After teaching a class one night, I ran into Barbara (who is single and 45)in the hallway. We exchanged surprised hellos and then she asked me what I was doing there. I replied, “I just taught a class called ‘It’s Never Too Late To Meet Mr. Right!’” Barbara rolled her eyes and exclaimed angrily, “There’s no such thing as Mr. Right!”

At first I was shocked because I don’t usually get that response. But, it was an honest, heartfelt comment. We took a couple of minutes to talk about what we each meant and then things started to become clear. Barbara’s definition of Mr. Right is a man who is perfect, which explained why her reply was so emphatic.

Mr. Right Isn’t Mr. Perfect

I don’t mean to imply that when you find Mr. Right he’ll be perfect. The truth is, nobody’s perfect including you and me. The intent here is that you’ll find the right man for you, not a perfect man. Someone who has a good mix of the qualities and an appreciation for the person you are, to create the magical bond that is love.

However, if you’re like Barbara, searching for love with a vision of Mr. Perfect, I can only imagine the level of frustration you must be feeling. He has to be good looking, have a great sense of humor, be social, really smart, very successful, sensitive yet strong, emotionally available and stable, thoughtful, sexy, sweet, etc. Whew, that’s a tall order!

Know What You Want in a Partner

As part of my coaching work with men and women, I recommend developing a list of the qualities you want in a partner. It’s difficult to know if you have found the “one,” if you don’t know the qualities you’re seeking. I also encourage culling the list down to the top five essentials, the qualities that you can’t live without. Discernment is an important part of courtship and this process provides a benchmark for your suitors.

However, the likelihood that you’ll find a man with every single characteristic is slim. The top five are suggested to keep you realistic and focused on what’s most important about your potential partner. You may find someone who has many of the qualities you desire, but expecting perfection is really a great way to stay single. If you find that you use your standards as rationale for rejecting every prospect, this may be evidence that you aren’t as ready for a relationship as you think.

As you meet people, I hope you’ll loosen up on perfection and consider more prospects. It’s so easy to spend time judging each guy against every list item, but it’s better to focus on how he does against your essentials. For example, can you simply connect, have a good conversation and some fun?

Ask yourself:

• Does he make me smile?
• Is he a good person?

• Does he treat me well?

• Does he show me that he’s interested?
• Do I have fun when we are together?

Your list isn’t intended to be a stringent measuring stick, but rather, a guideline to ensure your basic needs are covered and to recognize what will make you happy. That’s a very big difference. Look for a person’s good points. The more you can appreciate the men you meet and see their positive traits, the more quality men you are likely to come across. Don’t settle or lower your standards, but give men a chance by getting to know more of them.

Notice What Is Good

As you survey the room at the next singles’ event, practice acknowledging what is good. Most people are naturally adept at seeing what isn’t right. Noticing the positive will open your heart and mind to the abundance of great guys all around you. Let go of perfection and increase your chances for finding a good partner who will satisfy your top five list, add to your life, keep you warm at night, and make you happy over the long run.

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Let’s face it…

Every woman you date has at least a few ex-boyfriends in her past. In fact, her past relationships (and how she handled them) can have a direct impact on your ability to date her.

First off, if a woman just broke up with her boyfriend, it’ll probably bring up problems when you date this girl. While you might want only sex, a relationship will be difficult to establish.

So if you’re dealing with a woman with an ex-boyfriend looming in the ground, you’ll definitely experience some problems. My advice is to ALWAYS take things slow and make things casual. While you can have fun, don’t put too much pressure on her.

Now if you’re dating a woman who has a history of hopping from relationship to relationship, then you’re probably somebody who cannot be on her own. Being around a woman like this can definitely present some problems. If she’s never been without a boyfriend, then she might have some emotional problems. My advice is to avoid this type of woman because has a “serial dater” problem.

Finally it’s important to remember that past relationships should not be discussed during your conversations with a woman. While it’s okay to talk about your past, don’t make the mistake of constantly referencing ex-boyfriends or girlfriends.

So if is constantly bringing up the guys she’s dated, you should do your best change the topic whenever she talks about other guys. Now if she refuses to stop talking about these guys then you might be dealing with a woman who hasn’t gotten over her past relationships. Your best bet is to date another woman before you get hurt.

Past boyfriends often get in the way when you’re dating a new woman. The way you handle these guys will have a direct impact on your future with a woman. So make sure you address these issues with your woman and then move on.

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After a woman breaks up with you it is possible that you will begin to doubt many things are possible.

Some of the most common you might begin to doubt are:

Doubting you can get her backDoubting you can find another woman to be with as good as herDoubting you can be happy againDoubting you can get her back is the only one of these three that might be true or at the least you should allow yourself to assume it is true.

It is also the only one that if you choose not to doubt it is true can cause all three to be true until you decide to change your belief.

There is no doubt that you can find another woman just as good if not better than your ex for you.

If you make the decision to move on because you doubt you can get your ex back.

There is no doubt that you can be happy again after she breaks up with you.

If you again make the decision to move on because you doubt you get your ex back.

In fact, it becomes possible to get her back even though she broke up with you; only when you decide to move on because you doubt you can get your ex back.

As long as you know after she breaks up with you the only doubt you should have is whether or not you can get her back.

It will and does become that much easier for you to move on, find happiness, and choose another woman or at least have options if she decides to come back.

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Movement to a new area, change of circumstance, job or security issues may have brought about a new loneliness when regularly home alone with only the cat and the dishes. Managing life at this time can demand total commitment with only a spare few moments to have a friendly chat with the neighbors.

Online dating doesn’t have to lead to a life partner moving in but the process can do its best to find a collection of dates of similar intellect and interests. Initial interaction can take place over the Internet saving all the bother and time of discovering the most respectable meeting places for the average person. Dialogue can enter straight into matters of interest and importance rather than the importance of the preferred drink.

Some may appeal, some may be boring and just secretly searching for the life partner too. You have the benefit of being able to make an assessment on quality dialogue within a short space of time rather than wasting the precious commodity between weekly meetings.

A friendship doesn’t have to continue if not going anywhere. The neighbors will be yours for as long as you choose but a deeper relationship with either partner may not be welcomed.

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