If you’ve gotten through the wedding planning and the wedding day without a hitch (no pun intended), then you’re already on your way to a successful marriage. Marriage takes commitment, compromise, and patience—all of the things that you have needed to plan a beautiful wedding.

Here are a few final words:

Have fun

When it all comes down to it, your wedding is supposed to be a celebration of you as a couple. Forget about what the cake looks like; if it’s off balance, take pictures from a different angle. If the deejay is playing horrible music or the band is off key, who cares?

Dance like a fool with your nieces and nephews. Dance with your mom or your dad. Let loose a little and stop worrying about what your hair looks like. Have some fun.

Just be with and enjoy your new spouse, family, and friends—this is a party for your new life together, not a test of your wedding planning skills.

Something always goes wrong at a wedding, so just ride with it and deal with it the best that you can. If it can’t be fixed—most times no one will notice.

Eat a little

One of the things that couples forget on their wedding day is to have something to eat. Of course, this means that they will have to take some time for them selves to sit down and relax—and why not? Take just fifteen minutes to have a little something to nibble on. You’ll have even more energy to dance until dawn and more cushioning in your stomach for any fun beverages that you may consume.

Talk to your family

This may be one of the few times that your entire family is together for a happy occasion. Take the time to walk around and talk to everyone. Thank them for coming and ask them about themselves. They probably have wedding stories that they can share with you as well.

Treasure this time you have together.

Smile

After all of the stress and the commotion, you are finally at the point where you can relax a little. Smile for the camera, smile for your friends, smile because you’re happy. Just smile. There’s no need to hold back anything for the sake of being proper or solemn. Solemn is for funerals. This is your time to rejoice in being married.

Congratulations!

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I’ll admit it, I’m one of the unlikely guys to EVER find a DATE, let alone find an attractive woman to marry me.

Truth is, I’m an overweight and out-of-shape middle-aged guy, who has one of those lazy eyes that floats around aimlessly, no matter what I’m actually looking at.

Even the nerds laughed at me in school.

So…

How did I turn it all around?

Well let me tell you:

It wasn’t all that long ago that I was a complete loser when it came to meeting women.

But…

After spending a week with my good friend Chet Rowland in Tampa, I went home a changed man.

Now, before I go on, I need to let you in on something.

While my friend Chet is better looking than me, he sure as heck ain’t what most women would consider a “catch” in the looks department.

In fact, he’s a 52-Year old pot-bellied balding guy that wears these goofy Elvis glasses.

But let me tell you, he sure does know how to pick up the ladies. And during my visit, he showed me some of his incredible secrets, which I’m now going to pass on to you.

I still remember sitting with Chet at his computer, and how I was completely blown away when he showed me his system for automatically attracting more beautiful women in one week, than most guys meet in a lifetime.

I could hardly believe it when he showed me all those emails from all those beautiful women, who were literally begging to meet him in person.

And the photos they sent… WOW!

Talk about an eye full. These women were gorgeous, and who would’ve thought that they’d actually send nude photos of themselves, trying to get Chet’s attention.

The fact is, I would have never believed it was true if I hadn’t seen it with my own eyes.

I still remember asking him, “How in the heck do you keep up with all these emails from all these women? I mean, for crying out loud, you can’t even type!”

And that’s when he showed me his copy & paste system.

Chet had all these pre-done replies, and they were incredible.

When he communicated with these women using his system, it got them totally involved with what was going on, and made them want him even more.

And all he had to do was “copy & paste”, which took just a couple seconds.

I gotta be honest, I never had the kahones to talk to a woman like that before, but after seeing the results he was having (compared to the results I’d always had in the past), I figured it was time to try something new.

And then, I got put to the test.

Chet had gone out on a date that night, and I was sitting there on his computer, reading through all those emails in his system, thinking to myself, “I’ve got to get a copy of this for myself”.

And then…

It happened!

Out of nowhere, this Instant Message pops up on the computer, from a woman who obviously thought she was talking with Chet.

And let me tell you, this was no ordinary IM.

She was saying things that most guys only dream about hearing from a woman (which I won’t repeat here).

She’d certainly caught my attention, that’s for sure!

But I definitely wasn’t no Casanova at the time. That’s why I almost closed out the Instant Message window on the computer.

But at that moment, I thought to myself, “What would Chet do”?

And that’s when I knew I had to give this thing a try, and have a little fun at the same time.

I quickly browsed through the pre-done replies on his computer (which were very well organized I might ad) and found a great reply to send back.

I copied it, pasted it into the IM window, and hit the reply button.

As I was waiting for a response from her, I browsed through his files a little bit more.

To make a long story short, I spent the next 30-40 minutes carrying on an intense conversation with this woman, unlike any I’d ever had in my life.

And it was all thanks to Chet’s copy & paste system.

Before I knew it, she was practically begging to come over to the house for the evening.

Only problem was, she thought I was Chet.

When Chet got home that evening, I told him what had happened, so he’d be prepared for the next time this lady made contact.

But…

The whole experience taught me an incredible lesson, which is, you don’t need looks, money, charm or anything else to have great success with women.

You just need to know how to talk with them in a way that hits their emotional hot buttons.

And thanks to Chet, I was now able to do that.

And let me tell you, the results have been nothing short of staggering.

I’m pretty much a one-woman-man. In fact, I’ve been dating the same woman now for over two years.

In my past relationships, the “initial attraction” would wear off over time.

You know what I’m talking about.

That feeling that you have when you first meet a new woman. It usually lasts a few months, but eventually it wears off, and you just kind of lapse into this comfortable relationship.

Well. Not any longer!

Now that I know the right way to talk with a woman, the fire in our relationship is stronger than it’s ever been. And Like I said, we’ve been dating for over two years.

Never in my life have I been in such an exciting relationship that just continues to get better and better each day.

Lisa is the love of my life and the two of us were married on August 20, 2005.

And trust me…

As long as I continue communicating with her in the way Chet taught me, our relationship is going to last a lifetime.

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I get asked this alot. How to you be in a relationship with a narcissist at best is difficult. My honestly advice, is to stop. End that relationship, end it as soon as possible. I can’t emphasize that no one needs to be in a relationship with a narcissist. Narcissists by nature aren’t capable of normal relationships. Do not full yourself into thinking that you can do anything to make the relationship worthwhile, or have any qualities that a relationship with any normal person.

It is a difficult realization that this person you are involved with, isn’t a full person. This person at best only projects what they want you to see. They will project that as long as you give them your attention, and they do not feel threatened by the close relationship. Keep in mind, like any great movie with a long run, eventually that movie will stop playing. When it does, your time is up. Do not think for an instant that there is anything you can do, think, feel, or say that will change your run with this person. When they decide its over, end it, and don’t look back. If you continue to engage in the relationship, they will only toy with you for entertainment. Stop, and get off that ride, its heart breaking.

Chances are this person will be a completely different person in a relationship with the next person. He will change and morph into what he thinks will get him the best result. You have to realize any relationship that comes on as strong as this as this one did, should be a warning sign. This should be a warning sign that screams out as much as one ever could. Does this person act like everything you ever wanted? Run. A narcissist will morph and change into what he thinks you want. You will be lied and manipulated by someone who has had a lifetime of experience at it. Most people are fooled by this for awhile, don’t feel bad if you missed the signs that this person was someone you should have ran from.

If you not married to this person, if you have no children, and no other attachments with this person. Drop them like a hot rock. Eventually they will turn on you. They will attempt to destroy you and play you like you have never been played before. Keep in mind lying to you, manipulating your schedule, finances, and anything else for that matter means nothing to them. The narcissist, simply does not understand or have the capability to understand that other people are real people too.

If this is not the circumstance, and you are tied to this person, by legal matters, I will address what can help in another posting. Truly, if you can, get out this relationship as fast as possible. Run, simply run. You will have to untangle yourself from this relationship. It won’t be easy, it will be difficult, just as ending any other relationship. You will heal from this relationship, it will be more difficult than other relationships, you will be better off ending it as soon as possible.

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So you are engaged to get married but don’t have a lot of extra money to spend for the wedding? No problem you can still have a beautiful wedding for nearly half the cost. The key ingredient to have is a budget worksheet and budget plan before doing anything. By spending the time to plan ahead and budget your major expenses you will ensure success in saving money. You will not be caught on a whim and spend over the amount planned. Not having a plan is a recipe for disaster because this often means you are searching for crucial items last minute which can really add up.

Below are some of the more common categories that comprise a standard wedding budget form. You will want to at first include all of these categories and then latter you can easily go in and delete any categories that are not needed.

We have given some estimates of the percent a particular cost should be in relation to the total budget. For most items we provided a range of costs. If the item is very important to you then you should plan on the higher end of the range and if it is not important much at all use the lower range. Just make sure that it all totals only 100% in the end.

Location, Location, Location

This is one of the most important keys in Real Estate and in Weddings alike is location. It is important to leave a category of your budget for the location of the wedding and the reception.

Wedding Site:

There are so many places to get married that the list is endless. The cost can vary greatly from a simple backyard wedding to an incredibly expensive formal church wedding. Typical costs for the wedding site will run from 3% to 5%.

Reception

The Reception is one of your biggest expenses and should be planned for carefully. Again the price and percent of your total wedding budget will vary depending on the site. Plan ahead, do some comparison shopping and visit the a few sites first. Typically costs will run around 48% for the reception. This includes the food, site rental, drinks, cake and favors.

Other Important Details

Along with the site rental and reception costs there are things that need to be planned for ahead of time. These are all included below. Keep a careful eye out for the things that you think are important to your wedding in particular and things that don’t matter so much.

Attire

The attire for the wedding includes such things as the wedding dress, viel, tuxedoes and bridesmaid dresses. Depending on your own style preferences and choices this category of items can run between 8 to 12%.

Rings

Rings are such an important symbolic part of the wedding. You do not want to forget the cost associated with them. Typical costs will run between 2 to 5%. The main differences here will be between the metal used and the diamond chosen for the ring. Design rings and signature pieces can often run 2 to 3 times more then a custom made ring. Many jewelers are happy to custom make a ring for you.

Flowers / Decorations

There are a variety of expenses in this category which include everything from flowers to reception decorations. Typical costs will run between 6 to 10% of the total budget.

Outside Sources of Help

Often Deejays and photographers are important to the wedding and reception and a cost that should be figured in. The prices can vary widely depending on their experience level and other factors.

Photographers

Photographers are important as the wedding pictures will be one of the lasting memories of the wedding ceremony and reception. It is important to choose a photographer carefully and to find one that you can work well with. Typical costs for a photographer will run between 9 to 14%

Deejays

Again there is a wide amount o differences in the prices charged by different Deejays. It is important as always to do some comparison shopping on the phone before going out to interview the select few. Typically costs associate with Deejays are between 6 and 10%.

Gifts and Stationary

These are important ways to interact with your guests. Stationary includes everything from wedding invitations to thank you cards. While the gifts will include the more traditional gifts like the Bridesmaid and groomsmen gifts. Typical costs in this category run between 4 to 8%.

It is important to work up a and develop a budget breakdown and to know where your costs are going to come from. Before adding any numbers to your wedding budget checklist you will want to prioritize the budget and develop a worksheet. Then you can go and start adding in numbers and fleshing out the wedding budget plan.

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