They might feel like the same things but they are not. Sex is a basic instinct we are hardwired to respond to. We want it because it feels good and ensures our species will survive. It is primal and pretty simple.

From a woman’s point of view sex means “I accept you as someone with the biological and personal traits I would approve of in my children”. Having made this decision in the midst of the Rule 1 physical wig out, it is very easy to mistake emotion and the decision to accept sex, as love. But it is still only a part of love. In reality not a very big part, the physical wig out will end and the cumulative amount of time having sex is a very small fraction of the whole.

From a man’s point of view sex means “I have been accepted as someone she would have children with”. I took the risks. I was accepted. I am in the middle of a physical wig out. This feels pretty good. I must be in love. I wonder what she is fixing for dinner. Men are usually simpler and come to conclusions like this more quickly. But again it is still only a part of love. In reality the physical wig out will be over. As much as men would like; they can’t stay in bed for ever, most likely because, if they want something to eat for dinner they are going to have to get up and fix it themselves.

Love and sex are not the same things. Sex is about acceptance and love is about commitment. Sex is about the offer and love is about the sale. There is a lot of negotiation that needs to go on in between.

There are a number of other things a novice at love should know about how love works. They can be stated as a set of rules or helpful guidelines for those who dare to accept the challenge of learning about love. Behind each rule exists several thousand years of human experience with love captured in music, art, literature and sometimes modeled in noble men and women. Because love is the most profound and desirable of human experiences it would serve each of us to search out the rules and then study the experience and wisdom behind them. It is a fundamental of love that we can only be better for having dared to explore and understand the power of love.

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From my own personal experience of being involved in certain relationships, I have come to realize there are three different levels of Soul Mates. We discussed Soul Mates in a previous article of mine, ‘Soul Mates – Do they really exists” now we should keep our eyes open and pay closer attention to our relationships, in order that we might recognize those soul mates.

Soul mates have different tasks to fulfill in your life, and likewise theirs. It is not always the case that these relationships will exist on a level where ‘physical’ interaction is involved and this should not be confused with their initial task toward you. Some Soul Mates are here only to serve as being a link between two other Soul Mates of theirs in the first place. This alone is a very important and significant task, as without that link the reunion of the other souls might not ever happen. We will identify with the different characteristics of those Soul Mates together and you should, therefore, be able to detect some of them who are present in your life at this time.

As you can see, there is no limit to what a true Soul Mate might do in order to provide their support and, on many occasions, it is not fully understood why they do so. You might question my statement and wonder why a Soul Mate will give up his or her own Soul Mate to provide a link for someone else to move on in! I mean is this not the dream we are searching for all of our lives? Well, that’s beauty of Soul Mate, that is, unconditional love!

Soul Mates are a universal flow of untapped energy that we can relate to as love and many of us do not understand the meaning of this. It is the same thing we keep avoiding all our life when we don’t invest ourselves fully in our relationships anyway! On an unconscious level, Soul Mates tap into that energy of unconditional love.

Regardless of the level of your Soul Mate, it does not mean in any way or form that Soul Mates have to be involved in a physical relationship in order for them to be together. In any of those levels, it is very easy to fall into the trap of taking things for granted. This should be avoided at all costs. Both Soul Mates have to be ready to embark into their journey together, and this is very important for the relationship to succeed.

Here are the three levels of Soul Mates I have come to realize and understand through experiences of my own:

Level One: Your mirrored image – These are a rare example. However, it is possible that they do exist in each of our lives at one point or another. We might have one or two in a lifetime from this category, if we are lucky! What makes them special? Soul Mates of this sort come into our life in a fast, weird and unexpected way. The situations and events in our lives begin to change of their own accord, in order to accommodate the arrival and the reunion of both Souls. In such a case such as this, it is can almost be said that it is ‘written in the stars!’ Both Souls have to be ready for each other, as I did explain before it is not enough to sustain the relationship at its full potential, only by existing as Soul Mates.
This level is the strongest and most powerful type of Soul Mates. They do have many similar interests and share an almost equal interest in their life direction. They will think alike, and in many cases will be able to continue speaking a sentence where the other one has left off. They are a mirror of each other, although they do not have to be exactly the same. However, each one compliments the other with their individual strengths and weaknesses and they will understand each other by being on same ‘wavelength’.

Level Two: Your Supporter – Soul Mates of this sort are everywhere around you. Try to take deeper look at the people who surround you. Just look around when you are in dire need of help or guidance in a ‘life or death’ situation or at a time when you have a heavy burden on your shoulders. Who is around you and ready to listen to you when you really need their assistance? Think of the people who bring you comfort and peace when you need it, or who answer your call when you need some help. These types of Soul Mates do have unconditional love towards each other which can sometimes be difficult to comprehend. Is there someone in your life, of whom, you can relate to being there in that fashion?

Level Three: Your Provider – We encounter these types of Soul Mates in situations that might feel ‘weird’ or perhaps in some un-expected places. We like to refer to them, sometimes, as being our angels. If they occur, they usually will not stay in our lives for a great length of time. You might come across a Soul Mate of this kind when you are just wondering along the street, thinking away to yourself and from nowhere someone will provide with you a small message that will open up a possible answer to those ‘thoughts’ you have upon a certain circumstance in your life. These Soul Mates are placed on your path ‘out of the blue’ and we might never see their face again! We then carry on, feeling blessed at having had them in our life at that necessary moment. Their role is to provide us with an answer or a push toward making a small decision in order to keep us moving in our lives and struggles at that time. Can you relate to such an occurrence in your life?

I asked my guides the question, “will I ever meet my Soul Mates?”
They replied, “You keep searching throughout your life for the perfect partner for you, but, have you ever questioned if you are a good example of a Soul Mate for someone else?” In reality, the importance is not in hunting to find the right Soul Mate or partner for you. The importance is in whether you yourself are willing to be the ‘right’ Soul Mate or partner for someone else! Life is a two way street, but, are you ready to be the right one for someone else?

In the end, we all can be the ‘right’ Soul Mate for anyone we choose in our life, but only when we are ready to treat our partner as a human being, as a soul and to cherish every moment spent with them. Also it is crucial that we learn to let go of the fact that we do have differences between us and any ‘ego’ that exists in any relationship. How ready are we? That’s the bottom line! The search has to start from within ourselves first”.

From my account of how Soul Mates exist in our lives, we can see that they are everywhere around us and we have been blessed since the day we were born! How much real attention do we pay to the people around us? I believe that most of the time we do take these people for granted! Why? One main reason is because we become too self-centered, leading to us disregarding those people around us who provide us with help, who listen to us and generally do sympathize with us in our time of need. After all, it is not only about providing someone with sympathy, but about acknowledging people for who they really are.

I would also like to mention here that any relationship that brings the union of ‘Old Souls’ is above all and the best time and example of soul mates being together, the reason being, for what they will bring to each other in terms of growth, understanding and appreciation. As a result of their union their wisdom, compassion, value of each other and evolution of consciousness will flourish in a way that would be almost impossible for them to achieve if they were united with another soul that is less highly evolved than what they are themselves. In such a case the older soul will always feel a huge gap or that there is something missing in the relationship in terms of their overall understanding and awareness of each other and it is only because the souls exist on two completely different levels of consciousness. I will not go into too much detail here on the subject of ‘Old Souls’ as I will have an article next month which focuses primarily on this topic.

At the end Soul Mate is about unconditional love. If you have that and you can provide that to anyone around and especially towards your partner, I believe you find your Soul Mate after all!

Wishing you all to be with your Soul Mates!

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Joseph Ghabi is an author, lecturer, and healer. Joseph provides Intuitive Numerology Consultation, Healing Childhood Experiences Consultation and PhD Candidate living in Montreal Canada.
At the age of eight Joseph discovered his clairvoyance. Joseph is natural medium. Joseph started the ‘Free Spirit Centre’ website at freespiritcentre.info freespiritcentre.info A community centre devoted to personal growth, self help, soul growth, eating disorders, relationships, healing and human issues.

Joseph task is in bringing Souls back to realization of their own personal power and into alignment with their own soul purpose and path of evolution.

The term domestic violence is often subject to numerous misunderstandings. Because of the lack of clarity of what the term actually means, some victims are misled in their search and attempt to have their abuser brought to justice. Therefore it is essential to understand the all aspects covered by domestic violence.

Civil harassment refers to a situation when one person annoys, harasses, injures, or threatens another person. There are many categories of civil harassment, domestic violence being one of these categories. However, domestic violence cases are very special and differ from civil harassment cases because of the relationship between the aggressor and the abuser, and because of the diverse forms of domestic violence.

First, domestic violence is different from other types of civil harassment because of the existing relationship between the victim and his/her aggressor. A civil harassment case can be considered a domestic violence case if the two parties are currently married now or were formerly married to one another, or if the parties share a blood relationship, or the two parties are or were living together, or if the two parties have a minor child in common. If a case does not meet this criterion, it may not be considered as a simple civil harassment case. Further, many times the harm caused by one person against the other is often greater than in other types of civil harassment because of the interpersonal relationships involved.

Domestic violence covers a large array of abuses. This notion is not only restrained to actual physical abuse, but it can also covers any form of emotional abuse, threatening phone calls, disturbances at the place of employment of the victim, stalking. Courts many times take into account any forms of dominance and control over the victim. Because of this diversity, remedies to stop or prevent further domestic violence may be different than remedies used in a civil harassment case.

Domestic violence is pervasive and has plagued many layers of the society. Some studies indicate that there is absolutely no correlation between education level and domestic violence. There is also no correlation with race or religion.

It is important to know how to identify a case of domestic violence. If you believe you are a victim of civil harassment or domestic violence you would be wise to consult an attorney in your area to help you learn where you stand legally and what your legal options are with respect to the laws in your area pertaining to domestic violence and civil harassment.

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This week we will focus on proper dining etiquette when out on a date with a woman. Correct table manners are very important, especially on your first and second dates with a woman. You will be judged and if you have bad table manners, she may not even want to date you again. Don’t let anything spoil your chances with scoring with single women such as bad table manners which are easily corrected. Listed here is the proper dining etiquette when on a dinner date with women:

Be sure and make reservations if you are going to a fancy or popular restaurant. It’s very embarrassing to show up without reservations and having to wait an hour or two for a table. Also, be sure a check to see if they have a dress code and dress properly. Be sure and tell your date in advance what to wear.

When your food comes don’t gobble your food down like you haven’t eaten in a week. Eat at a moderate pace so you will have more time for conversation. It makes a bad impression if you gobble down your food and you spend the rest of the time watching your date eat.

Be sure and use your napkin and place it in your lap. Do not tuck it in your belt or use it as a bib.

When being seated do not allow them to place you in “bad” spots such as noisy areas, next to the restrooms, by the front or back door, areas with a bad atmosphere, etc.

Do not slurp your soup, smack your lips, or chew with your mouth open. Nothing is more unsightly than watching someone talk and chew their food at the same time.

Should you order for your date? If you are at a classy restaurant, you should order for your date. Ask her in advance what she wants and when the waiter or waitress comes, order for her. This makes a good impression on women.

When eating insert your fork straight in your mouth. Do not place your fork in the side of your mouth. This increases the chances of you dropping your food on your table and that’s embarrassing.

If you get food stuck in your mouth do not pick it out with your fingers or fork at the table. Excuse yourself and go to the restroom and get it out with a toothpick.

Be sure and leave at least a 15% tip (unless the service is bad). Single women will judge you on your tipping habits. If you are cheap it can make a bad impression on them. Don’t whip out a pen and paper or calculator to calculate the tip, it could leave an impression on her that you are “cheap.” Here’s an easy way to do it in your head. Let’s say that your bill comes to $45.10. Move the decimal point one place to the left ( this will come to $4.51 which is 10% of the bill). Now divide $4.51 by 2 which will give you $2.25. Now add $4.51 $2.25 = $6.76 in your head and this will give you a 15% tip. That wasn’t so hard was it?

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It’s likely there are one, two or maybe even three people who we have admired and thought of as someone we would like to be like. Sometimes it’s hard to pinpoint what it is about the person that captures our attention.

Do you remember a person in your life whose words or even actions made such an impact on you that something deep inside of you was affected? It may have been anyone, a neighbor, a friend’s parent, even someone whose humanitarian efforts were showcased on TV that was a big influence on your life. Their effect on you may have been from a conversation, a series of talks or just their demeanor. In the case of seeing someone on TV it just could have grabbed you by affecting your emotions as you watched and listened.

I remember once when I was about sixteen or seventeen our family went on one of the usual summer trips to a different state or Canada. I don’t remember much about the trip except one thing. We stopped in a suburb near Cleveland, Ohio to visit a relative none of us knew we had except my father, or possibly my mother. It was a nice big house furnished very nicely. Mostly what I remember from that visit was the owner, a previously unknown cousin of ours, made his money from betting on horses. Not something one normally remembers, but nonetheless, that one thing stuck in my mind over the years. Ever since then I’ve wanted to be a big-time gambler, in one way or another. A successful twenty year stint doing horserace betting research and actual betting ended a decade ago to give way to real estate investing for higher stakes.

I pretty much abandoned most of my other activities and hobbies over the years, but never the most risky, commodities or futures trading, and option trading. Now, over half a lifetime later I am getting much more involved in financial trading. Sometimes you never know who or what will have a long-term influence on you.

Remember that you too can have an influence, either good or bad, on others. Whether you think about it or not, people notice you at school, on your job, even in the supermarket, and most everywhere there are people around. Your bearing, posture, and attitude are noted by them. How we carry ourselves can influence others. If you approach every day thinking to yourself, “today others are watching and learning from me” you will almost certainly act differently.

Being open to situations and people that are difficult to handle is also a wonderful lesson. Each time we feel challenged by someone else’s judgment, blunt, or even stupid remarks, we can feel the sensitive spot they hit inside of us. We usually prefer gentle teachers and lessons, but sometimes sharp remarks are good catalysts for change also. The main thing is to be open and keep in mind that people say things for various reasons.

Someone’s remarks may not be accurate because people can speak out of their own jealousy, irritation and past experiences. Nonetheless, people’s comments may contain a bit of truth and that we can reflect upon despite their projections or misperception. See if there is something in what someone says and if there is you can study it. If not, you can forget about it.

What lessons have you learned from others? Often we learn something from a book or sometimes even a movie changes us. However, there is something special about having a dialogue in person. The power of their words in the moment is a stronger expression, one that has more importance to us. In the east, they say review every situation and person as a teacher. Find the gem in the lesson that is right in front of your nose.

Always remember that to someone else you might be a role model. You need to try to carry yourself in a way that puts you in a good light. It is also important that you make a good impression on children as they could take clues from you that could last a long time or even a lifetime. You certainly would want them to see the better side of you and hope whatever they see in you influences them in a positive way.

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The more elaborate your ceremony, the more things there are to go wrong, and naturally, the more worry you are going to have. There are two options you have at this point: you can elope and get rid of all the beautiful ceremony plans, or you can use a few simple methods to get rid of the stress so you can enjoy your special moment. To that end, here are five things you can do that will melt away your worst worries and help you relax. Try one of them or try them all. They are all easy, inexpensive and effective ways to take care of stress.

1. Plan to Succeed

In the manufacturing world, there is a plan for every contingency, called an OCAP (Out of Control Action Plan). Having your own version of the OCAP can help ease the tension of worrying about the “what ifs”. For instance, you and your soon-to-be-spouse can practice your first dance so you have it down cold by the time the ceremony comes around. Like the book says, “don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff.” People are watching you get married, not judging your taste in flowers, after all.

2. You’ve Got a Friend

Don’t forget your support network when you start feeling stressed out. Your soon-to-be-spouse, future in-laws, parents, and friends can all help you by taking some of the load off your mind. If you need a favor from someone, don’t hesitate to ask. Most people are thrilled to be asked to help plan an event like a wedding. It makes them feel like you value their opinion, and they would be more than happy to help.

3. Don’t Be So Negative

You know the type: whatever you say, they have experience with that and it was bad. From their bunion surgery to their last birthday surprise party, these people are always talking about how everything went wrong. When you’re worrying about making your ceremony perfect, the last thing you need is a negative person constantly putting ideas in your head of all the bad things that might, possibly, perhaps happen. Surround yourself with those people who help you feel comfortable, and limit time with naysayers – at least until after the ceremony.

4. Try a Little Tenderness

It can be easy to forget that the marriage ceremony is intended to celebrate the joining to two people who are in love. With rising tension can come doubts as to whether the whole thing is a good idea. When you start to feel like that, try adding a little romance to your life. Take your future spouse out for a romantic dinner or a picnic. Be alone with them and give yourself a chance to remember why you are getting married to this person in the first place. He or she is your biggest ally in the world, so take advantage of that support.

5. Getting Your Reality Check

What if you aren’t sure if the jitters are about the ceremony or about the marriage itself? In times of stress, things can get jumbled in your mind. If you are wondering about the entire idea of being married, it’s time for a reality check. Calmly think about your feelings and what is causing them. Is it nervousness about making the ceremony come off just right, or are you sensing something different? If your future spouse has changed their behavior significantly, get together and talk to them. You could find out that they are just as nervous about the public spectacle of a big wedding as you are. This is the person you are planning to spend the rest of your life with, after all. If you have chosen wisely, you will be able to talk to him or her about anything. After you have that conversation, you can relax, enjoy the ceremony, and get on to the important business of the rest of your life with this wonderful person who is sharing it with you.

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So your tied between writing your own vows or choosing traditional vows but you do not know where to begin. Below I have compiled a list of the questions you should ask yourself before you choosing your vows. So have a pen handy.

Relationship questions

When and where did you tell your partner “I love you?”
Where and when did you meet?
Was it love at first sight?
What do you admire most about your partner?
What do you have most in common with your partner?
When and where was your first kiss?
What is your most memorable song together?
Did you meet through a mutual friend?

Ceremony

Is your ceremony cultural?
Are you having a traditional ceremony?
Who is involved in the ceremony?
How long is the ceremony?
Will you be facing each other or the clergy when saying your vows?
Will you be playing any special songs?

Choosing the right vows

Will you be saying your vows together?
Will the vows reflect any humor?
Do you have any special poems or songs?
Will you write the vows together or keep them secret?

When asking yourselves these questions remember this is your wedding and make your vows special and memorable.

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Online dating can be great fun, but you never want to rush in without considering your safety. After all, it can mean the difference between whether you live or die if you come up against the wrong person. Even if you don’t put your life in danger, some very unpleasant things can happen to you if you don’t take certain precautions when you meet someone for the first time.

Follow your gut instincts.

Just because you’ve met someone online, it doesn’t mean you’ve committed to meeting them offline. Don’t ever let someone put pressure on you to meet them until you feel completely comfortable with the idea. If you feel like it’s too soon or like you don’t know the person well enough yet, you’re probably right. Stick to your decision – if the other person is a decent person, they will be willing to wait until you’re ready to meet.

Meet in a Public Place

The first meeting isn’t the time to be romantic and mysterious. A public place such as a bookstore, cafe, or restaurant is much better. That way, if you want to leave early you can do so gracefully, and there is little chance that your date will try something that will make you uncomfortable with other people around.

Don’t Let Your Date Pick You Up

Meet somewhere that you mutually agree on, and arrange to get there yourself, whether by driving yourself or taking a taxi. You don’t want your date to pick you up on the first date for a few reasons. First, you shouldn’t let them know where you live until you’re sure of how you feel about them. Second, it gives too much control of the situation to them – you want to be able to leave whenever you want to on the first few dates.

Keep Your Family and Friends Informed

Don’t keep your date a secret! Although you may feel a bit embarrassed at first telling people you are meeting someone through an online service, now is not the time to be shy. What if something happens to you and no one knows where you were going? Tell at least one person, preferably two, that you are meeting someone on a date. Give them his or her name and the information for the online dating service and any other information you have (photo, etc.) – just in case!

Don’t Drink Too Much

Alcohol may make you feel more uninhibited, but that’s not a good idea on a first date. You could do or say things you’ll regret later. Moving slowly is the best way to make a good impression the first few times you get together with a new companion.

Book Your Own Accommodations/Flights

Sometimes online dating involves traveling quite a ways, perhaps across the country. If this is the case for you, make sure you book your own flight and hotel reservations. You don’t want to end up without a room because of a “slip up” on your date’s part. Meet somewhere else – not at your hotel!

Trust Your Judgment

Pay attention to the signals. If you tune in to what your stomach and your heart are telling you, you’ll probably get a pretty good idea of the person. If something seems just a bit “off” about the person you’re with or they are making you uncomfortable even though you can’t put your finger on the reason why, walk away. Studies have shown that instinct is seldom wrong. It’s better to play it safe than end up in a terrible situation later on in the evening.

Always Have Your Cell Phone ON

Keep your phone with you and don’t be afraid to call someone if you feel uncomfortable or pressured. You can also call from a restroom or hallway if you suddenly feel the need to escape.

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The danger of online dating as a title sounds very off putting. Online dating can in fact be a great option as our lives become more hectic, however it is important to realize that online dating can also have possible downsides. With common sense, these dangers can be alleviated.

If you are looking for a prospective partner the process of meeting somebody is not always easy. Today more and more people are turning to the internet and online dating services to search for that elusive person to have a relationship with.

The internet provides us with millions of people to choose from as we are not limited to our own community. We can search for the perfect date all over the world. The challenge may come when it is time to meet the prospective partner or date if they live on the other side of the world but as the saying goes, “love will find a way”.

There are of course issues in online dating in that need to be aware of. For example, there is a well documented case which happened back in 2005 involving an American man. He was tricked into paying out $40,000 in supposed medical expenses for his internet date in Russia. He was the victim of a very well organized scam. He had been conversing with his online date for several months with no suspicions whatsoever and it was only when he planned on visiting his date that the scam was put into place. He did eventually manage to get some of his money back but only after spending more to hire private investigators.

How do you avoid some of these online dating dangers?

Firstly use common sense. Does the prospective date appear almost too perfect to be true? This may very well be the case. Check out the others details as thoroughly as possible and if you know anyone who may live in the vicinity of the date, get them to check also. We don’t mean to spy on people but just check what you can. Maybe they already have a partner and are only looking for a casual relationship?

Engage the online date in a conversation via the message service. This way you can possibly pick up on anything that does not seem right. It is not as good as an actual voice conversation but it is a start. Later you should of course speak to the date and then eventually meet them.

If you do get to the point of actually meeting up with the date there are several steps that you should follow for your own protection and if the other person doesn’t agree to taking the same steps, you should probably be suspicious of their motives.

It is advisable to meet in a public place and preferably during daylight hours. What a great idea to meet for lunch at a nice cafe or restaurant.

Let someone else know where you are going to be and what time you expect to be home. If things work out really well with your date you can always ring your friend and let then know if you are going to be late.

Let your date know what you will be wearing or have some other distinctive way that will allow them to recognize you. This should not be necessary if the profile on the online dating service included a photo.

While you are on the date relax and be yourself and also let your prospective partner relax and express him or herself. It may of course start off a little awkwardly but if you both relax this initial reticence will disappear.

Follow these basic rules and you will overcome some of the potential negatives of online dating and meet the partner of your dreams!

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Think of your marriage as a beautiful and dazzling flower garden. In an acre of astounding floral beauty, you and your husband have planted azaleas, roses, chrysanthemums, daisies, carnations, violets, geraniums, and several more varieties of your favorite flowers.

Since this flower garden is very valuable to both of you, you nurture your flowers with the greatest of love, and you both toil with the duties and responsibilities given to you from when you first started the garden. You both work so very hard to make sure each flower is tended with the utmost care. This flowerbed is the most picturesque site to behold. Your friends and family all wish they had your flower garden.

People from all over town peak into your backyard to enjoy the beauty and aroma of your garden. One day while you are out shopping, a jealous stranger trespasses onto your property and digs up several plots of roses and azaleas, roots and all, and plants them in his own backyard.

This wicked act completely devastates the both of you and each blames the other for the attack to the flower garden. You began to scream and call each other names. You tell your husband to replant more flowers since it was his fault. He tells you to do the replanting because it is your fault. Weeks go by and neither you nor your husband have talked to each other since the flower garden attack.

One day, you cannot stand the dreadful silence around the house any longer, and you tell your husband that it really wasn’t his fault. You kiss and make up, and decide to replant the flowers together. So the next day, you and your husband replant more flower seeds in the barren spots where the flowers were taken.

Everyday the two of you work with the soil so the flowers will come up just as beautiful as before. You water and feed the sprouts and even talk to them because you love them so much. But now you’re both worried that more flowers will be taken or destroyed. The problem is you just don’t feel like taking the time to protect your flowerbed – its just too much trouble out of your daily schedule to do anything about it, besides you really don’t think it will happen again.

Days pass, and you forget the tragic episode.

Again, everyday without fail you and your husband give your flowers the tender loving care they so much need. You water, feed, and even talk to your breathtaking vegetation. You highly prize each and every flower and it shows in the intricate beauty and delicate care of each different variety.

After planting, caring, and tending your garden for several years, the same stranger becomes even more envious and trespasses again, this time bringing his three dogs with him. The dogs run wildly through your backyard and right into your flower garden, trampling all the dazzling plants to the ground.

Both of you are overcome with sadness and despair; your flower garden was your life! You built it up to be the most stunning specimen of a flower garden of its kind. You thought you had it well protected, after all, it was in your own backyard.

Your flower garden is what brought you peace and tranquility. You planted it with superior seeds, and cared for it every single day with great tenderness and love, and now it is destroyed! All destroyed! Your life is destroyed!

What did this husband and wife forget to do for their flower garden? What was the most important thing they could have done to protect their garden?
What about a fence? They didn’t have a fence around it.

What would you do? Would you replant the beautiful flower garden that you built up and nurtured? What would be a wise thing to do for your flower garden? Build a tall fence around it so the enemies cannot trample in and take what they want?

It is the same way with marriage. What would you do? Would you let satan enter in and destroy the love and trust that you and your spouse worked so hard at building up through the years? Would you let strangers trespass and take what doesn’t belong to them? What is the most important thing you can do for your marriage? Protect it! Build your marriage upon the rock so the enemies cannot come in and destroy it?

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat up against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” Matthew 7:24-25

Angie Lewis is the author of two marriage books.
“Journey on the Roads Less Traveled”, a book about love, life, addiction, and marriage.

“Love The Man Your Married. This book tackles areas in marriage that couples need to know and understand and apply for a successful marriage. This book is a most reliable resource for married couples, from infidelity issues to complete forgiveness.

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