Sex, society and the Internet. These three explosive topics have elicited a lot of conversation and controversy. Society has always had a fascination with sex. However, over the centuries the fascination has gone from closed doors to open format.

What changed society’s willingness to discuss and view sex in an open forum? The term Sexual Revolution was first noted in 1929, when Thurber and White used the expression in their book, Is Sex Necessary? However, some historians believe the sexual revolution actually began in the 1960s. Prior to the 1960s, society, as a whole, had a very puritanical view of sex and sex was not openly discussed.

Skip a few decades to the explosion of the Internet and an entirely new kind of sexual revolution began. No longer was sex a veiled and taboo subject that could cause a scandal. Nor was sex hidden in a stack of magazines, secret drawers or a stash of DVDs on a hush-hush closet shelf. It was a wide-open arena for anyone to participate in.

The new sexual revolution focused on sexual freedom and experimentation. The Internet “superhighway” gave easy access to sexual content in a way society had never experienced before.

Chat rooms and instant messaging became the new form of “meeting” and “communicating” with other people. Mega “super stars” were sometimes unwittingly born from taped sexual escapades in “private” trysts. (Pamela Anderson, Tommy Lee, and Paris Hilton are the most notable.)

The question is has society, as a whole, become a better place now that knowledge of any kind is so easily accessible? There are pros and cons. A few of the extraordinary assets of the Internet are:

Research can be done on a much broader scale and performed with a lot more ease.
Information can be disseminated more rapidly.
The exposure to various cultures and societies is much more obtainable whether or not you can travel.
Moreover, the chance for running your own business is available to anyone.

However, the incredible downside is that our society has become:

Lazier.
More overweight.
More disconnected.
Face-to-face social skills are rapidly declining.
The moral gauge of society is becoming obscured.
Sexual predators have gained much easier access to their prey.

In addition, cheating on a partner is a click away and a lot easier to hide. Today, meeting someone on the Internet from anywhere in the world is easy, and many justify cyber-sex as mere flirtation and do not classify it as cheating.

Because of the free-for-all, cyber-sex and cyber-affairs have run rampant. The divorce rate at 38% only a few years ago, is climbing to over 50%. *(National Center for Health Statistic based on 46 reporting states. This measurement is based on per capita.)

In addition to a higher rate of divorce, young children, pre-teens and teenagers have been given carte blanche access to the Internet. They are being exposed to sexual predators and pornography at an alarming rate as Internet addiction is reaching epidemic proportion.

The backlash from the massive exposure of the Internet Sexual Revolution, coupled with the social abandonment, has come at a great cost to humanity and the relationships we value.

While the Internet does offer a vast world of possibilities and exciting exploration of the world around us, without limitations it has become an addictive hazard that people, for the most part, unintentionally use to destroy their families and relationships. Moreover, overuse is known to cause problems physically, financially and emotionally.

The Internet is a great tool to utilize. But it’s just that, a tool. However, for too many people their Internet connection has become their friend, lover and world. The utopian culture Internet addicts create for themselves is becoming a large-scale dilemma.

What is the solution to the worldwide problem? The only answer is for society to begin reconnecting to the real world and curb their enthusiasm for their computers and the technology that runs them. The Internet is not the adversary; it’s the uncontrolled use of the Internet that causes problems in all areas of an addict’s life.

*It should be noted that the higher rate of divorce was not blamed on the use of the Internet. Some studies cited the ease of which divorce is now available as one of the contributing factors in the rise of divorce.

Jaci Rae’s grit and determination have brought her from an impoverished childhood to a career as an award-winning singer, No. 1 best-selling author and entrepreneur who has toured around the world. Jaci shares her down-to-earth advice as the relationship advisor/expert/dating coach for igniteromance.com, savvymiss.com, lovingyou.com, loveisgreat.com and lsinglescafe.net

She is the author of The Indie Guide to Music, Marketing and Money, as well as Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time, Shop for a Day with Jaci Rae How to Get Almost Anything for Free (not published yet) and Collista’s Search for the True Meaning of Christmas (not published yet).

Jaci spends her spare time working on her music, writing and hanging out with family and friends. For more information, go to christmaswithlove.com christmaswithlove.com, shopforaday.com shopforaday.com or jacirae.com jacirae.com

About.com Dating Guide lists Jaci’s book, Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life One Touchdown At A Time in the top six of all time dating / relationship books.

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So if all the other stuff we do to “attract” the opposite sex is what’s causing us mental stress and emotional frustration, what does effortless attractiveness look like and feel like?

1. When your core values guide your actions and you feel yourself as worth of other’s attention and affection, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

2. When you thrive both independently and interdependently, without the need to control or manipulate how others feel about you, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

3. When your “human warmth” overflows to others, and men/women happily and willingly persuade themselves to be with you, and even actively seek interaction with you, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

4. When you can initiate contact with a man/woman and are not trying to control and direct the outcome but instead lose yourself in the other and both to each other are unapologetic and unhindered in the moment, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

5. When you can approach relationships with the opposite sex without anxiety, self-doubt, anger, insecurities, pain, panic or fear beneath your every word, actions and boundary of personal identity, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

6. When you can consciously, efficiently and productively use your intellect, emotions, feelings, senses, intuition and body as a guide to dealing with situations and people and can turn even the most “painful” experiences to life lessons, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

7. When you are able to figure out how to get more of what you want from others in ways that help them get what they want for themselves, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

8. When you have the persistence and tenacity to stay with things to the end, while still knowing when to give up on something if your energy is better used elsewhere, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

9. When you are confident about who you are as sexual being and your thoughts, emotions, intentions, dreams, desires, hopes and actions are infused with purpose, meaning, passion, sensuousness, vitality and life, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

10. When your presence (and being in a relationship with you) inspires men/women to delve into their inner being and discover new avenues that can stretch them to heights and depths that they did not think was possible, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

11. When you are thankful and show gratitude for the simple things that others say or do for you and for the little musings and surprises (good and seemingly bad) life leaves along the way, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

12. When you effortlessly attract good people and opportunities into your life, you have tapped into the power of effortless attractiveness!

Does this seem like a tall order? You bet. The great news is that all of us have this natural ability to be naturally at EASE with ourselves and with others.

You don’t have to have a technique or routine, master certain words or trade off your soul. All you have to do is allow yourself the mental, social, emotional and spiritual freedom to be who you are. This is your Fullness State. This is the state in which attraction happens effortlessly.

Once you’ve tapped into your fullness, you will find it easy, natural and FUN interacting with the women/men you desire and you will find yourself moving forward with such intention and power that you will become unstoppable in achieving your goal for a relationship that is dynamic, creative, passionate, meaningful, fulfilling and expanding.

But most importantly… you will feel your own power and sexual self confidence as a desirable man or woman increase. You’ll will find yourself charged with an overwhelming feeling of self worth that is unlike anything you’ve ever experienced before. And NOTHING will be able to make it go away.

About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™ is internationally renowned for her UNIQUE and genuinely insightful outlook to what love is really about, what is there to learn about who we really are and what we can expect from our sexual relations. Her very powerful and practical “Fullness Approach™” to dating and relationships and strong emphasis on “you don’t need to attract many men/Women, just the RIGHT ONE” has helped many single men and women develop greater capacity to attract the RIGHT man or woman and create fulfilling relationships…

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Learning about your spouse’s affair is one of the most life changing events you’ll ever have to cope with. The initial mental and physical pain can be more than most people feel they can bear.

Debbie found that the shock left her feeling completely suicidal, in such an emotional state that she just couldn’t see an end to the raging emotions of sheer loathing, humiliation, defeat and despair. She couldn’t visualize surviving the infidelity.

“After weeks of trying to come to terms with the shock of my husband confessing to having an affair, I tried to face up to the news and move on with my life but I just couldn’t get over the feelings of hate, shock, rage, fear and utter betrayal.

I really hated my husband, the ‘other’ woman and myself for what had become of our marriage. I found myself wanting to kill him one minute and trying to understand why he had done it the next. I didn’t know what to do or where to turn. I had no idea as to whether I wanted to save my marriage or not but I was totally unprepared for life on my own.

I felt so alone, half dead, totally humiliated, defeated and betrayed and found I just couldn’t move on without seeking help and learning that there was a way to move forward and get my life and my marriage back on track”

Because of the emotional roller coaster infidelity puts couples through, talking about the details in the early stage only reinforces the negative feelings that they already have. It will not help either the cheater or the cheated partner to cope with the situation nor will it help you move forward.

The first discussion will always be the most difficult one, when it’s so easy for things to get totally out of hand. If the marriage is to be saved both partners need to be emotionally prepared, rational and calm. It is unrealistic to expect partners to be able to work together in the early days when neither party is capable of entering into any form of rational discussion.

The cheated partner will want immediate answers to why the affair occurred, if they loved the person they were having an affair with, did it mean anything and how long it had been going on. They will want to know why they weren’t enough, was it the only one and will wonder if they can trust their partner again. They need to take control of these emotions before they should enter into any form of discussion and before they can make any progress towards surviving infidelity or even half way consider trying to save the marriage.

Many people go to marriage counselors terrified, not knowing what to do, unable to get the images of their partner in someone else’s bed out of their mind, not knowing if their partner still loves them and feeling totally worthless and insecure. They have to get over that initial hurdle before they can move on, start piecing everything together and even consider trying to rebuild the marriage. What is said and done in those early stages is critical to surviving infidelity and will form the foundation of any new relationship which evolves.

Most people do not have the skills to work through their problems without getting emotional and cannot get beyond what has happened in the past so cannot look towards the future. It is so easy in the early discussions, when the most positive work towards recovering the relationship needs to be done, to get sucked into battles over what has happened. It is hard to push emotional feelings to one side and calmly discuss such a betrayal.

However, after the initial shock and once emotions have calmed down the most critcal thing to do is to talk, listen and try and understand what has happened, why it happened and how to move forward. Only after some kind of understanding have occurred can the cheated partner even consider any kind of foregiveness, but if initial contact is controlled, and approached in the right way, not jumping in with all guns blazing, marriages can and often do survive infidelity and become stronger because of it.

That is why spending time learning how to control your emotions and trying to understand the situation from your partner’s point of view is vital if you want to save your marriage.
It is during this stage that you will find out why the affair happened, if it meant anything and what problems there were in your relationship. It is not until the all the cards have been laid on the table can couples even begin to try to put right what has gone wrong and move on with their lives.

As with most marital issues communication and understanding is critical to surviving infidelity.

To learn more about surviving infidelity and other marriage problems visit my websites: commonmarriageproblems.marriagehealth.com/Infidelity.html Common Marriage Problems saveyourmarriage.marriagehealth.com/Save_your_Marriage.html Save your Marriage

When you learn that you are going to be getting divorced, it may be have been coming for a long time or it may come as a complete surprise. Either way, there are certain things that you can do for yourself, your children, and your finances. This does not mean that you have to take all of your bank accounts and all that you have and wipe them out.

You have to take the responsible interests throughout the marriage so that you can protect yourself and all that you before and after if the marriage ever dissolves. There are ways that you can act reasonably while you are protecting your interests. These are only precautions that you will need to take care of if the divorce is not being ended amicably.

Depending on how well you and your spouse can get along at the time of the divorce, you may choose not to act on some of the suggestions that are given. You may decide that you and your spouse can work arrangements for everything without arguing. Whenever possible, try and make everything go as well and as easy as you can.

You should always get an attorney when you are heading towards divorce. They will make sure that you are taking the necessary precautions so that you can protect what you have and all the assets you have accumulated during the marriage.

Try and protect all of your own personal property that you have accumulated over the years. You need to move papers and documents so that you are the only one that knows where they are. If you must present them at a court hearing then you must do so. However, you need to make sure that you can keep all of your valuables safe so that you have a better chance at keeping them throughout the divorce.

Once of the best things that you can do before you decide to get married, is make sure that you know the person. Get to know them for a long period before you decide to take the big step into marriage. You have to be able trust so that you can feel good about marrying them. Have a long engagement so that you can see if the person changes any. If so, you may want to get out of the relationship before you decide to marry. This could be the best thing for both of you.

Put an end to the stress and anxiety of not knowing what to do to save your troubled marriage and discover proven methods to getting your marriage back on track – even if you are the only one who wants to work on it!