One great first date that not too many people think of is a game of miniature golf. There is no reason to stick with the traditional dinner and a movie. Miniature golf is a great way to interact with your date, while still having a good time. The competitive atmosphere will go a long way in setting your nerves.

Miniature golf will also give you the chance to talk with your date, as opposed to a movie where you just sit and watch. During a game of miniature golf you can talk about anything and everything, in a laid back environment.

Plus, not everybody is a couch potato! Some people like activities where you get to move around and be competitive. Ask your date if he or she likes sports. If they do, you should definitely consider miniature golf. Not to mention the fact that it is also a low cost alternative. For two people to play miniature golf you will on average pay $10. At the movies you are probably going to spend about twice that much. If you are looking for an alternative to the traditional first dates, look no further than miniature golf. It can make for an inexpensive night of fun.

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Your free online dating profile is there to sell you to a prospective online dating partner. Think of your online dating profile as your resume for dating. More to the point think of it as an online dating advertisement. Instead of selling a product, you are selling yourself to the online dating site community. So, what better way to learn to write the perfect profile then by learning how advertisement copywriters sell products.

Copywriters learn certain techniques to make a product very appealing to a prospective buyer. Here it is in a nutshell:

Start with a compelling headline about yourself. This will grab the attention of your readers.
Need a compelling sub-heading – This might or might not work with a profile. It depends on the dating site you joined. It will reinforce the headline copy.
Write a knockout first paragraph to make the reader want to read the rest of your sales letter (profile). Include towards the end a paragraph that will tell the reader what they will miss if they don’t contact you!
Sell your “benefits”.

Copywriters always discuss the A.I.D.A. principle. This is:

Grab Attention
Stimulate Interest
Build Up Desire
Urge the reader into Action

Remember, you might not want to accept that you are selling yourself. But, you are. You are selling your “benefits”. Why should someone e-mail your profile over the millions of other profiles on the dating site? So, don’t be shy, sell your benefits! Most copywriters know that if they can’t sell the benefits, they won’t make the sale. The same applies to an online dating profile.

Another principle copywriters learn is to find the products USP or “Unique Selling Position.” All a unique selling position means is you must find out what is different about you that is special over all the other profiles. In a crowded marketplace you want to appear different and unique.

We all have something unique to offer. We just have to discover it. So, the best way I can think of is take a pen and brainstorm for a few minutes. Write down everything you can think of about yourself that you see as a benefit you will add to a relationship. There is lot’s of things you can offer a relationship that is different and better than other profiles. It might be hard at first but I am sure things will come to you.

What is interesting in the marketplace that a lot of products are very similar to each other. The more creative copywriters will be able to discern something all products have and write some convincing copy that makes the common benefit appear unique to their product. This is how to write a “Unique Selling Point”.

Another trick is to think of yourself as the person reading your profile. Ask yourself, “What’s in it for me” or “How can this benefit me” for each thing you have put down on your list. You will come up with your Unique Selling Point.

Let’s touch upon the most important part of your profile. It is your headline. Research shows that 8 out of 10 people scan the headlines in a newspaper or sales letter. When they find headlines that appeal to them they will read at least the first paragraph. If your headline doesn’t interest them then they move on to the next one until they find one that they like. You have just lost a prospective customer.

So, start with your best “benefit” first and put it in your headline. Get your prospect interested from the beginning and pile on lot’s of great copy and “close the sale.”

One last thing you should know about your dating profile. Honesty is the best policy when you write your free online dating profile. If one day you do decide to meet a person who has read your profile, then you will have a lot of explaining to do if you lied. And, probably that one reason ruins the start of what could be a successful relationship.

Now, add a little humor and your good to go.

If you follow these simple steps, your mailbox will be filled with people wanting to chat and possibly meet with you. Good Luck and above all have fun!

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If you and your significant other are the type who find weddings boring and stuffy you may want to consider having a themed wedding. They can be very casual and light-hearted, and you will certainly be giving your guests something to remember.

A couple of things to keep in mind when considering a themed wedding: choose a theme which speaks to who you two are as a couple; make the theme easily accessible to others, don’t choose something so obscure that others might have trouble dressing for the occasion.

What are 7 top themes you might consider for your wedding?

1) Hawaiian or Beach Theme.

The good thing about a Hawaiian or beach-theme wedding is the amount of decorations you can find. You can make your own paper leis or paper palm trees, or find Hawaiian-themed items anywhere. Be sure to check the local thrift stores for anything tropical – dishware, shirts, dresses, etc. Just make sure all the decorations, as well as the attire, scream “BEACH.” And, you can cut down on the cost of champagne and serve Mai Tai’s or other tropical drinks.

You might think a Hawaiian or beach-theme wedding is just perfect for a summer wedding. Well, you’re right. But, a beach-theme wedding can also be fun during the wintertime as well, and give people a fun respite from cold, dreary weather. Just remember if you’re having a beach-theme wedding during the winter to hold it indoors. Those slinky Hawaiian dresses and breezy Hawaiian shirts can get a little cold in the snow.

2) Country Western Wedding Theme

Plan a shotgun wedding with a country western wedding theme. Western outfits are fairly easy to create or assemble, and a western cookout will surely keep your wedding reception costs down. You can either hire a company to have a western-style barbecue, or just use your own grill.

Western decorations are very easy to make or buy. Again, thrift stores can be perfect places to find boot-shaped vases, cowboy hats and shirts, or other western items for decorations. For music you can play country-western CDs or hire a country trio or band.

3) Wine Wedding Theme

For those of you into wine, a wine-themed wedding can be a great idea. You can hire a sommelier to put together a flight of wine for a reception tasting, or choose wines that mean something to the both of you. Perhaps the first bottle you ordered at a restaurant. Or a champagne dated the year you met.

Decorations can include grapevines, wine bottles, or posters of wine regions. For wedding favors you can give your guests a bottle of wine with a personalized label of the bride and groom.

4) Butterfly Wedding Theme

Butterfly releases after the wedding ceremony are becoming quite popular with couples. If a butterfly release will be part of your wedding, you can make butterflies part of your theme with butterfly decorations.

5) Sports Wedding Theme

No matter what type of sports the bride and groom are into, you can turn it into a wedding theme. You could have a theme of a certain sport, such as golf or baseball, and decorate with items from those sports, with wedding favors reflecting the sport given to guests. Or, you could celebrate a certain team.

If you wanted to go totally casual the bride and groom can dress in attire from the sport, such as basketball jerseys, with all the guests dressing in costume as well. As for the bouquet that the bride throws? Maybe instead of a bouquet she’ll throw a football or toss a baseball.

6) Las Vegas Wedding Theme

Hire a few poker, roulette and craps tables and a few Vegas-style dealers and you have yourself a Las Vegas-themed wedding. Throw in an Elvis impersonator and you have yourself a wild Vegas-themed wedding. In most large cities there are companies which rent out tables and dealers, as well as any number of Elvis impersonators to choose from.

For wedding favors consider a pack of cards with the bride and groom’s picture.

7) Pirate Wedding Theme

Decorate your reception hall to look like an old saloon or the deck of a ship. Peg legs, hooks for hands and eye patches make nice touches to your pirate wedding costumes. You might consider using a treasure chest to store your wedding gifts.

As you can see, when it comes to wedding themes, the possibilities are only limited by your own imagination.

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To be there, to love, what is the price?
What will it cost you to receive all you are entitled to? To
be in a relationship, there is a payment that must be made if
you wish to receive all you desire from the other.

If your payment is fear, withholding your true feelings,
holding back, allowing fear to block the flow of truth, then
you receive loneliness and validate your own lack of
self-worth. This validation only breeds further feelings of
alienation; you do not experience all the rich joy you can receive
when your payment is genuine truth.

To share your truth is perhaps one of the scariest feelings
that exists between lovers and romantic friends today.

When you take the risk to bear your soul, expose the real
you, and reveal your genuine feelings, you become vulnerable;
you may be afraid that your open heart will be pierced by another.

But there is another dynamic you may wish to consider
and experiment with, a tiny bit at a time.

Risk exposing your feelings.

Take a tiny risk, just as a baby takes a tiny risk with his first
steps. Yes, your fears may cause you to stumble, to close your
heart again. But if you are with a person you truly love, and
you take a baby step to expose your truth, then you can see the
reaction. Then you can see how you will be treated as you risk
sharing the genuine feelings you hold inside.

If you are with a person you truly love, and you do take tiny
steps to share your genuine feelings, you will find that you are
rewarded with love, acceptance, and appreciation in return.
Then take another step, take an action, do something special
together, and watch, feel, and be amazed at the new joy
you will discover.

As you take tiny steps, first with vision and will, then with
action, you will find the rewards are akin to those of a baby
learning to walk: “Wow, I can do it!” The baby thinks, “I will
do this again!”

After many attempts of risking to share genuine love and
true feelings, you will find that you stumble back into old patterns
far less than you did before. And you walk beside the
one you love more easily. And soon you may want to run together
– to dare to go all the way, to run, and laugh, and experience
the true freedom and joy of sharing your true self, your
true and honest feelings with the one person who has truly
been there for you through all your past stumblings.

When you find this with another, you have found real love.
You have found one with whom you can share your deepest
fears, your greatest insecurities, your biggest mistakes, and
still be loved and appreciated for all of who you are.

When you find such a person in your life, you must know
there is a reason for this to have happened to you. You may
choose to take a deeper look beyond the simple romantic or
friendly attraction and realize that perhaps there are greater
reasons, higher reasons for your finding one another.

Perhaps you are to do something together. Perhaps you
are to truly be there by each other’s side, a hand to hold,
arms to hug, love to feel, fun to share, friendship to grow,
trust to bloom, and memories to create that you can treasure
together for your life.

There have been many people who have turned their
backs to the love they have found, and in each case, those
people have never forgotten, nor have they ever been able to
replace their true match with another. They live with regret.
They live with a heart longing for the joy and beauty they
once had but were too afraid to embrace fully; they turned
their backs on the one they truly loved, and never found
such a true love again.

Love, pure love, honest and genuine love, does not die.
You can travel to every corner of the globe. You can
watch the seasons pass. But no matter how far you travel or
how many years have gone by since you held the one you
love in your arms, your heart, your soul will never forget
this one person.

You may also find that the one who brings out your
greatest growth, who makes you see all of the areas that
need healing is precisely the person you may find yourself
wanting to run away from. Who wants to face all of that
hurt? If that happens, be wise enough to ask yourself, “Isn’t
that why we have true relationships, to genuinely become
the best we can be?”
And how can we become our best when we ignore or run
away from those areas we need to heal? We cannot.

So the one who causes you great frustration is also the one
who ultimately brings you the greatest joy: the discovery of
the genuine you.

Once you do grow through the challenges, the rewards of
such a deep and genuine understanding between two people
could never be replaced by a shallow, superficial relationship.
Love is a gift, and appreciation for this gift must be shown.

There is the saying, “Hurt me once, shame on you; hurt me
twice, shame on me.” This universe will send you a gift of love,
a true match, once. If you choose to throw this gift away, if
you do not show appreciation for it, you can be certain this
universe will not be foolish enough to give you a gift so rare
and so special again in this life.

You must know that when a person treasures you, when he
or she sees through to the core of you and accepts you fully,
with all of your faults, you have been blessed.

Now, if you love this person, if you truly do, deep inside,
love this person, then give yourself this gift of love, cherish
and treasure the gift you have received, for if you do not, you
shall not ever know such a gift again in this life.

You will know deep down in your heart when all of the elements
are there. You will feel so at peace and, at the same
time, so challenged – challenged to grow, challenged to evolve
and lift yourself above and beyond your fears of intimacy.

This work on self is required in order to continue experiencing
the gift of this love in your life.

Debilitating fears of closeness or of opening one’s heart
are also patterns that must be recognized and worked
through. So ask yourself, “How can I notice when those old
feelings come up?”

Become conscious of them. If you remain on automatic
pilot, you will automatically sabotage the relationship.

Fear of being hurt or vulnerable is understandable and
quite common. When left unnoticed, unchecked, and unattended
to, however, it is also the source of pain. How do you
attend to your fears? You simply acknowledge their existence.
You say, “Oh look, this is what I have been feeling, this
is what happens to me. Do I want this feeling or pattern to
take charge, or do I prefer something different?”

It comes down to a preference, an individual choice not to
react but to consciously decide how you are going to respond
when you notice your fears coming to the surface. Once you
become fully conscious of them, their paralyzing effect
dwindles; instead of feeling smothered by an avalanche, you
feel the slight sting of a pebble. Awareness of an old pattern
greatly reduces its effects on you.

There is always a period of tremendous anxiety when
old fears come to the surface. Realize, however, that this
anxiety does, in fact, pass. It is a feeling. Feelings flow. One
feeling, no matter how horrible or anxiety provoking, does
not last forever.

So once you notice the anxiety coming to the surface,
you become the one in charge. You are no longer run by old
tapes that do not help you experience all you prefer to experience
now.

Those old tapes may have served you in the past, protecting
you from pain from a certain person. But now that you
have found someone else, someone special, those old tapes
can only be destructive.

If you become aware of your feelings and allow the anxiety
to pass by sharing what you think and how you feel, then
you no longer risk losing a person you may not ever be able
to replace.

This is far better than allowing old, self-protective patterns
that are in your comfort zone to destroy your opportunity for genuine love and genuine healing.
Would you rather lose true love because it feels uncomfortable?
Is that what you want?

Look around you. Think of all the people you have dated.
Think of how many years you have gone without this one
very special person. Do you want to lose this gift simply because
it is scary for you to take personal responsibility and
notice your feelings as they surface?

You do not have to be perfect. You cannot be perfect. But if
you decide to take charge of an old pattern and act to heal
your inner self, you will find that the one you love will not
leave your side.

© Copyright by Barbara Rose, All Rights Reserved. Excerpt from Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth and Your Life. Published by The Rose Group (2003) ISBN: 097414570X

Barbara Rose, Ph.D. is the best selling author of nine books including If God Hears Me, I Want an Answer!, Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE, and Know Yourself. She is an internationally recognized expert in personal transformation, relationships, consciousness and spiritual awakening, and a pioneering force in incorporating Higher Self Communication, the nondenominational study and integration of humanity’s God Nature into modern personal growth and spiritual evolution. Dr. Rose is known for providing life changing answers, quick practical coaching and deep spiritual wisdom to people worldwide as the Founder and Director of IHSC, Institute of Higher Self Communication.
Her highly acclaimed books, public speaking events, spiritual intensives, teleseminars, webcasts, and internationally published articles have transformed the lives of thousands across the globe. Dr. Rose works in cooperation with some of the greatest spiritual leaders of our time, to uplift the spiritual consciousness of humanity.