It doesn’t matter if you’re introducing yourself for the first time, if you’re on your first date or if you’re trying to turn your date into a relationship – if you haven’t got the chat, you haven’t got a chance.

It’s Not Body Language…

Of course, you’d be forgiven for thinking it’s all in the body language. I’m sure you’ve heard of the Professor Albert Mehrabian’s 7%/38%/55%. Where only 7% of the meaning that you communicate is in the words that you speak – the remaining percentages being down to how you say the words and your body language respectively.

Well, did you know that the research was only validated for conversations where the subjects were talking about feelings and attitudes? It’s NOT universally applicable – and if you go into a dating conversation thinking that all you need to do is smile and hold eye contact, your partner will have you marked down as a loony within seconds. End of!

Virtuous or Vicious Circle?

I’m not arguing here that body language isn’t important. It clearly is. But it’s part of a circle – the other side of which is your dating conversation.

Let’s assume that you and your partner both find each other physically attractive. Why else would you be talking to each other as dates or potential dates?

If you’re conversation is going well, if you’re enjoying being in the company of the person you’re with, your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile, you become more animated, you may touch each other playfully.

If the conversation is stunted, if it’s boring, then you’re more likely to be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will barely break a smile, your eyes searching elsewhere in the room.

So your body language is definitely giving the game away here. But it’s how much you and your partner are enjoying the conversation that determines the body language each of you displays. It’s what you say that’s either turning your partner on or turning them away even though their body is still there.

The Secret of Dating Conversation

Herein lies the secret of great dating conversation.

Ultimately, one of the 3 key elements in a successful relationship is that of ‘Best Friends’ chemistry.

Why are your best friends, your best friends? Simply because you enjoy each others company. They make you laugh, they intrigue you, they stimulate your mind, they fascinate you. Whatever it is that they do for you, when you are together, you get feelings of pleasure. Otherwise, why else would they be a great friend?

So if you want this date, or potential date, to be a success, your sole aim…is to ensure they have fun. To ensure that when they are with you they experience as much pleasure as you can create for them. Conversationally speaking…!

And that’s where we get back to conversation. Your dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how able you are to create a conversation that your partner enjoys. Ultimately, that leads to you getting more dates.

If you’re thinking this is obvious, yes it is! But how many times do you leave a dating conversation wondering why you didn’t hit it off or why they never called you? It all comes back to the fact that your partner didn’t enjoy themselves enough as a result of your conversation.

If you can get this, and I really mean understand and believe it, then all of the skills and techniques you can learn to create better dating conversation will be easy for you.

One Principle of Better Dating Conversation

Let me leave you with one key principle so that you can go out today and start creating better (think – more pleasurable) dating conversations.

The power of the question.

Your dating conversation will be made up of you both asking and answering questions. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you.

The right questions are ones that get your partner to experience pleasurable feelings. For example:

• What do you love to do in your spare time?

• What do you particularly enjoy about that?

• If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?

As they think about the answers they will actually experience good feelings, because they are recounting or creating pictures and memories in their head of things they enjoy doing.

Ask these pleasure inducing questions enough on a date and at the end of the date, your partner will have had fun. And if your partner’s had fun – they’re going to want to go on another date with you!

I won’t go into the wrong questions. I think you can probably work out what the wrong type of questions would be. But remember, this is one of the key principles in dating conversation success.

You can get the other 4 key principles to dating conversation success by downloading the free first chapter to my ‘How to Enjoy Your Speed Dating Conversations and Win More Dates’ book. Make all your dating conversations fun and get more dates. Visit therelationshipgym.com/speed_dating_conversation.htm therelationshipgym.com/speed_dating_conversation.htm Copyright 2006 The Relationship Gym. All Rights Reserved. May be copied as long as you include the above information

If there is one complaint that I hear more often than others when it comes to online dating it’s that it is hard to really trust the pictures that you see in the other dater’s personal profile. Often it turns out that the picture that you see in the picture personal ads is flattering at least and sometimes they are so doctored that it should be a felony. How do you really know who the person on the other side of the computer screen really is without putting yourself in an uncomfortable meeting situation. Well there isn’t really any 100% foolproof way of telling who the person really is, they often will leave a few telltale signs for you to pick up.

The first thing that you should look for when browsing through the picture personal ads is for multiple pictures. It’s nice to see someone that is attractive, and sometimes I enjoy looking through the pictures just for this, but if you are serious about finding Mr. Right or Mrs. Perfect then you better dig a little deeper than the surface. If the person has multiple pictures then it’s easier to tell if some photographic fakery has taken place. Another way that you can see if the person is really who they appear to be on the screen is (and this is done after you have contacted them a few times through the dating service) is to request a very specific picture from them, one that they would have to take just for you. It’s never easy to know exactly who you are talking with, but it’s easier when you know that the pictures that you see are a good representation of the person on the other side of the screen.

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Modern day weddings can be anything from very simple to extravagant. However expensive or not, weddings always include invitations which are considered as a primary necessity in wedding arrangements. Especially now, many brides believe that the invitation sets the attitude for the wedding but, very often make the mistake of spending unnecessarily on wedding invitations just to ensure the guests will be impressed.

Wedding invitations can range anywhere from being very simple and cheap to high brow and costly. However, there are many varieties of wedding invitations available. For example, people who are not setting up a highly structured wedding may prefer to search for cheap invitations which, of course appear simple, sober and at the same time do not cost much. Some brides who are planning for an extravagant wedding may go for elegantly designed and attractive invitations that cost more. For most brides, selecting an inexpensive wedding invitation is normally advisable because unnecessary money spent on invitations can be utilized in other more productive ways. Adding some additional features to the wedding reception usually is money well spent for planning with a budget.

Here are some beautiful and simple tips to personalize wedding invitations on a budget. One of the most apparent tips for getting inexpensive wedding invitations that many people fail to notice, is creating the invitations on a home computer with a personalized message. This is surely a brilliant idea because creating the cards gives both the couple, and their parents, the ability to make sure that the invitations appear exactly as they desire. This saves a great deal of money and time as well. The good news is that, some of the latest and more modern models of printers on the market are highly capable of producing cards of such excellent quality that the guests will believe that they were purchased from a high end retailer.

Another good tip is that, you can always find good invitations by comparison shopping. This allows you to find the best deals. Although this is a bit time consuming, it is better to look through all varieties to settle on a great deal.

Finally, another great tip for finding cheap cards is by considering a limit on the amount of text on the real invitation than the sample card that you might select. Many printers charge per letter so limiting text will save your money. You can also save money by including only the most important text on the actual card and adding a typewritten sheet with additional information if needed.

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If you have been corresponding for a while with your online friend, it’s only natural that both of you will meet up. That is of course if both of you click and get along famously. When you are arranging for a get together for the first time, there are a few precautions you need to observe just for your own safety.

Here are some of the precautions you need to observe:

Meet at a public place
Make the first date in a public place. That way if you don’t feel comfortable and wish to leave, he can’t force you to stay without starting a scene. A public place also takes the pressure off the date as it is an informal setting.

Meet during the day
For the first meeting, it’s wise to make it a lunch or brunch. Dinner is somehow more formal of the two and it is harder to extricate yourself from a dinner date. If you are not having a good time, you can always excuse yourself saying that you have an errand to run.

Take public transport
It would be wise not to drive to the meeting place. If you absolutely have to then park some distance from the meeting place. It is not wise to reveal your car registration number as a lot of information and be made available if he has your car registration number. Although you may think that you have corresponded online for a period of time, always bear in mind that there’s always the possibility that the person you know online is assuming another identity.

Bring a friend
Bringing a girlfriend along is a marvelous idea. However if you intend to do that, you should at least drop hints to the guy first. Don’t want him to feel displeased when two of you showed up when he was only expecting you. Alternatively, you could arrange to have a girlfriend or a few of them dropping by to the venue of your ‘date’ and take a seat near you. This way, your girl friends can also check out your date and share their opinion with you.

Remember to bring your cell phone
If none of your girl friend take time out to accompany you, remember to bring your cell phone and have them call you at a certain interval. This is a two pronged strategy. First is to check on your safety and the second is to eject you out from a bad date!

Do not change location
Whatever you do, do not change the location of your date at the eleventh hour. This will waylaid all your earlier arrangements to have friends stake out at your date venue. If he really can’t make it on time for some reason or another then just cancel the date and meet up another time. You are putting yourself at risk of date rape if you agree to last minute location changes.

Do not disclose personal information
A very IMPORTANT rule to remember is that you should not disclose your personal information such as your address. This is to prevent him from stalking you.

Be cautious but do have a good time too ! and at the same time you can secure a try-online-dating.com/second-date.shtml second date easily.

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