A lot of people would love to eventually find their other half. Fortunately for some, it is very elusive. It’s as hard as trying to prove the existence of Bigfoot. The only thing that most people looking for love finds is depression.

However, thanks to the internet, it has sort of leveled the playing fields. Thanks to the internet, you are now given the chance to look for your other half no matter what corner of the world he or she is; providing that his or her place has got internet connections. The person you might be looking for might be from Durkidurkistan, that’s why you’ve had a hard time finding each other.

The internet has provided people with lots and lots of online dating sites. You’d just have to pay the following membership fees, post some pictures, and prepare your profile on these dating sites. These dating sites will be collaborating a whole lot of single people as well. In fact, you could consider dating sites as a melting pot for single people. Because of these, a single person can now have a better and easier task to find a date.

The only thing you’d need to do is learn to properly prepare your profile. Since both of you are not able to see each other or have some 1st impression physically. The best thing you’ve got is your profiles, so you’d better learn to fix it properly if you are hoping to get a date aside from the canteen lady at the public school. Here are some tips that you may consider to make your profile better.

To be able to be in a groove of writing a great personal, imagine yourself being introduced by a friend to a new person at coffee shops, restaurants, bars, etc. Try not to think that it’s your mom introducing you. If you use your mom on your imagination, you will have a biased answer as to how good you are. Think about the friend who is good at criticizing people, at least that friend will give you a realistic view of yourself.

Make your personal ad factual but casual. Remember that you are not writing a resume; unless you are looking for a date with a boss. Make it fun and humorous. The more humorous it becomes the better it attracts others. Just try not to make it too humorous because people will not take you too seriously.

That is only one way to get your profile properly written. Remember the better profile you have the better chances of someone noticing you.

Graham Billingham writes for drdating.com DrDating.com a site filled with help and advice for drdating.com online dating relationships and love.

Gifts are an expression of our feelings. They are a token of appreciation and love towards others. And among the multitudes of gifts available, perhaps no gift can ever be as lovely and expressive as flowers. Flowers bring joy to all who behold them and add a splash of vibrancy to any occasion or event. They have and will always remain the most wonderful gifts on this earth.

There are many florist companies that bring fresh flowers straight from the growers, to offer multitudes of beautiful flowers for all kinds of occasions.

Flora 2000, 1-800-Flowers, Just Flowers, Phillip’s 1-800-Florals, ProFlowers, FTD or Florists Transworld Delivery, Hallmark, Dial-a-Bouquet, Value Flora, Larose, Flower Delivery, Beyond Blossoms, and Speaking Flowers are some companies which provide wonderful varieties of flowers.

For any occasion, the aforementioned companies have a huge selection of flowers to choose from. Roses, tulips, chrysanthemums, lilies, carnations, lavenders, sunflowers, Gerbera daisies, and many more are offered by the companies. Besides, they also offer flowers designed in different ways such as centerpieces, vase arrangements, cut bouquets, novelty arrangements, or simply as a cut and tied fresh flower bouquet.

Research shows that roses are an all-time favorite for all occasions. Available in enchanting colors, they are sure to express what you wish to say. Flowers for Thanksgiving are usually more brightly colored and vibrant, mingling with the autumn shades of the season. As colorful flowers blend in with autumn season, white lilies also match with the festive mood of Easter.

Delivery usually occurs overnight, but if specified, can occur on the same day, too. Nearly all major florists have international delivery systems, too. A hundred-percent-satisfaction guarantee is offered by companies, and some among them also redeliver the gift, if it fails to match your expectations.

Gift flowers are packed in special boxes, and have a personalized message accompanying it. Instructions on preservation and arrangement are always included too. Vases are provided by some companies for an extra fee. For occasions like birthdays or anniversaries, some added accessories might also be included with the gift.

Some companies like Brant Florist, and Speaking Roses offer customized flower bouquets.

There are many florist companies that bring fresh flowers straight from the growers, to offer multitudes of beautiful flowers for all kinds of occasions.

Flora 2000, 1-800-Flowers, Just Flowers, Phillip’s 1-800-Florals, ProFlowers, FTD or Florists Transworld Delivery, Hallmark, Dial-a-Bouquet, Value Flora, Larose, Flower Delivery, Beyond Blossoms, and Speaking Flowers are some companies which provide wonderful varieties of flowers.

For any occasion, the aforementioned companies have a huge selection of flowers to choose from. Roses, tulips, chrysanthemums, lilies, carnations, lavenders, sunflowers, Gerbera daisies, and many more are offered by the companies. Besides, they also offer flowers designed in different ways such as centerpieces, vase arrangements, cut bouquets, novelty arrangements, or simply as a cut and tied fresh flower bouquet.

Research shows that roses are an all-time favorite for all occasions. Available in enchanting colors, they are sure to express what you wish to say. Flowers for Thanksgiving are usually more brightly colored and vibrant, mingling with the autumn shades of the season. As colorful flowers blend in with autumn season, white lilies also match with the festive mood of Easter.

Delivery usually occurs overnight, but if specified, can occur on the same day, too. Nearly all major florists have international delivery systems, too. A hundred-percent-satisfaction guarantee is offered by companies, and some among them also redeliver the gift, if it fails to match your expectations.

Gift flowers are packed in special boxes, and have a personalized message accompanying it. Instructions on preservation and arrangement are always included too. Vases are provided by some companies for an extra fee. For occasions like birthdays or anniversaries, some added accessories might also be included with the gift.

Some companies like Brant Florist, and Speaking Roses offer customized flower bouquets.

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You’ve been dumped. Short of throwing yourself off the nearest bridge, you resort to hiding in your bed for days, comforted only by the fact that at least you have a year’s supply of Moonpies by your bedside and your answering machine is on the alert in the hopeful case that your once loved one might call and beg to have you back.

Only, that call never comes and that box of Moonpies? It’s a constant reminder that the emptier it gets, the more bloated you are. But, you don’t care. You wish the earth would open you up and swallow you whole. Sound familiar?

Cases like this happens everyday.

Falling in love has its risks and you’ve just experienced it first hand. You want your life back but don’t know the first thing about how to get out of that black cloud that hovers over you, or even finding the energy to do it.

What do you do?

Acknowledge the fact that you have to go through three different stages during a break-up. Once you realize this, you can chart your progress and see that it’s only a short trip to recovery.

STAGE ONE – The Hurting Stage

Symptoms: This is the hurting stage. It’s where you are now. It’s your heart’s way of telling you that you have just experienced the worse kind of hurt there is. You cry, you’re depressed and you have no idea how you are going to live without him/her. You leave messages on his answering machine and text him to the point where you are becoming psycho. You drive by his house in the wee early morning to see if his vehicle is still at his house or he is – gulp – off with another woman. You drive by where he works and contemplate going in and crying your eyeballs out to let him know this has hurt you beyond repair. You either eat tremendous amounts of comfort food or you don’t eat at all and your health suffers. You cry on your co-worker’s shoulders and hope they can help you get out of this mess. You are, essentially, gone and a hopeless mess.

How to cope: Now more than ever would be a good time to hang out with friends and watch a few comedies, even though you just aren’t up to it. Rekindle family relationships. Talk to older family members about how they met their husbands/wives and how they coped with troubled relationships. Gain insight from them. Try to remember things that brought you happiness. Was it a bike ride through the countryside? A trip to the beach even in the cold of winter just to watch the waves lap against the shore? How about that closet that is in desperate need of rearranging/cleaning/sorting? Now is the time to focus on you.

You have to acknowledge that this is the normal process of grieving a relationship that has died. Nothing can really help at this point because as with the death of a loved one, this is the same feeling. It’s a natural process. Give it time and remember that soon you will enter the second stage.

THE SECOND STAGE – The Getting Even Stage

Symptoms: Remarkably, when your heart begins to heal, your hurt turns to anger. What nerve he/she had to dump me! You vow you’re going to make his/her life a living hell as long as you are alive. You start dating. Only, these are rebounds. Rebound relationships most times happen in this second stage. Some last, but most do not for the simple reason that you will do anything in your power to inflict pain on the one who did it to you.

How to cope: Once you get to this stage, you’re halfway there. Even though anger is not a healthy feeling to have, it is a normal reaction after you’ve gotten over the feeling of hurt. However, instead of going postal and risk the chance you may do something you’ll regret later, take his/her picture and throw darts at it. Burn love letters. Finalize the break-up by getting rid of everything you have of his/hers. But keep in mind that years from now, you’ll wish you did have some kind of remembrance of the relationship because it’s all part of your life history. Whatever you do keep, look at it as a symbol of how well you did cope and can look at the relationship as a learning experience.

STAGE THREE – The Not Giving a Damn Stage

Symptoms: You wake up one morning and ask yourself what you saw in this person in the first place. Nothing he/she does now bothers you. In fact, you are happy he/she has left because you are ready now to form new relationships, new loves.

How to Cope: You are there. When you hit this last stage, you have finally come to the point where you can go on from here and form new relationships. Relationships that aren’t rebound. When you finally get to this last stage, you will become the person you once were – full of happiness, hope and a quest for life.

Once you realize the three stages of a break-up, it helps you to understand the process that is involved. Just as it took time to fall in love, you don’t just fall out of it overnight.

It helps to remember that there will always be a tomorrow and that there is always that second chance to find that special person who is meant to share his/her life with you. Life is full of second, third and even more chances. So, pick up your heart, go through the process to heal and chalk it all up to experience. You’ll be glad you did. In the words of an unknown author, “Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.”

© Dorothy Thompson

Dorothy Thompson is a relationship columnist and the editor/contributing author of “Romancing the Soul.” She is also the author of the ebook “How to Find and Keep Your Soul Mate.” Dorothy is a popular radio guest and is available for interviews. You can visit her website at dorothythompson.net dorothythompson.net or her blog at soulmateadvice.blogspot.com soulmateadvice.blogspot.com.

A Typical Valentine’s date may go something like this; Send flowers, chocolate, and stuffed animal, Dinner, good restaurant, reveal “big gift” like jewelry, bar for drinks, and maybe dancing, home, sex.

Nothing wrong with the typical date. It has worked for a very long time. I believe it relies to heavily on the Valentine gift, rather than the love that is supposed to be shared. Let’s see if we can do better. Let’s see if we can create a night for her to remember a lifetime!

Imagine your lady coming home on Valentine’s Night and experiencing the following:

As she approaches the house she notices all the lights are off. When she walks in, she hears soft romantic music and sees the candle light. She will begin to wonder what is going on. She sees a note. She reads it, a smile crosses her face. Ok, ok, I’ll play along. She sees a trail of rose petals, she follows to another candle and another note. She reads the note. Looks around, and begins removing some of her clothing. She follows the trail of rose petals into the master bath. As she opens the door she is struck with an awesome sight. A glowing bath, with candles everywhere, and a third note. She removes the rest of her clothing, and slides into the hot bath.

Her lover, her Valentine, enters the bath carrying a tray with drinks, and chocolate dipped strawberries. Oh my, look at what he is wearing. He makes the statement he is there to serve her, his Valentine. They kiss. He then hands her a delicous cold drink. After she takes a sip, he hand feeds her a chocolate dipped strawberry. Mmmm, the hot bath, cold drink, and chocolate start there effects. She begins to relax. All her troubles begin to drift away as she sinks deeper into the tub. Pursing her lips to taste another chocolate strawberry. Another taste of her cold drink. The alchohol, the chocolate, and the atmosphere begin to arouse her.

Her Valentine, her love begins to wash her body with a soothing sponge. They kiss as he washes her. She finds herself wanting him. But, alas, it is not to be yet. He tells her to dress in the outfit he has provided and to meet him in the bedroom. As she stands, he wraps her in an oversized towel, and then disappears.

She put on this beautiful Valentine Lingerie that he has selected for her. The anticipation has made her heart race. She finds more surprises when she enters the candle lit bedroom. They make love. The end… or not.

He has prepared a meal for her. They dress. He takes her by the hand and leads her into the dining room, seats her, and serves her a four course meal. They dance, they talk, they make love.

Get the idea? Here is how you pull this off.

Step One, Preparation: Call your loved ones mother or sister or best friend and tell them you are planning something special and you need to know the following. What size dress does your significant other wear? Is that considered a small, med, or large? Does she like chocolate covered cherries? Does she like grapes? Strawberries? If you already know this information, BRAVO! You just scored major points. If you do this a week or two ahead of time, you can save a few bucks by doing some of your shopping on-line.

Find a window of opportunity. Planning is the key. You need to plan this day, If possible, send her away to see her Mom or Sister or best friend for at least 4-5 hours but, make sure you have an exact time she will be home. This is crucial! Timing is everything! Make sure the house is clean, and the kids are out of the way for the night. You can even tell her you are planning a surprise. Valentine’s Day is all about surprises. Since Valentine’s Day is on a Tuesday this year, you may want to celebrate the weekend before.

Step two, Go Shopping: I know, I know, you’d rather go to the dentist. Relationships are about sacrifice. If you planned ahead, you may already have most of these items and saved yourself a few bucks and some time. You will need the following:

1.)Sexy Valentine Lingerie- Your choice in lingerie is important. Dental floss on an eyepatch is not going to do it. A great article on how to choose lingerie can be found here. you may find a great selection of Valentine’s Day lingerie here

Also, if you really want to go all out… I suggest this Tuxedo Thong, or a Valentine print thong for yourself. You can even have a little fun and pick out something humorous if you like.

2) The Romantic gift. You have got to get her something you know she will love. If she is like most women, she has already started dropping hints, so pay attention.

3) Rose Petals and Flowers- Make sure you pick up plenty of Rose Petals. And some loose flowers.

4) Bath Products- A very specific item that can tip the scale is glow in the dark bubble bath. This stuff is amazing and can really impress your gal. If you can not find this stuff, pick up some regular bubble bath.

Candles- You already know you need them. You need three kinds. Floaters, for the bath, Champagne candels, to mark her way to her surprise, and dinner candles for the table, I suggest long stem rose candles.

5) Food- If you know how to cook, excellent. You just scored major points! Just pick up what you need to cook the meal. Save the final steps of this meal for last. You are going to be very busy before you get to eat, but don’t worry, you will have worked up a huge appetite. I have included some simple aphrodisiac recipes for your Valentine Dinner. [I am not allowed to link to those recipes in this article, so, you'll have to do a search... sorry] Check the recipes for items you will need to pick up. I picked the fanciest and easiest to prepare recipes I could find, you can do this.

If you do not know how to cook, or you don’t want to spend the time preparing a Valentine meal, or if you think you can’t pull of the Valentine recipes I have listed, thats ok. Stop by her favorite restaurant and pick something up. Remember, we are getting her favorites here, try to pick up seafood, or other aphrodisiacs.

Don’t forget the champagne, wine or the ingredients to the love potion drink for something a little different. Check the ingredients and make sure you pick up everything you need.

I have also included the recipe for chocolate dipped strawberries. Any sweet will do, but, chocolate is an aphrodisiac.

Shopping is Done.

Step three, The Notes: You have to let her know what’s going on, and you have to set the mood here. You can write your own notes or feel free to use these;

“Good Evening my Valentine,

Tonight is all about you. If you follow my instructions you are in for a night of romance like you have never experienced before in your life. Why? Because my love for you is deep, and my passion for you grows each and every day. Because we spend too much time in our day to day life, and not enough time on us. Allow me to express my love for you, on this day for lovers, follow my instructions to the letter.

Please leave the music playing, leave the lights off, and follow the rose pedals to the next note.”

Now write the 2nd note:

“ At this point my Valentine, I ask you to remove some clothing- don’t worry, tonight is just the two of and I am not allowed to see you as of yet. Our passion together will be forever remembered. Please follow the rose pedals to the next note.”

Now write the 3rd note:

“Are you ready my Valentine? Tonight I plan to express my love in a way that words would never do.
Tonight our passion will reach heights we have only dreamed of.
Please remove the remainder of your clothing and follow the rose pedals into the bathroom. And read the last note.”
* you may also insert a Valentines Day love poem at this time.[I am sorry, but once again I am not allowed to link to the poems I have prepared for you, you will have to do a search]
Now write the 4th and final note:

“Your bath is drawn, I will be in to serve you momentarily. Please slide into the bath. Make yourself comfortable and just relax”

Notes Done.

Step four, the set-up: 30 to 40 minutes before she is due to arrive. You have to put everything into place. Put the first note somewhere close to where she will enter the house and find it quickly. Spread some of the rose pedals out into a trail leading about one third of the way to the bathroom and place the 2nd note. Lay out more rose pedals to about two thirds of the way to the master bath and place the third note. And another trail of rose pedals leading to the final note in the bath.

Set a large candle at each note. Do not light yet.

Spread some rose petals out on the bed. Place several candles around bedroom.

Set the romantic gift of choice out on the bed.

Place the lingerie in the bathroom. I suggest hanging the lingerie on the back of the bathroom door.

Set several candles about the bathroom as close to the tub as possible without catching any towels on fire. Do not light yet.

Pick out some soft romantic music. Your choice. I can suggest Barry White, Luther Vandross, or something along that line. Turn it on. Hopefully you have a CD player and can set it up to loop two or three CD’s You don’t want the music to stop in the middle of this if you can help it.

Ensure that meal is going to stay hot, or is at the point where it can be heated or finished in 5 minutes or less.

If you elected to go with a costume of your own, put it on.

10 minutes before her arrival, (you may want to verify this if possible, call her on cell phone, or find out from wherever she was) light the candles to get the aroma in the air.

Start the tub. If you are using the suggested glow in the dark bubble bath, leave the lights on until she pulls in the drive. Make sure you run the water on the VERY hot side so that it will be at a nice temperature when she climbs in and put in the rose, or heart shaped floating candles.

Arrange the snacks ( Strawberries, grapes, or what ever you chose) onto a platter on top of the kale with two glasses of the drink of choice. A nice heart shape arrangement would go nicely with the Valentine theme.

When she pulls into the driveway. Take platter and get out of site (don’t spill the drinks). Turn off lights on the way including bathroom light (one light at entrance is allowed to be on). Hide in a closet, a spare room, or something. Do not answer her if she calls for you.

Step Five, Action: When she has had a chance to get into the tub and settle in, it is time for you to put the play into action. Walk in with the tray and say something like “ My sweet Valentine, I have a snack and a drink for you.” give her the drink, and HAND feed her the snack of choice. Offer to wash her back, use an oversized sponge, wash her back and allow yourself to rome freely washing the rest of her body. Make sure you mention how sexy she is.

DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT engage in sex at this time! Build the atmosphere up. No matter how hot she gets, or you get, do not start sex yet !!!! We don’t want to settle for a quick roll in the hay, we want a night to remember forever. You may use your mouth, and hands to tease her as much as you want. Keep feeding her the snacks and allowing her to drink.

Before the water turns cold, and before you get to the point where you can no longer resist her. Stand up and say something like:

“ You may now dry off ( hopefully you made sure there were clean, dry towels in the bathroom), and please put on the outfit that is hanging on the door, and join me in the bedroom.” This is about her, but you still have control.

Go to the bedroom, and wait for her beside the bed. Do not get in the bed yet. You want her to see the layout.

When she enters the room, be sure to make a big deal about how sexy and beautiful she looks!!

Now wave your hand out to display what you have displayed out on the bed. Her Valentine gift, the oils, and rose petals.

Step six, give up control: At this point all you have to do is remain quiet, and let her take control. I am going to assume you know how to go about the rest of this step. I’m not making a porno book here.

Step Seven, the coupe de gras: This is perhaps the most important step. It is known as post play or after play. This is the step that wins your Valentine’s love and creates the lasting me. Kind of like going for the two point conversion after the touchdown. By now, you will both have an appetite worked up. Put your outfits back on, with or without robes. Take her by the hand, lead her to the dining room, light the table candles, serve her dinner, and TALK to her. Don’t just talk to her, listen to her. Talk about her, and her needs. Put all your problems aside. Just talk to one another. I have included a recipe for a coffee drink that will impress her. Spend many hours here.

(Note: My girlfriend loves this part!)

If you are not married, this would be a great way, and time to pop the question.

Offer to dance with her. You may even end up making love once again on the table.

No matter what gift you got her, the focus is now on how romantic the evening is, and how much she loves you. She is likely to brag about this night for a long time to come. The best part is, she will be trying to figure out how she can plan a night for you to remember forever.

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