You see a man or a woman who strikes your fancy but you aren’t sure how to approach him / her or get to the “first down.” This can be a very intimidating and awkward moment, but you can succeed if you are sincere and confident (but not cocky!).

Step 1. Occasionally glance over at him / her and try to catch his / her eye. Tilt your head a bit to the side when you look at him / her. This signals interest to him / her on a subconscious level.

Step 2. Once you have actually made eye-to-eye contact, hold the gaze for a moment, tip your head again slightly to one side and smile with sincerity. But, don’t give him / her a “salesman” smile– the kind that says you are trying to sell something to him / her.

Step 3. If he / she smiles back, you may be receiving the cue to go over to him / her. At this point, keep the flirting going for about five minutes to help you ascertain if he / she is alone or with a girlfriend / boyfriend.

Step 4. If he / she continue to smile each time your eyes meet, get up and walk over to him / her. He / she has signaled at this point that he /she is interested in talking to you, so feel confident that he / she won’t refuse to at least speak with you at this point.

Step 5. When you arrive at his / her table or seat, introduce yourself and ask for his / her name.

Step 6. Politely ask if you may sit with him / her and chat for awhile.

Step 7. Start a conversation, asking questions about his / her day and other non-personal information. If you find it hard to think of things to say, get into the habit of reading the newspaper and brushing up on current events before you go out. Also, think about what you discuss with your closest and dearest friend when you are talking about life in general. Apply the same method when speaking with him / her as you would with your closest friend (avoiding cars and sex as the topic of choice). It will bring more ease to your conversation.

If you still feel uncomfortable, practice before you go out next time in front of the mirror, acting as if the reflection were a man or a woman with whom you wanted to speak. Write a script and go over it several times to learn how to speak. But, DO NOT use this script when you are talking to him / her or you will sound as if you are acting or trying to sell him / her something. This is just a practice tool to make you feel better equipped to speak in public to a stranger. All it takes is a little practice and a bit of courage and you will succeed. All the luck to you in your meeting triumphs!

Jaci Rae’s grit and determination brought her from a poor childhood to a successful singer and performer who tours around the world. She is the recipient of the “Female Vocalist of the Year” award at the Golden Music Awards in Nashville, as well as a Barnes and Noble and Amazon #1 Best seller.

She is the author of The Indie Guide to Music, Marketing and Money, as well as Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time. Jaci lives in California where she spends her spare time working on her music, writing and hanging out with family and friends. For more information, go to jacirae.com jacirae.com or winningromance.com winningromance.com

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The “I-TO-WE” Institute Individual Assessment series is designed to ask yourself powerful questions. If you are willing to take the time to reflect on these questions and be honest with yourself, you will be on your way to achieving healthy, successful relationships.

(Define relationship as being with yourself, partner, work, friends, or family.)

Do you want to have a successful, loving relationship with yourself and others? In this fast-paced world, you may not have the time to sit, take a deep breath, and think about these kinds of questions. If you cannot, you probably do not realize the impact the answers have on your life and the lives of your friends, family, partner, and children.

Before you start, print this page so it will be available to total with the other parts to this 7-part quiz. Take your time to think about each question and be honest when you score yourself. Rate each question from 1 to 10. If you can answer with a solid YES, score a 10. If you are not sure, give yourself a 5. Score a 1 if you answer with a definite NO. Of course, you can use any number in between.

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Has this ever happened to you? You see the hot & sexy “girl of dreams” at a bar or nightclub and you’re dying to ask her to dance. There’s a problem though. She’s with a group of her girlfriends and they are carrying on and laughing and talking and not really noticing anything else. They just seem to be absorbed with themselves. You know what I’m talking about. You’ve seen groups of girls and how they act.

Well anyway, you want to ask her to dance, but you kind of feel like a fool approaching her in a group of girlfriends. Here’s the wrong approach a lot of guys use: You approach her and ask her to dance and she says no. Then you ask her friend, she says no. Then you go down the line and ask her other friends to dance and they say no. You have just made a complete fool of yourself and the girls are snickering behind your back. Don’t set yourself up for rejection. Here’s the approach to use:

Always remember this fact: It’s hard to get one of the girls in a group to separate. But, there’s a way around this; Walk up to all of them at once with a friendly smile on your face and say, “Would any of you girls like to dance?” There’s a good chance one of them will dance with you and perhaps even the one that you were initially attracted to. This opens the door to dance with the other girls in the group also. Then you can determine which one you hit it off with and pursue her for a romantic encounter.

Does this method work 100% of the time? No, there are variables involved. Maybe they are not ready to dance yet, they all have boyfriends, or maybe they are just not attracted to you through no fault of your own. Sure, the whole group may reject you but you increase your chances of getting the girls to dance by asking them to dance as a group.

Personally, I always look for single women that are alone to ask to dance. If they are with just one girlfriend, I will ask a girl to dance and that’s not usually a problem. Your best bet is to hit up on girls that are alone.

This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles
Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to
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Pheromones are interesting things; however they can be tricky as well. Basically, pheromones are what attract us to other people. They are found in the animal world, the insect world, and the human world as well.

We secrete chemicals that members of the opposite sex can notice. We also secrete chemicals that members of the same sex notice. Basically, pheromones are these chemicals, secreted by our bodies to tell others who we are.

In the animal world, pheromones are used for many things. They attract mates, and identify the species to others. However, for humans, there isn’t a lot of good in chemicals to attract mates – or so you’d think.

In fact, even if you don’t know it; our pheromones have a lot to do with who we are attracted to and when this happens. For these reasons, shopping for human pheromones is something you should consider. You’ll be surprised with what you find.

In order to understand what can be found when shopping for human pheromones you have to understand that there are different types of pheromones. Our bodies react certain ways to different pheromones — some of them make us feel happy and excited; whereas others can make us feel upset and angry.

We can’t really control what the different pheromones make us feel like. Hence, you would want to shop for the pheromones that help you attract members of the opposite sex and make them feel a certain way about you.

Wearing certain pheromones will also help you present yourself to other people in certain ways. Some might make other people feel calm when you are near, some might make them feel excited. Read about the probable effects of the specific pheromones before you actually purchase and use them.

As humans we can control our emotions, so it isn’t likely that wearing a certain pheromone is going to cause someone to do something they wouldn’t otherwise have done. However, it is a fun thing to think about and something to experiment with.

Shopping for human pheromones could very well just give you that slight edge you need in attracting members of the opposite sex.

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