A few months ago I noticed a beautiful Asian girl in my school. I am a white guy living in Portland, Oregon, but I have known many Asian people and have studied Chinese for a few years.

Anyway, I learned from a classmate that she was from Singapore. She seemed very shy and it seemed like she could not speak English well.

I asked my friend about her and he told me she was an exchange student. Since it was nearly the end of the year I decided not to attempt to ask her out or even talk to her.

I would see her everyday in school though, and I could not help looking at her she was so beautiful.

As the weeks went by we made more and more eye contact, but being kind of awkward with girls I have never met and not being very knowledgeable on female flirting tactics I thought that she was just making eye contact with me because I couldn’t stop staring at her.

One day she actually came up to me though and after apologizing a lot for bothering me she asked if I would please accept a piece of paper with her name and number on it and in return give her mine.

I was very surprised to say the least. American girls never would approach me in that way. Specially they would not apologize for wanting to give me their number; I’m usually the one who has to beg for the girl’s number.

We exchanged numbers, and after the reality set in that the girl I have been dreaming about for months had just made a move towards me I became very excited and called her as soon as I got home.

I learned that she was an exchange student and was not allowed to have a boyfriend but was very interested in me and did not care about the rule since it was the end of the year.

After dating a while I took her to a dance club for her 18th birthday. We connected so well because she could communicate easily with me using a mix of English and Chinese.

We simply loved being with one another. At first I didn’t want to get serious because I knew she would leave me and return to Singapore soon, but she was so amazing that I had to try to be with her so I asked her if she wanted to get serious and try for a long term (and soon to be long distance) relationship.

She was overjoyed that I asked her and we kissed and hugged for a couple of hours. We were together a few months and in that time together we had a strong and intimate relationship.

She has been the most amazing lover I have ever had and could not imagine intimacy being better with anyone else.

We decided to try to stay together and she is very devoted to me. We use electronic means to stay in touch and visit each other every few months.

I love her more than anything else and want to make her happy. She is not used to guys treating her the way I treat her.

She says that her ex-boyfriends in Singapore would never say, “I love you” or be so gentle in bed. She said that that is why she is so shy. We are not getting married next year.

My message to other men and women out there who are in relationships like this is that they should stay positive because such relationships do work.

Dao Jones, the founder of

A successful marriage is like an adventure. If a sport’s person is going to a wildrerness, the adventure can lead to success or it can end in failure. I have seen that it is like that in marriage. An engaged couple can start their marriage with the excitment and thrill like a sport’s adventurer only to have it fail in divorce. Like a mountain climber, the engaged couple should determine that they are embraking on an adventure that will last a lifetime. Their attitude from the outset will help them make their marriage a success.

In marriage success may be determined by the feelings of safety and secuity both personally and financially. Such goals lead to fruitfulness of dreams, goals, ambitions and family. Just as sport adventurers work toward goals, maritial partners should realize that a successful marriage also requires effort. A sport’s person takes equipment that will assure him/her a safe adventure. Marriage partners need equipment like a home that is environmentally safe; they should keep finances within the economic range of their abilities to pay without credit; they should seek fruitfulness in all areas of their lives. Time, money and energy should be managed so that the family unit will feel love and joy.
With such attitudes, marriage partners can work toward a succuessful reationship.

It takes a lifetime for a marriage to become successful. For sport adventurerers, the event may be a redetermined period of time. However, in marriage, men and women should make a commitment to keep their wedding vows until one of the spouses dies. In a sport’s adventure, sometimes the adventurer makes a mistake. At that point the adventurer must decide if he/she wants to make adjustments and continue or give up in failure. Marriage parters sometimes have to make that same kind of choice. Misunderstandings, lack of communication, unwise decsions, familing health or the addition of family members may cause one partner to question continuing the marriage. Often divorce comes to mind, but a marriage that has a sound foundation of agape love and Bibilcal principles will continue in spite of the difficult situations. At this point marriage partners should be willing to seek help from role models or Christian marriage counselors. With wise advice and prayer support, marriages with problems do not have to come to the end of the rope for the adventurers. They can readjust and continue on with learning and maturity until the goal of success has been achieved.

Occasionally sport enthusiasts die while participating in an adventure. Observers may declare the adventure a failure. However in marriage the goal is not achieved until death of one of the spouses. Therefore, engage couples should consider marriage a lifetime adventure toward success. This is based upon personal experience of 46 years of marriage. Every day is a new adventurer for my hustaband and me.

Pat Strawbridge is a graduate of the University of Mississippi and the Mississippi University for Women and has done postgraduate work at University of Tennessee, Knoxville in Home Economics with emphasis in family relations. She and her husband, Drennon, live in Cleveland, TN near their son, Mike and his wife, Janice, and two grandsons Scott and Will. White Bible Ceremonies for Couples: Advice for Successful Marriage is available in manual form with instructions or CD with photos, instructions and suggestions whitebibleceremony.com whitebibleceremony.com

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Wedding receptions can be as varied and unique as the couples who plan them. For ideas on how to decorate for an upcoming wedding reception, you can take your cues from a huge number of sources.

In general, you will want to decide on an overall theme for the wedding reception, and make individual choices accordingly. The following tips may help get your imagination started.

The latest trends in fashion can be a great source for inspiration. Try picking up a few fashion magazines and see if you can spot a color, pattern or style trend that would mesh nicely with the upcoming wedding. For example, if you are planning a Spring wedding and the magazines all say metallics are hot, then consider working some metallics into your décor, such as with tulle around the centerpieces or headtable, or metallic ribbons in the bridal party flower bouquets.

Take a hint from the season in which the wedding will be held. It can be fun to include the season in your wedding reception decoration ideas, because it helps make for a unique and memorable celebration. For example, consider all white and silver with snowflake confetti for a winter wedding, or all greens and flowers for Spring. The possibilities are only limited by your imagination!

Decide on a color scheme and stick with it. Too many colors can look really busy instead of festive. Try using several shades of a color such as pale through to deep pinks for pizzazz and impact.

Consider taking cues from the background of the bride and/or groom, or the families. For example, if the groom’s family loves golf, put a roll of turf leading into the hall instead of red carpet, and have little golf-themed favors for guests.

Take the locale into account. If the city hosting the wedding reception is famous for a certain landmark, or perhaps a style of cooking, this can be integrated into the décor for a special and innovative theme. Imagine a wedding in New Orleans with little Cajun- or jazz-themed touches.

These ideas should help you get started.

Remember to relax and enjoy this very special time in your life!

Shauna Arthurs is a writer/editor and Co-founder/owner of a network of web-based businesses, including

Despite the tales we hear, ladies, that men are sex machines, sex-on-the-brain every moment of the day, chasing their women around the kitchen straight back into the bedroom…have you ever stood gaping at your husband, who is sprawled on the couch in front of the same rerun you’d swear was on just last week, and wondered: who made up those LIES?

Oh, it’s not that sex has completely disappeared. It’s just taken a nose-dive into much lesser importance. The car needs to be serviced, the kids taxied here and there, more errands, house and lawn chores, and perhaps for good measure let’s add some work stress. It was a slow decline, barely noticeable in all the goings-on, but tipping steadily.

You blink with the realization. You try to remember when the last time was. And, you can’t!

Here’s a little secret to getting sexual intimacy back on track, if I may share. It’s going to sound silly. Even juvenile. I’ll merely state in my experience, it worked marvelously, and it’s worked for my friends too.

Schedule sex. Literally advertise it. But wait, your approach is going to be subtler than that sounds.

After your next blissful sojourn, hang a calendar in the bedroom where it will be noticed. Affix a gold star identifying the momentous day. When asked why the calendar and oh-ho, that star, erase your judge’s scorecard you mentally raised if performance was slightly lacking, and say “Honey, making love with you made me so happy I wanted to commemorate the day, and you get a gold star!” Keep it light and fun, but ensure your husband understands he pleased you.

Now here’s the hard part for those of us tempted to cajole, harp, whine, bribe, shame, manipulate, or huff – no reminders are allowed to wheedle sex again. Do NOT mention the calendar or even ask about sex. You may use body language to gently encourage but no initiating discussion about it at all. The boldest move you should even consider making, and consider carefully before utilizing it too soon, is to pass by that calendar and run your fingers across the little gold star when you just might have his attention.

If HE brings up the subject, respond positively and very warmly. But let it be his idea. He may not utter the words aloud, but he will be just as aware of that shiny gold star as you are, its significance, and how alone it is amidst a sea of days. Competitive genes, or it is jeans? will be unleashed, or unzipped, or, er, something. Those stars must multiply!

Laura McDonald lives in Frankfort, KY, with her husband Patrick. She is a paralegal. Laura’s interests include psychology, movies, music, and writing. She has created a website called The Third Wives Club, directed primarily to women married three or more times. You may visit her site at: freewebs.com/luckslec/ freewebs.com/luckslec/

When it comes to wedding planning, there are so many details to consider. Whether you are planning a wedding with a large bridal party or a small one, it can be difficult to stay organized. Wedding attire and bridal jewelry play a very important role in any wedding. In fact, the bridal attire and accessories help to set the tone for the ceremony. A traditional bridal party consists of the bride, groom, bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girl, and ring bearer. The adult attendants are generally responsible for buying their attire and accessories, while the flower girl and ring bearer are the responsibility of their own parents.

The average flower girl ranges between the age of 5 and 10. When it comes to the flower girl’s attire and bridal jewelry, it is important that it complements the bride without being overstated. Maintaining a youthful image is important for every flower girl. If you are in a situation where the flower girl is over the age of 10, then it is best to graduate her to a junior bridesmaid. A child over the age of 10 may look awkward as a flower girl.

Some parents make the mistake of over accessorizing their little girl. A flower girl should never wear too much make up or bridal jewelry. While a pair of earrings, a necklace, and a bracelet is acceptable for a young girl to wear, you must be careful not to over do it. If pearls are your accessories of choice, be sure that the pieces of jewelry consist of smaller pearls and single strands. If the flower girl will be wearing silver or gold with rhinestones or crystal accents, make sure that the jewelry is not too extravagant.

Keep in mind that little girls should look and act like little girls. If you allow a flower girl to wear overstated bridal jewelry, a mature hairstyle, or too much make up, she will look more like a contestant in a pageant rather than an attendant in a wedding. As far as makeup goes, foundation is totally unnecessary. You may want to add a small touch of blush and lip-gloss just to give her a little bit of color.

Bridal jewelry is simply an accent to wedding attire. It should in no way shape or form interfere with a flower girl’s ability to look youthful. While a wedding is a formal occasion, it should not be mistaken for a beauty pageant. There are several jewelry dealers that specialize in wedding jewelry for the bride, bridesmaids, and flower girls. It is not difficult to find accessories to meet every attendant’s needs—including the little ones!

Nicole Lindsey writes about fashion, jewelry and weddings for Silverland Jewelry and gifts. silverlandjewelry.com silverlandjewelry.com

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After walking up and starting a conversation with a woman who you find to be attractive you think to yourself everything is going great we got a good vibe going and I think she might like me.

Suddenly she tells you that she has a boyfriend.

What are you supposed to do now?

Well, the first thing you need to do is understand what she really means when she says that she has a boyfriend.

The most common reason why a woman will tell you she has a boyfriend is because she is not only not attracted to you but based on your actions she has also assumed that you like her.

What she wants to tell you is I don’t like you now leave me alone.

But, not too many women are at a point in their life where they would feel comfortable telling this to a man especially if he seems nice.

Of course some women will tell you they have a boyfriend because she really does and you haven’t done anything to make her want to put that relationship in jeopardy.

Then again some women tell you this because you are pushing all of the right buttons inside of her and she wants you, but, only for sex and more often than not she needs you to be discreet about it, since obviously her boyfriend is providing her with something that she deems she need.

At least until you have proven that you are worth more than just a casual fling.

The bottom line is when a woman tells you she has a boyfriend it doesn’t mean much unless or until she walks away.

Of course you also need to ask yourself if you have done anything to make her want you and if not perhaps it is you who should just walk away.

Teddy Shabba is a Dating Coach for Men and creator of

The moment after sex is one the best moments that a couple can ever enjoy. By doing the right things after sex, you will be able to build a closer and stronger relationship bond with your lover.

Many couples go to bathe right away or fall asleep after sex, which are not the best things to do. Especially for a man to fall right asleep after sex, he will turn the woman really off. So what are the things that you can do after sex? Let’s take a look:

1. Embrace each other. Embrace your partner with your arms around him or her and with legs intertwined. By embracing together, your lover will feel your heartbeat and breathing, which will help both of you to feel comfortable and being loved.

2. Have a simple conversation. Tell your lover how much you have enjoyed the sex just now. You can also ask for feedbacks from your lover at this stage of time.

3. Continue stimulating your lover. If your lover has not reached her orgasm yet, as a man you can continue to stimulate her erogenous parts. The man can give her massages and some stroking, or perform an oral sex on her.

The whole procedure after sex should take at least 15 to 20 minutes before you go and have a bath or retiring into the night.

Actions after sex is part of the sexual experience that you and your lover is enjoying. If you do the right action after sex, you will be able to enhance the whole sexual experience and make your partner feel more fulfilled and craving for more.

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Dating online probably appears on its surface to be much safer than traditional dating; you proceed at your own pace and only as far as you feel comfortable, and you don’t have to worry about somebody slipping something into your drink. However, the relative anonymity afforded by online dating means that some measure of caution always needs to be exercised. By taking a few simple steps, you can insure that your online dating experiences will be successful and safe.

The truth is that, at least initially, you don’t really know the person that you are talking to online. All they are to you is a series of words and possibly a photograph, and with that sort of ambiguity it can be easy to create any number of different impressions or images. Detractors of online dating will always point to the extreme examples of physical meetings gone awry after online courtships. I would argue that these examples are extreme and actually more infrequent than with similar stories involving traditional dating. However, they do illustrate several basic guidelines that should be adhered to when you begin to date online.

First and foremost, never proceed at a pace that makes you feel uncomfortable. Whereas in a physical setting you can generally get a “read” or a “vibe” as to the sort of person you are speaking with, online dating makes that sort of gut impression more difficult to come by. It can take extended conversations before you feel comfortable enough to actually meet somebody, and that is perfectly acceptable. Remember that you truthfully don’t know this person at all, and if they begin to pressure you into meeting them sooner than you’re comfortable with, it may be a good idea to simply nip the relationship in the bud.

If at all possible, see if you can find out any information about the person online through mutual friends or acquaintances. One thing is true about the internet: It has made the world infinitely smaller. Chances are good that, between you and your online interest, you share at least one common relationship. Use this to your advantage! Any information that you can find out about this potential romantic prospect is bound to be beneficial, if only for your own peace of mind. If said mutual relationships don’t exist, follow the above advice and proceed at a pace that you are comfortable with.

When it does come time to meet your online interest for the first time, a little common sense goes a long way. It is probably a good idea to make your first meeting public rather than private. Until you know somebody well enough, you might forgo the seclusion of dinner and a movie at one of your homes and instead opt for a restaurant and theater. Until you know somebody well enough and are comfortable with them, having people around when you meet is beneficial. It allows you to get a better feel for the type of person you are speaking with whilst maintaining a safe amount of distance from them.

Finally, never venture out to meet somebody without first telling a friend or family member where you are going. Again, you don’t know this person very well at all, at least initially. Ere you meet them, simply tell a friend of your plans. Give them the other person’s name and phone number, and make sure that you tell your friend where you are going and at what time. Through a series of simple steps, online dating can be just as safe, if not safer, than traditional dating.

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I wanted to KILL her !

As an Ayurvedic healer and creation psychotherapist I work with people who want help to create something new and different in their lives, my methods are direct and guarantee shifts.
Most people come to me because they have tried other ‘therapists’ and ‘got no where’

I have been working with John who has continual arguments with his wife that has become a regular occurrence. He is depressed, sick and tired that nothing changes, they just blow up have another major row, and nothing moves on.
They argue about the same things again and again nothing he says makes any difference, she still does what ever she still does.

‘I sometimes feel like I want to kill her and when I look back at what happened it is way out of proportion to how I feel now when I have calmed down’
He said to me ‘we do not seem to grow from any of these episodes’

After talking with John over the phone I followed up via email and I have copied it into this article, exactly how I sent it to John. Read it through and see if it resonates with your own relationship situation and take steps to change YOUR behaviour and stop trying to change your partners.

Dear John it was good to talk with you today – I have put some notes together for you as promised as reminders – I hope it helps you to get focussed about your responsibility in this relationship.

• To continue to do the same thing again and again and see no changes – is madness – change what you’re doing

• Frustration and anger come from not getting what you want – regardless of what it is you want – acceptance is MUCH better.

• Accept that you will NEVER change your wife or anyone else from a place of anger and frustration, you will however change others from a place of acceptance

You must take a different approach – let go of the wanting to have it your way, regardless of whether you think your way is correct, it does not matter YOUR way at the moment does not work and never will, because it comes from wanting to be in control of what is happening.
She is behaving badly, she should be different, this is what I want – it’s not happening = anger and frustration.

Your wife says ‘I want that’ – she does not get it – she cannot get what she wants = frustration and anger
Everything we experience about anger and frustration can be boiled down to us not getting what WE want from someone else

• You can however get what you want from yourself – less frustration and anger – more peace and happiness by changing YOUR thinking.

‘Hey what about THEM’ why don’t THEY change – well that’s up to them if they are frustrated and angry and miserable then yes they will have to think about what is going on for them, so forget trying to get them to see and change and do what is ONLY possible and that is to shift YOU.
So stop trying to make some one change there is really no point at all

This will be a difficult process because you will not be used to this – but to create a life that has meaning for you and one that is less frustrating you will need to keep a check and an eye on yourself. It can sound like too much hard work. And because it is a new way of thinking it might be hard in the beginning but in the long run it will be much better, you begin now with your self and things will get better and easier. And those around you will shift as well – guaranteed. You must how ever do this for YOU and not so that they will change – notice another ‘control’ issue.

So lets get down to the deeper stuff – what you are angry and frustrated about goes way back in time, your wife and who ever else around you may ‘trigger’ the emotion, but a lot of it will come from past crap – that has been bottled and stays around for years and years.
You will already know that sometimes when you ‘blow’ it is completely out of proportion to what has happened – you just flip!! Yes ?
Well this is the inner crap always bubbling always waiting to pop.

Frustration, anger, resentment, jealousy etc remains bottled in the body like a pressure cooker that begins to bubble and then it blows – into an argument, threats, demands even violence.
Sometimes you have no control over your emotions and this is the GREAT point – just like a child who has a tantrum because she cannot get WHAT SHE WANTS – so do we very mature adults – we flip into tantrum mode – but unlike a child – we are bigger and it is much more aggressive and can be violent. The more it is pushed down with booze, drugs, sex, TV, gambling the more ‘depressed’ we become until the ‘right’ time happens and we have an opportunity to blow and have a row. When the row is over and things have calmed – everyone feels better and settled and things kind of get back to the usual, we get fed up , life is ‘shit’ but we get on with it and resign to our lot – until it begins to build again and POPS in another row.
And on and on it goes – FOR EVER – until something changes.
This is where people decide to have kids – get a divorce – have an affair – move house etc

• But they rarely DO something themselves because its not THEIR fault – it’s the other persons fault – get it?

• So what do we do – first we need to accept the situation for what it is – be clear – OK I cannot change this

• Accept right now that it will not be easy – its simple but not easy – accept this

Explain to your wife that you are going to try and shift YOUR own perception of things – you may not agree with her but you will no longer interfere – because it simply does not make any difference other than fuel both of your inner angst – you see it is all a circle a pattern a game that you are both tied up in.

Explain as caringly as you can – tell her that this is about YOU and not her or anyone else – this is an important step – this is about YOU – no blame no argument
She wants to be in control so you will let her – this is what she THINKS she wants – this will change – but that is another ‘lesson’
It is VERY important that you realise that regardless of what happens that this is for you and ultimately everything around you will shift
You must accept that this is about a control issue and you are giving some of that up – your ego will not like this

Then you must sit back and let go of this control – its not about not being involved or not giving a shit – no its about acceptance of what is – you will offer support when asked and be as caring as you can through this process which will not be a short one.

Now for the crux – you will definitely be challenged and it will be very likely that you will begin to bubble and boil and knowing this in advance can be helpful in itself.

But the real way to ‘heal’ all this stuff paradoxically is that you learn to feel your emotions and take control of releasing them, you get to be in charge of YOU – rather than your emotions being in charge of you.

This is CRUCIAL if you are unwilling to do this then forget everything above – MANY people are reluctant to take action and this is because our feelings are deep and scary and it goes against the grain or our general understanding of what might happen.
Well the beauty of this is that YOU take charge – you acknowledge that you are angry, pissed off and you release these emotions PROACTIVELY in a healthy way and not onto someone else like your wife or other family members – trust me you will – if you continue this cycle the inner frustration and anger will blow up and pour onto everyone around you.
But if you make a choice to release it when it begins to bubble and if it reaches boiling point – you will begin to learn that you are not a victim of others and that you can choose to be what you want to be – which is calmer and happier.
This will not take weeks it will take months – but it will get easier and better and those around you will see it.

Ways to release
1. Scream you head of and say all the profanities that are in you head – little shit, bastard, bitch blah blah blah and MEAN it – but some where no one can hear it. Loads of people go and sit in the car windows shut and do it – trust me it works!
2. Run around the block full speed until you run it off – and make AAAAAA noises – who cares who sees you!
3. Join a gym and beat the crap out of something – this is always a problem if it is not close enough – you need to do it there and then.
4. Sit alone quiet take your anger and frustration with you and BREATH it through – this can be hard but very potent because you are likely to cry and let go and release that way. Feel the emotion STOP and feel it and allow yourself to experience it fully – I guarantee this will open up some doors for you.
5. Shout into a pillow – beat the crap of a pillow.

You MUST find a way that you can release this and know that YOU are choosing to do it in a healthy and accepting way.

Going through the 24 principles in my book The Creating Game will be invaluable as you will begin to release all sorts of inner angst. You can get this from my website thecreatinggame.com/ www.thecreatinggame.com

One last thing that you may be willing to try is EFT emotional freedom technique – I use it with all my clients and on myself all the time – it does what it says. I would be happy to go through it with you at any time – its also in the back of my book

Let me know if you want anymore info and if this has helped

Kind regards

Linda / Vani (Linda’s spiritual name) has a B.A in Communication and Psychology and has studied Integrative Coaching with the Debbie Ford Institute in San Diego, California. She is a Dr Bach mentor and practitioner, an Ayurvedic Trainer and Consultant and an Emotional Therapy Practitioner (EFT). She is currently developing her work in the sphere of Integrative Psychotherapy.

She encourages people to examine themselves and the pains and rigours of their lives, to develop clarity with regard to their daily patterns of nutrition and complimentary activities and from there to develop an in-depth understanding of their health, happiness and wellbeing.
Her book The Creating Game offers 24 principles to creating your life with purpose and direction read more about it on her website

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Life Coach Advice

Single again? As we travel through life, we often end up single. There are many reasons why. It could be the result of meeting the wrong person, death, cheating, lies, divorce, location, goals, and more. Losing a relationship impacts us in many ways. It can be very painful, or it can be very refreshing, or anywhere in-between. No matter what the cause or the degree of pain, there is one truth we all share: We don’t want to end up alone. We want to find companionship.

In order to get into a new relationship, we have to be willing to meet and go out with people. It’s our own fear, however, that often gets in the way.

× We fear getting rejected.

× We fear having a bad time.
× We fear getting hurt.
× We fear having to reject someone else.

All these fears are valid yet easily overcome. If someone rejects you, it only means that that person feels you are not right for them. Believe me, there is someone else who would love to be with you. You have to accept rejection. It is only through trying do we get to the right person.

Many dates and relationships don’t work out. You may look back and think of it as a bad time. It is all right to have a bad time. Only through bad dates do we get to the good dates. It is through our bad relationships that we have the opportunity to learn more about ourselves and what we want, to then approach relationships with more knowledge to succeed.

No one wants to get hurt but if we do not dare to fall in love and get hurt, we cannot be in love. Getting hurt is part of the process. We do get through it and the pain does go away. The best part is there is new love waiting for you.

You may also be fearful of rejecting someone. The truth is no one is obligated to stay with someone who isn’t right for them. Rejection is part of the dating and relationship process.

Change how you look at rejection and see it as a favor. When you reject someone you are releasing him or her to go find someone who will truly appreciate that person. Look at it that way also when someone rejects you. After all, do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t want you? It’s better to be free to find someone who actually wants to be with you.

Can you predict the future? I can’t. In fact, most of us don’t think we can. Yet we continue to believe in self-limiting thoughts about the future. We believe so firmly in these thoughts we allow them to stop us from moving forward and realizing opportunities.

Instead of predicting pain, I can predict for you that if you embrace the dating process instead of watching life pass you by, you will have both good and bad times. I can also predict that these good and bad times will lead you to even better times.

Embrace the journey and release your fear.

About Tools To Life Developed by Life Coach Devlyn Steele, Tools To Life is a revolution in self- development, a 77-day program in which thousands have implemented successful changes in their lives. Devlyn Steele is a public consultant, a private counselor, a radio host and an author. He has hosted his own radio show called “Tools To Life” and has been a guest on over 150 various shows. For more information, visit: lifecoachadvice.com/ lifecoachadvice.com/