The number one mistake made by men on the first date is trying to buy love. The first date is not a marriage proposal; it’s merely an opportunity to measure compatibility. If it doesn’t work out, you will have spent all that cash on a fancy restaurant and red roses for nothing. Unfortunately, the IRS has not declared bad dates to be tax deductible expenses.

Even if the first date leads to a second one, it might be going there for all the wrong reasons. You can buy a beer, a pizza, a house, a diamond necklace, a car, but you cannot under any circumstances buy love. What you can do is make a woman show her deep affection for all your money, and since it’s your money she’s fallen for, when it’s all gone, she’s going to be gone too. If you spend all your money on the first date by showering them with luxuries, what’s going to happen on the second date when three Krystal burgers and a small fry replace the seven course gourmet meal? Trust me. It’s not going to be pretty. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Save some for a rainy day.

The second slip-up some men make on a date is one of the worst mistakes a man can ever make. There are many things that you can discuss on a date, but there is one topic which you should never bring up in a first date conversation, other women. Whether it is your ex, the blind date you had last week, or even your mother, the identity of the person does not matter. What matters is that women do not like hearing about other women. A woman likes to believe she is the only female in your life, even if it is just for one two hour date.

In addition, the last thing the same woman wants to hear is you telling her about the reasons that you left your ex. Eventually after hearing you talk about your ex so much, your date will soon be telling others that you were the worst date that she ever had. If your mother is all you can find to talk about on a date, then the odds are that you are still living home with her, and no woman wants a man who doesn’t have his own place.

The third error in judgment that some men make on a first date is just as disastrous as the mistake mentioned above. Don’t talk about sex on the first date. Here’s the short and sweet deal on the topic of sex. If a woman was solely interested in sex, then she wouldn’t even be out on a date with you; she would be home with her vibrator. Enough said about that. Let’s move on to error number four.

Along those lines, don’t be overly friendly on your first date. A handshake is sufficient and maybe a goodbye hug if both parties show some interest, but do not have your hands all over your date. This person may not find you attractive in the least. Even if there is attraction present, some people may not be comfortable being pawed on the first date. Once again, if it was simply about sex, your date would be at home.

The fifth mistake that men make on the first date is not being real. If you are a janitor, don’t try and dress it up by calling yourself a Maintenance Engineer. Keep it real!! If you are very happy driving your Chevy Cavalier, don’t tell your date that you are buying a Hummer soon. Months from now when your date is looking to ride in that Hummer, where will you be from then? Keep it real! Be honest about yourself. Lies will only come back to hurt you.

Avoiding these mistakes will increase your odds at the dating game. Hopefully, luck will fall on your side, and the first date will be just a beginning.

Ann Bendis writes about singleattractions.com online dating and relationships at singleattractions.com singleattractions.com

If you thought it was tough getting an anniversary gift for number eight, it doesn’t get much easier with number nine. But don’t fret. We’re going to sort this mess out and hopefully come up with some decent traditional and modern ideas so that you can get your spouse a gift that he or she will love and cherish for many years to come.

Just a side note. It is quite possible that the reason they make getting a gift for anniversary number nine so difficult is to make you appreciate making it to the big number ten. So, having said that, let’s examine the obstacles you’ll need to get through in order to make it to that magic number ten.

The traditional gift for number nine is almost identical to number eight. Not quite sure why this is but there had to be reason. Number eight was bronze or pottery and number nine is pottery or willow. For those of you who don’t know what willow is, or what can possibly be made out of it, don’t fret. We have the definition and items right here.

Willow, for you non naturists and according to the dictionary definition, “is a tree or shrub of the genus salix. It is characterized by narrow, lance-shaped leaves and dense catkins bearing small flowers, many species having tough, pliable twigs or branches used for wickerwork”. Great. So what can you get that’s made out of this stuff? Well, what you have to do is find a wood item that is at least partially made from one of these trees. In other words, good luck. Most wood items are not specifically marked as to what kind of wood they are made out of unless you are talking about furniture, which is mostly made out of your more common woods like oak, pine and mahogany.

However, there is one thing in particular that is made from willow. It’s a cricket bat. Okay, maybe cricket isn’t something that’s played all over the world, but if by some chance your spouse happens to be an avid cricket player, which isn’t likely, then this is the perfect gift.

Since we’re covered pottery for anniversary number eight, we’re going to just skip over to the modern gift for number nine which is linen and lace. Well, finally. Something easy. Guys, your wife would love nothing better than some nice new curtains for the living room, or any room for that matter. Lace curtains are absolutely beautiful and she will love you for it. Or if you want to go the linen route, you can get her a nice linen table cloth for the dining room table. Ladies, you might just want to get your husband a cricket bat.

Okay, anniversary gifts for number nine aren’t the easiest to come up with. But with a little brain power, you’ll manage to come up with something and make it to that magic number ten, which is a whole lot easier and a lot more enjoyable as well.

Michael Russell
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With the passage of time a relationship looses its charm and freshness. All seems to be boring and stale. That love and romance disappears from your relationship. You no longer feel the way you felt in the beginning. Did to ever try to find the answer to it? If not then here is the answer.

When two people first come together in a relationship, it starts with cuddling each other. At the start everything is rosy; there is love in the air. You cuddle each other all the time. But as time passes by all this cuddling each other lessens day by day. The love starts vanishing.

You feel your love to be as young and new as ever if you are in the habit of cuddling each other. It gets you close and brings warmth in the relationship. A cold relationship does not stay for long. You feel miles apart if your relationship lacks that warmth. You do not feel close to each other. You find it hard to share your feelings with each other. You feel more like strangers than close friends.

Cuddling is an essential part of love. It keeps the freshness of love. Cuddle each other whenever together. When your mate is in bed reading a book, sitting on a couch watching a movie just get close to and say you want to cuddle. Just hold hands while watching a movie or just rest over the shoulder of your partner when he or she is reading. Cuddle each other in whatever way you can. It is just another way of saying that you care and love your partner. Cuddling brings a warm wave of sensation in you that make you lively and energetic. It never lets your love fade and is a boosting element in your relationship.

Cuddling has a relaxing power. Whenever somebody cuddles you, you feel nice and relaxed. Your body is rejuvenated. Make it a point to cuddle each other and touch each other. Just hold hands, sit close to each other, touch arms and kiss each other. Make an effort to touch your spouse and cuddle to let your loving going. Cuddle your partner like you cuddled you teddy bear when you were a child. It is addictive and gets you both really close.

Being parents does not mean you stop cuddling and loving each other. When you have become parents make an extra effort to cuddle each other. You don’t have to go dating anywhere. You can just cuddle each other when in bed or watching movies. Just cuddle each other to keep your love as young as ever. Getting old does not mean to stop loving. Get matured but and keep you and your love as fresh and young as ever. Never let that spark of excitement get away from your love life.

So whenever in bed or on couch remember it’s cuddle time! Get used to cuddling your partner and make your relationship new and fresh as it was in the beginning. Let that charm and excitement never fade from your life.

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Have you thought of butterflies for your wedding? Yes, butterflies. Butterflies are being released at more and more weddings every day. They make a spectacular display when they are released, either individually or as a mass. And when released, they don’t just fly away. No, to the guests’ delight; they will fly all around, and some may even land on them.

Imagine, you have just said your vows and have been pronounced husband and wife. You walk outside and are handed a beautiful decorated box. You open the lid and dozens of butterflies emerge. Your guests all gasp and smile as the butterflies fly around and land on their clothing, corsages, or nearby flowers. What a sight to behold. Guests will be taking pictures of the butterflies that stick around to continue to celebrate your day.

Butterflies represent new life and hope. There is an old Indian legend that states if you catch a butterfly and whisper your wish to it, upon releasing the butterfly your wish will be granted. What a beautiful symbolism to begin your new life together by releasing butterflies? Many places no longer will allow brides to throw rice or bird seed. This makes a great alternative to that custom and also has such significance.

The Monarch, with its grand orange and black colors, is the most popular butterfly for a release. They are a nice sized butterfly that flies gracefully around. Second in line, is the Painted Lady. This small butterfly with its oranges, whites, and browns look lovely in displays. They are happy to walk around on flowers, showing off their colors. Not all butterflies can be shipped into all states. They are regulated by the USDA. A butterfly breeder can tell you which butterflies you are allowed to release in your area.

For your release, you have two options on how to do a release. You may either release them individually or as a mass. When releasing individually, the number of butterflies can range from two butterflies, for just the bride and groom to release, or enough butterflies for each and every guest to release. The other release method is a mass release. This is when the butterflies are released from a decorated box, or basket. The number of butterflies for a mass release can range from a couple dozen on up to how spectacular you would like to make it. Generally, the bride and groom do the mass release, but there are no set rules.

For your reception, you can decorate with butterflies. The Painted Ladies look lovely in small terrarium centerpieces. You can use a mixture of butterflies in larger displays. A butterfly breeder can help talk over all of the different options you have with butterflies as a display.

No, you probably won’t be able to color coordinate the butterflies to your wedding colors. But with the display they give with their release, no one will notice they aren’t your wedding colors. You can’t release them inside of buildings. Unfortunately, they would not make it outside, so they would not survive. And if it is raining, your butterflies will not fly. But you can then use them for displays at your reception and release them at a more suitable time. Because butterflies are cold blooded, the temperatures must be at least 60 degrees or higher. Some butterflies require at least 70 degrees or higher for a successful release. Generally for this area, and depending on the temperatures, butterflies can be released starting in May and going thru till September.

The butterfly is struggling to survive in our world today. Development is erasing the plants they need to lay eggs and feed on. Chemicals used to kill weeds on the sides of roads, farmers’ crops, and on those “perfect” yards are killing many caterpillars and their food source. By handing out seed packets as favors, and releasing butterflies, you not only get a lovely addition to your wedding, but you also are helping the plight of the butterfly. Who knew helping the ecology could be so lovely and rewarding also.

Jodi Hopper is the owner and operator of Wish Upon A Butterfly. Jodi Hopper raises butterflies for release at weddings, parties, anniversaries, and other types of events or celebrations. Jodi specializes in raising quality Monarchs and Painted Ladies for releases. The butterfly farm is open for tours in the summer. She also carries the Butterfly Wish Bouquet along with a line of terrariums for butterfly displays.