If you have a sneaky suspicion that your husband may be having an affair, the gifts he gives or receives can help you confirm what you suspect. They can also provide you with tangible proof of his infidelity. Lovers delight in giving each other tokens of their affection, especially at Christmas time or on Valentine’s Day. This exchange of gifts can prove to be a cheating husband’s undoing. The wife who knows what to look for and where to look can usually find tangible proof of her husband’s affair.

Gifts Cost Money

No self-respecting man would attempt to impress his lover with a cheap token of his affection. He’ll spend whatever amount he deems necessary to buy her a decent gift. The more impressive the gift, the more money it will cost. And you can usually find evidence of his spending somewhere.

How to Find the Paper Trail

If your husband doesn’t pay cash for his lover’s gifts, he’ll pay by check or use a credit card. Whatever method he chooses, there’s a usually paper trail. Check the bank statements, if you have access to them. Have there been any suspicious withdrawals from your bank accounts? Are there any cancelled checks for large amounts made out to “cash”? Take a really close look at the time period shortly before or after Christmas or Valentine’s Day.

Closely scrutinize each of your husband’s ATM withdrawal slips. Are there any large, unexplained ATM withdrawals? Read the information on each ATM slip. Is there anything unusual about the time, place or amount of the withdrawals?

Pay close attention to his credit card bills. Especially those for the months of December, January and February when Christmas or Valentine’s charges are likely to show up. Any unusual charges made at jewelry stores, women’s specialty stores, or boutiques, florists, day spas, restaurants etc. could be evidence of gifts bought for his lover.

What about actual charge slips or store receipts? Men tend to be careless about these things. Check his wallet, his pockets, backpack, briefcase, desk or dresser drawers. If you find evidence of gift items you didn’t personally receive, that should raise a red flag in your mind. If your husband didn’t give these gifts to you, who did he give them to?

Heather’s Story:

While going through her husband’s ATM slips, Heather noticed that all but one of his ATM withdrawals were made at the same bank. The suspicious one was made from an ATM machine located in a large shopping mall, and was dated February 12th – 2 days before Valentine’s Day. Even more suspicious was the amount – which was nearly 5 times the amount of his usual withdrawals – far more than the cost of the flowers, box of chocolates and Valentine’s Day card he gave Heather.

Rita’s Story

While dressing for work, Rita’s husband casually mentioned that today he was treating his secretary to lunch at a French restaurant for “Secretary’s Day. Rita became suspicious when he came home from work 3 ½ hours later than usual. While he was watching the 11 o’clock news that night, Rita quickly searched her husband’s wallet and the pockets of the suit he wore to work that day for clues as to where he might have been. She was about to dismiss the receipt from the French restaurant when the time stamp on it caught her eye. It indicated that he had indeed eaten there — but for dinner, not for lunch. Now Rita knew why he was unreachable by phone at the office earlier that evening when she called to ask him to pick up orange juice on his way home from work.

Susan’s Story

While checking her husband’s pockets before dropping his clothes off at the cleaners, Susan found a jewelry store receipt for 2 pairs of earrings. When she asked her husband about it, he told her the receipt was for the earrings he’d given her for her birthday the previous week. Susan pointed out that the receipt was for 2 identical pairs of earrings. Caught off guard, he could not come up with an explanation for what he had done with the other pair.

Other Places to Look

Check various places in and around your home for hidden gifts — under the bed, in the back of a file cabinet or dresser drawer, on the floor at the back of the closet, or the back of a seldom-used shelf. Don’t forget to search the car too. Look underneath the seats, in the trunk, in the glove compartment and in the tire well.

If you find a hidden gift, don’t jump to conclusions unless it’s obvious the gift is not for you (too large, too small, a color or style that he knows you wouldn’t wear, or has another woman’s name attached). Wait for a reasonable period of time. Then check the hiding place again. If the gift has disappeared and it wasn’t given to you, then it’s logical to assume that he gave it to someone else. Make it your business to find out who.

Beverley’s Story

Beverley was ecstatic when she discovered a box containing a hand crafted, one of a kind gold bracelet that she’d been admiring for quite some time. But the box soon disappeared and Beverley never received the bracelet. A few weeks later, at her health club, Beverley noticed a woman wearing a bracelet identical to the one she’d seen in the box. After some discreet checking around, and finding several additional clues to corroborate her suspicions, Beverly found out that her husband and this woman were having an affair.

Laura’s Story

Laura found a gift box containing a sexy satin negligee in the trunk of her husband’s car. He tried to pass it off as a surprise gift he’d purchased for her but the gown was several sizes too small. He tried hard to convince Laura the salesclerk mistakenly put the wrong size in the box. But because Laura had already found other telltale signs of a possible affair, his excuses fell on deaf ears.

Other Telltale Signs

Warning bells should sound if your husband gives or receives any gift that’s extremely personal nature. He shouldn’t be buying clothing (especially lingerie) for any female other than you or a member of his family. Nor should he ever receive silk boxer shorts or any item of clothing other than a perhaps a tie or handkerchiefs from any woman other than yourself — unless it’s his mother or his sister. (And even then, you should check to make sure.)

Be equally suspicious if your husband gives or receives a disproportionately expensive gift to or from any woman who is supposedly a business associate or casual friend. In fact, any expensive gift your husband receives should be regarded with extreme suspicion. Especially if he claims to have purchased the item for himself, but can’t produce the receipt.

Keisha’s Story:

Keisha became suspicious when her husband Jerome started wearing an expensive-looking gold ID bracelet. It appeared on his wrist shortly after his birthday and he wore it all the time. When she asked Jerome about it, he said he bought it for himself. But upon further questioning, Jerome couldn’t recall the name of the store he’d supposedly bought the bracelet from. Keisha suggested they check the receipt, so he made a cursory search then claimed he must have thrown it away. One weekend while Jerome was painting the apartment, Keisha noticed he’d removed the ID bracelet. It didn’t take her long to find it in the top drawer of his dresser. On the underside of the bracelet was an inscription that read “ With all my love, Tanya.”

Barbara’s Story:

Barbara called Stan at workWhen Barbara and Stan’s next door neighbor Judy, moved to a new house she gave a big housewarming party. While discussing what to give Judy as a housewarming gift, Stan suggested a CD player, and volunteered to pick up the gift. The night of the party, when Judy opened the gift, the CD player turned out to be a Bose sound system. Barbara immediately became suspicious. Especially since their sound system at home was only a Sharp. This led Barbara to search for additional telltale signs. She eventually found out Stan and Judy were having an affair.

Don’t Be the Last One to Know

Lovers give each other gifts throughout the year. However you should be especially watchful around your husband’s birthday, and Christmas and Valentine’s Day. If you suspect your husband of cheating, gifts could provide the missing pieces of the infidelity puzzle. Especially if you’ve already found other telltale signs. It may be time to sit down and have a serious talk with your husband. If your marriage is in jeopardy, you don’t want to be the last to know. Find out what’s going on before it’s too late.

© 2004 Ruth Houston All rights reserved.

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If you have to turn announcements into invitations the best idea is to use announcement cards. There are such cards available for every event you can think of – from birthday and wedding announcements to baby shower announcements. There is no better way to inform all your colleagues and friends about any special event that’s coming up. This way you can get the perfect celebration.

Recently I realized that designing announcements cards is much more difficult and requires much more work that you can ever imagine. That actually happened when I was getting married and I had to leave it up to my wife for the analysis itself. She knows much more than I do about organizing things and about design also. Organizing the specifics of things she learned while being an accountant and design was a part of her education while majoring art in school. Being into both of these she is the perfect choice for the job.

Anyway we got a bit confused and baffled by the vast array of invitations and announcements. There are all kinds of cards, something for each and every taste. You can get a shining bright announcements cards with silver or gold incrustations, some tacky modern ones with smilies or silly faces on them, cartoon cards also, or the classic ones with their beautiful ornamentations. The grey and subtle corporate style announcements cards with their inevitable subdued tone were also available.

At the end we decided to design our own unique announcements cards and it turned out to be easier than we thought it would be. First of all there are lots of places where you can get your designs printed out in the exact way that you want them to be displayed. At first it may seem a bit too expensive but if you check and compare the prices it is actually cheaper to do it this way instead of buying pre-designed cards from a professional designer.

So my wife included a kind of stylized wood-block print of a picture we had from our engagement. We were embracing each other on it and it was actually looking very nice on the textured paper she chose for the announcements cards. All that made them look very stylish and classy.

Still we had a problem though. We had to invite people to our wedding and of course we had to figure out and decide how many people we are going to have there. In case you are married you already know what I mean. At the end we decided to have a moderate 200-people wedding.

Eventually we realized that it wasn’t probably the best decision as we are both very social people and have a lot more friends than those 200 we invited. Unfortunately some of them took it as an insult not being invited to our wedding along with the others. However, at the end we had our invitational announcements cards ready and sent out.

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Many of us are shy talking to the opposite sex. That takes us no where. We are scared of talking to any person of opposite sex. Something happens that stops us. Why do we get scared? We are not scared of talking to persons of our own sex. We are confident about ourselves. We have enough self-esteem, and we value ourselves as desirable. Then why? It is as if there is a switch in the mind that is switched off and says no when it comes to talking with persons of opposite sex.

What can be done about this? This problem has to do with our mind. Our mind tells us that we are not worthy. We may be rejected. We may be laughed at. Our mind warns us to defend ourselves from this and says no – you are not to approach anyone from the opposite sex. This is the mechanism of mind. Fight or flight. In this case, we resort to flight. But with this running away, we will never get a desirable partner. We will always remain alone and only wistfully watch other couples going around. So what should we do?

The very first step in such cases is to evaluate our self and compare ourselves with our friends. Are we as smart as they are? Are we as intelligent as they are? Are we as confident as they are? Are we as presentable as they are? Is our personality equally good? On most of these issues you may find that you are scoring more points than your friends. So one thing is established. You are a desirable person. If your friends are not shy, why are you? Gather the strength and approach persons of opposite sex with confidence. Don’t worry about rejections. There can be many reasons for that. Approach smartly and you will surely get some one good to date. Good Luck.

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Most of the girls you know, for sure, have dreamt of becoming brides once when they were little girls. It is normal.

Weddings have always been depicted through the television shows, movies and novels as a great event that hints of a happy-ever-after ending to a complicated story.

What exactly are weddings?

In the Bible, in the Old Testament, weddings have been mentioned in several occasions. Usually, weddings are related to festivities and celebrations.

Throughout the written history of mankind, weddings are always referred to as sacred and solemn occasions. Weddings symbolize or takes the form of rituals or rites that make a woman a legal and bonafide ownership or possession of a man—her husband.

The symbolic union between a man and a woman becomes it. Weddings are rites that make a couple ‘a couple’ who are tasked to enjoy each other’s intimacy and have off springs.

Weddings have been viewed that way for centuries. All cultures across the globe, in different eras of mankind, have their own traditions and norms for weddings.

Thus, Jews have weddings, Hebrews also have, and so are Muslims. The idea of weddings are related to ancient perspective of territories. A woman, or wife, then, is considered a ‘territory’ of her husband. No other man should attempt to touch or lay with the territory.

Modern view

Weddings have evolved through time. Westernization have played a significant contribution to the evolution of weddings, from simple, solemn and symbolic rites in the past, to complicated, festive and almost paganistic wedding practices currently practiced.

Weddings are important social gathering in today’s modern society that culture has set is own ethics to be practiced during such occasions—the one we now call wedding etiquettes.

Wedding etiquettes are guides that dictate how people involved in weddings should act, from the bride and groom, to the entourage, to the numerous guests.

Wedding preparations should also adhere to several wedding etiquettes. From the short listing of guests to the preparation of wedding invitations. Everything is covered by wedding etiquettes.

For example, did you know that it would be a bad gesture if the soon-to-be-wed couple would not distribute wedding invites, but instead circulate e-mails or word of mouths?

According to meticulous wedding etiquettes, the practice would leave a bad taste to the mouth, and therefore should be avoided. It would suggest that guests are not treated significantly by the hosts or the couple.

Some other ethical wedding practices

Did you know that it would be impolite or unethical if the couple would not send out thank you notes or card to the guests after the wedding? Moreover, the couple is also is more expected to send out thank you notes to guests who showed up with gifts during the wedding.

The simple gesture would mean that the couple appreciated everyone’s presence in the wonderful moment. Thank you notes for gifts also mean that the couple not only appreciated the gift, but also the one who gave it, for the effort and sincere thoughtfulness.

Weddings are special occasions

They indeed are. That is why the couple’s families and the guests should share the pleasure in this wonderful and blissful moment. The union is very symbolic and interesting.

Focusing on wedding etiquettes will be more interesting. You will find that a lot of civil beliefs and practices are imbibed and integrated into the simple, yet happy occasion.

Khieng ‘Ken‘ Chho – wedding.onew3b.net Wedding

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