for love. If he keeps calling you to ask for another chance or to tell you that he has someone new but wants to stay as friends, don’t bite. You won’t only be allowing yourself to fall in love with him again but you’re also making yourself believe subconsciously that there’s something left in him for you when the truth is, there’s none. False hopes mean nothing but emotional boo-boos.

8. Get busy

Discover things you love to do that you weren’t able to explore because he didn’t approve of them when you were still together. Schedule night-outs with friends and engage in activities you haven’t done before. With so many things to occupy your mind, you’d be so busy to even think about your heartbreak.

9. Move on

An end of a relationship doesn’t mean an end of you. You don’t need a man to make you feel like a real woman. If he can’t see what’s beautiful and special about you, what kind of man is he? Not someone worth your time, it’s clear. Not someone who deserves you either.

Breakups can be very painful and tormenting. Sometimes, it even makes us feel like dying. Funny how we feel so hedonistically wonderful when we are in love then end up feeling gruesomely dreadful after a breakup. Nevertheless, it’s a risk that we all have to take. While there’s promise in loving, there are no guarantees. So live and love. Get hurt and love again. After all, there’s no joy without pain and no bliss without hell.

© 2005 Rachelle Arlin Credo. All rights reserved.

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Toasting is the strongest and most formal in Germany, Scandinavia and Eastern European countries.

In France, Italy and Spain the toast is even given German names. In Spain and Italy, “to toast” is called “brindar” and came from the German meaning “ich bring dir’s” which means “I bring it to you”. In France they say “trinquer” which is from the German word “trinken” (to drink). And just incase you are wondering where the English phrase “toast” came from, it came from Britain. It used to be an ancient custom from the Eucharistic religious events to pass a bowl or “loving cup” (a cup you share) around which had a piece of sweetened toast floating on top. The host was always the last one to drink from the cup and also required to eat the toast. This was done in honor of the guests.

A loving cup is a cup that is shared, and that is exactly what a Bridal Cup is. Bridal Cups started in Nuernberg, Germany and was a handcrafted pewter vessel in the shape of a woman with drinking cups on both ends. Both the bride and groom were able to toast their wedding and drink at the same time from the same cup. In order to bring many years of good luck to their marriage the couple drinks from this cup without spilling a single drop. Every year thereafter, on their anniversary, they continue to toast with this special cup.

The tradition started centuries ago in Nuernberg, Germany during the days when marriages were pre-arranged. The historical cup was brought to life from an angry wealthy nobleman’s challenge to a young goldsmith. If he could create such an item, he would allow the goldsmith to marry his daughter. To this day, the cup is still used for weddings and anniversary toasts and becoming more and more popular in the United States. The story is interesting and heartwarming. It most definitely adds a unique romantic touch to any wedding toast.

The story goes as follows:

Centuries ago, in old Nuernberg, the nobel mistress Kunigunde fell in love with a young and ambitious goldsmith. Although Kunigunde’s wealthy father (a powerful nobleman) did not approve of this pair, it was clear that she only wanted the goldsmith to be her husband as she refused many titled and rich suitors who asked for her hand in marriage.

Her father became so enraged that he had the young goldsmith thrown into the darkest dungeon. Not even his daughter’s bitter tears would change her father’s mind.

To her father’s dismay, imprisoning the young man did not end his daughter’s love for the goldsmith. Instead, he could only watch as his daughter grew paler and paler as a result of the separation from her true love.

The wealthy nobleman reluctantly made the following proposal: He told his daughter, “If your goldsmith can make a chalice from which two people can drink at the same time without spilling one single drop, I will free him and you shall become his bride”.

Of course he was certain nobody could perform such a task…

Inspired by love and with skillful hands, the young goldsmith created a masterpiece. He sculpted a girl with a smile as beautiful as his own true love’s. Her skirt was hollowed to serve as a cup. Her raised arms held a bucket that swivels so that it could be filled and then swung towards a second drinker.

The challenge was met. The goldsmith and the nobleman’s daughter joined hands in marriage and with the bridal cup set forth a romantic and memorable tradition as charming today as it was originally hundreds of years ago.

To this day and to many couples the chalice remains a symbol.

Love, faithfulness and good luck await the couple who drink from this cup.

Evelyn Whitaker writes articles for german-toasting-glasses.com German Toasting Glasses german-toasting-glasses.com german-toasting-glasses.com which specializes in custom german-toasting-glasses.com engraved wedding gifts from Germany.

To excel in the dating game it is important to be guided by the player and they don’t come much better than date doctor Alex Hitchens in short ‘Hitch’. So we took his word as a piece of gospel when he said that ‘With no guile and no game there is no girl’. These are few of the tips from his movie ‘Hitch’ to help you guys to see the forest through the sleaze.

Principle 1: No woman wakes up saying god I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today

No species after bacteria existed on the planet that doesn’t require admiration from the fellow species. Women are on the top of this ladder so not only they want it but also all of it. Did I say women are high on vanity chart (don’t tell your prospect this).

If she tell you that she is going through a very bad time or need personal space or Hitch personal favorite that I’m really into my career right now. What she really meant is get off me now or try harder stupid. Which one is it for you to decide?

Principle 2: 90% of what you say is ain’t coming out of your mouth.

Body language plays a major role initially so try to be better at it. For a fact 60% of all human communication is body language and 30%is your tone so basically 90% of what you say ain’t coming out of your mouth. People keep on preparing and worrying about the 10% of it while neglecting the rest 90%, which play a major role in securing the first date. Work on the 90% and let the 10% be taken care on the first date.

Principal 3: Beautiful doesn’t know what she wants until she sees it.

Well this is true for all of us but more for those busty beautifuls who until now spend all their faculties on building those curves as elegant as a F1 track. Testimony to that ask Christian Kerembu or Celine Dion. Take your pick whom do you prefer.

Principle 4: Be what you are, you have something to offer to her which no other man can.

The most common mistake that most guys commit is try to be somebody else to impress the women of their dreams. Most fail at it without guessing so try to be what you are. You cannot use what you do not have, so if you are shy then be shy.

She may not want the whole true but she does want to see the real you. She may not want to see all at once but she does want to see it. So be yourself as she said yes to you when she could have said no.

Principle 5: Give her space and maintain a vision

On first date, key is to hang back and give her plenty of space. If she lingers on a photograph move on but maintain vision. Domestic dreams on private time when you are with her be with her. Women respond when you respond to them. Therefore, when she speaks just listen to her as when your turn will come you will have better things to say than I like your mouth. Please stop imagining how she looks naked.

So get off from the couch now and try few of these tonight in the club and have time of your life.

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