Learn how to make sure your anniversary gifts for him are right on target.

Celebrating your anniversary with your particular someone is always a special time. You want the anniversary gifts you give to be memorable and just right for him. Because you know him so well, you’ll immediately know once the gift is opened whether it’s a hit or a miss. How can you make sure you’re right on track with your anniversary gifts? It’s not as hard as you may think.

Even if you’re married to the man that has everything, or to the man that just goes out and buys what he wants, there are still ways to make sure you get just the right anniversary gifts to make him smile and be yours forever. The first step is to concentrate on him.

There may be things he really enjoys, yet you’re not so keen about. Remember, it is not your gift. If you want him to know that you really are his lifelong friend and companion, there’s no better way to show it than by giving him luxurious anniversary gifts centered on his favorite activities or interests.

Activities and Anniversary Gifts

The key to giving perfect anniversary gifts is to coordinate your gift with his favorite activities. For example if your husband is a “grill master” giving him a professional barbeque grill tool set or a handle mount grill light would be great anniversary gifts.

If he’s into the games, take him back in time with classic arcade games designed to fit right in your family room. They look just like the original game boxes found in arcades, and can really be a big hit with your guy.

Most men are sports fans of one kind or another. It’s always a great idea to give your sports fan anniversary gifts centered on their favorite team or sport. While basketball, football, fishing or golf might not be your thing, it may suit him perfectly. If you’re not sure exactly what would suit him, you can always ask one of his sports friends for advice.
Other great ideas for anniversary gifts are tools to help with daily activities and demands of work. For example, if your husband drives a lot, consider a Tom-Tom GPS system that will keep him on track no matter where he goes. Or perhaps a back massaging unit for the car. Another great anniversary gift for the man who spends a lot of time on the road is a roadside auto emergency tool kit.

Remember the Reasons

While in your head these items may not sound romantic or exciting as anniversary gifts, remember, the gift is about what he likes and ways to help him during daily activities. Concentrate on his enjoyment and you’re sure to make him very happy on your anniversary.
Whatever anniversary gifts you choose remember, that anniversaries are a time to get away from daily life, celebrate and rekindle those feelings you had when you first married.

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You know those “here is what you need to make the item” instructional leaflets? Well, the other day I began wondering what a toolkit for online dating might be like. I was surprised by what I found…

For my online dating toolkit I began with the physical things you will need, then went on to the emotional or mental requirements. When I looked at the physical things all that I found that the average person needs for dating online is:

- a computer

- an Internet connection and email

- a means of payments, such as a credit card

These are all things that nearly every Internet user already possesses. But why a means of payment, when there are completely free dating sites out there? Well, as you will no doubt read elsewhere other than in this article, there is really no such thing as free. All businesses have costs and must make a profit if they are to remain online. So sites that appear to be completely free will either entice you to buy things through their advertising or be persistent in trying to sell you their products. There are other issues with completely free sites too, such as less vetting of members than with paid subscription sites. So, for a bit safer, somewhat better quality Internet dating, a paid subscription site is recommended.

Turning to the mental requirements, here is the list I came up with:

- some patience

- some perseverance

- a sense of humour

- a spirit of adventure

Why patience? Because, no matter how good the online dating service, it may take some time to work your way through online dating profiles, contact people who appeal to you, establish potential relationships with them via email and finally narrow them down to somebody you wish to date. However, most see this as an advantage over conventional dating, in which you know very little at first about the person you date.

Perseverance. You need perseverance for other very reasons described above, though patience and perseverance are not the same thing. Perseverance is a quality that makes you carry on even when things don’t work out exactly as you would like. Online dating is fun, but there is nothing worthwhile that does not bring occasional frustrations, and you should be ready for these too.

A sense of humour is something you will need if you are female, for example, and find yourself bombarded with too many emails from prospective male suitors for you to cope with. You will also need a sense of humour to read some of the emails from men who do not seem to realise that they are addressing a real person and not just a listing on a dating site.

But why will you need a spirit of adventure? If you have not tried online dating before, then you must realise that it works rather differently from dating in the offline world, and you will need a spirit of adventure to set forth into this new uncharted realm. But, once you get your bearings it’s all pretty straightforward.

So there you have it. Dating online is not something you have to have special equipment for or a particularly developed mental approach to deal with. You can find out more about Internet dating and which I think are the best sites to use by checking out the links below.

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Traditional? Not you. That’s why you’re searching for some non-traditional ideas for your upcoming wedding. With a little ingenuity and some silk wedding flowers, you can have the non-traditional wedding of your dreams.

If you’ve never been big on wedding bouquets, how about having your bridesmaids and maid-of-honor carry small handbags that are covered in silk flowers! Each attendant can wear a different color and they can carry a handbag personalized just for them. Get your glue gun out and attach the silk flower heads to the individual purses to match the color and style of the gowns. This rainbow of colors will be eye-catching and help to ensure a bright beginning for you and your groom!

If you’re planning on having little girls in your wedding, but don’t like the idea of the “flower girl”, you can make a floral garland for them to carry. Simply cover birch vines with silk flowers that match or complement the flowers that the bridesmaids and maid-of-honor are carrying and let your two or three young attendants carry the garland in tandem. This will not only look adorable (get ready for the oohs and ahhs) but it is also a clever way of keeping the girls together.

As the bride, if you don’t want to carry a traditional cascading bridal bouquet, or even a hand-tied bridal bouquet, consider getting married while holding a hoop made of vine and strung with various silk flowers. The hoop is carried like a tambourine.

Another option is the pomander, a Styrofoam ball that is covered in lace or tulle. Silk flower heads are attached and the lightweight floral pomander simply hangs from the wrist.

If you’ve lost someone special to you, such as a grandmother or even your mother, consider carrying something of theirs, such as their prayer book, garnished with their favorite flowers. This would be a lovely way to pay tribute to this missing guest.

In lieu of corsages, floral bracelets can be fashioned like small garlands with silk wedding flowers woven in. These not only would look lovely, but they would also give your wedding yet another non-traditional flavor.

If your wedding is in the autumn, how about decorating with pumpkins and wheat rather than the traditional floral arrangements? Christmas weddings can include strands of lights and lots of pine and holly. Beautiful glass ornaments can be included not only in the arrangements, but also in the bouquets. Reception guests can each receive a lovely ornament as a favor. The date can be inscribed on the ornaments as a reminder of this special day. Decorated boxwood Christmas “trees” would look stunning as centerpieces at each table.

Summer weddings can be lush with silk wedding flowers. Floral halos can be crafted for the young girls in the wedding. Beach themed décor can add a festive and fun touch to the wedding and reception. In place of flowers, your young attendants can carry small wind chimes that will add peaceful chiming to the day.

If you want non-traditional, you have to start thinking outside of the box. Once outside of the box, the sky’s the limit!

Bonnie Goodwin Ray has more than sixteen years experience in the wedding industry. She is the author of Wedding Planning Made Easier and has become a leading expert in mysilkweddingflowers.com/ silk wedding floral design.

Ask the Marriage Maven: Angered by an Affair

Q. About a year ago, my husband had an affair with someone we both knew. It happened while I was pregnant. He said it would never happen again, but I’m not so sure. She’s still in and out of our social circles.

I want to try to work things out, but every time I think about it, it makes me sick. The sad thing is that we’ve been married less than three years. Maybe he wasn’t ready to be married. How do we work through our problems and have a happy marriage? Right now, it seems impossible.
P. R.

A. First off, let me say that I’m sorry that this happened to you. It’s hard to overcome the powerful feelings that linger after an affair. But if you think it’s impossible to have a happy relationship now, that’s exactly what it will be. However, if you throw away the attitude of the impossible and embrace the one of determination, having a happy marriage can happen.

You might be right. It is possible (maybe probable) that your husband did not fully understand what your marriage would entail before getting into it, but now you both have a responsibility, and that includes raising your child.

It seems like you’re making some good moves. Seeking help from books and the internet is a great idea. However, I would suggest that if you are not seeking professional counseling or coaching now–do it! Go with someone you trust to get you thought this difficult time. Even if you’re the only one doing it at first, it’s good to get started with a person who can give and objective approach and help you resolve some issues.

Ultimately, you and your husband will need to determine if renewing your commitment can work. Each of you will have to make a choice to consciously work at making your relationship better. Both of you will need to make your marriage a priority—even above taking care of your child(ren).

Despite what many people think, love is not a feeling, it’s a decision. I once heard a saying: “Marriage is like a pet snake, you better feed it every day or bad things will happen.” If your husband is willing to change, positive action towards making your marriage better will be evident. That said keep your eyes and heart open.

Keishia Lee-Louis is the Editor and Publisher of Married4Good.com Married4Good.com Her work has appeared on iVillage.com, BibleResourceCenter.com, and in numerous other printed publications.

Currently, she lives with her husband, daughter and son and is writing a book on marriage and relationships, which will be published Spring 2006.

If you’d like to see more of her work, visit married4good.blogspot.com married4good.blogspot.com