Men love to have oral sex. No surprise there. But what many women don’t know is that sometimes a guy will prefer to have oral sex rather then intercourse. There are several reasons for this.

1. Doesn’t take much time.

2. Man doesn’t have to work (let’s be honest)

3. Feels good.

There are more, but you get the point.

Many women think they are good at oral sex. Some are. But if your man were honest with you he would tell you that he would not want oral sex at all rather than having it done poorly.

Here are some tips to help you give your man the pleasure that you want him to have.

1. Go Easy. This is a very tender area for a man. Even pressure is nice, but too much pressure will certainly take most of the pleasure away for a man. Many nice evenings have been ruined by rough play. This is one time were guys like it nice and easy.

2. Ask him what he likes. Every man is different. Where one man will like one thing another man will like something different. Don’t assume your man is like other men. Ask him how he likes it. At that point adjust what you are doing to give him the pleasure that will make him feel like an individual.

3. Smell is important. Try to involve all of the senses possible. Smell is very important. It is very sensual. If he has a favorite perfume, wear it. The more senses involved, the more intense the experience will be.

4. Go slow. Don’t go to fast. Unless your man likes it that way or it is a quickie, don’t speed through it like you are late for a bus. Most men want to enjoy the experience of being with you and the longer it last the better it is.

Of course, don’t go so slow that it takes hours. At some point you have to land the plane and get off the runway. Moderation in everything

5. Don’t play with it. I think this is the biggest complaint most men have. Don’t keep playing around, teasing and wasting time. This is not the time to be calling it pet names, talking to it or putting little hats on it.

Stop it. At some point it just gets frustrating and you can actually ruin the mood. This is serious sexual business and now is not the time for games. Fun is nice, but teasing is frustrating.

6. Sound is important. This goes back to involving as many senses as possible. You don’t have to make sounds like a porn star to be effective. Just a few words, noises or sounds will really enhance the pleasure of the moment.

7. Know your man. This is the most important part. Every man is an individual. Know what he likes. Don’t just assume because you have heard that is what men like. Ask him and he will tell you what pleases him. The main thing is to have an open dialogue and you can’t go wrong.

Most men will not say anything because average is better than none. Give your man the sexual pleasure that you want him to have. Make it the best for him and watch him make it ever better for you. Enjoy.

I hope that you like this article. hotsexyfriend.com If you did do me a favor and accept this FREE Membership. It is quick, easy and best of all, did I mention it was FREE. Also for more tips visit my site at hotwomensecrets.com hotwomensecrets.com I wish you the best in your relationships.

The relationship between a man and a woman is one of the most beautiful and emotionally rewarding bonds. However, the best of relationships after a while tend to reach a plateau of comfort which is almost platonic. Both partners may still be deeply attached emotionally however when it comes to sex there would have no more sparks. Bedroom becomes the place where they both take rest period. Unfortunately, the popular belief is that this stage is okay and expected out of committed partners and it is endured as such.

Contrary to the popular belief, sex need not take a second seat in your relationship. The key to keeping it exciting and on-the-go is in your hands. You (both partners) need to work hard at it to keep the excitement and the physical attraction alive. Remember, sex is one of the most important ingredients of a marriage/ serious relationship. The waning of desire is often a warning sign that things are sliding down. Hence sexual attraction and satiation is something that you need in your life big time if you want your relationship to grow better.

One of the easiest ways to rekindle the passion in your life is with the help of sexy lingerie. By the way, sexy lingerie does not always mean cut bras and crotch less panties. These are there too, but these are meant for people who are already comfortable with the concept.

Sexy lingerie is actually one of the best means to highlight a woman’s finest features to herself and her man. This works wonders because (i) man is a visual ‘animal’ and is totally turned when he sees such ‘presentation’ and (ii) woman needs to know she is beautiful to feel beautiful. It is important for a woman to feel attractive to act seductive, to be turned on.

The moment a woman wear sexy lingerie and sees what it makes her body to look like, she is mentally transformed into a seducing siren ready to fire her partner’s desire/ and her own. There is no aphrodisiac that works better than the look of desire in your partner’s eyes. Hence, this works both ways.

Fortunately you have a lot of choice in the market when it comes to sexy lingerie. The most popular is the black and red color silk lingerie which not only feels luxuriant next to the intimate skin, but also looks mind blowing when worn. It does not matter what type of body you have, petite or voluptuous – a set of well chosen lingerie can put back the fire into your relationship in no time.

Buying and wearing lingerie is such a simple yet so effective measure to rekindle passion that you would wonder why you did not think of it before! It is never too late – you can start today!

www.eSensuality.com offers articles and information on

As adults we think that we are independent, but in reality very few people are truly independent. They’re just grown up kids.

We think that once we hit the age of 18 we must be independent.

But we’re really not.

Why? Because of the relationships they have with other people and resources.

If a person is in any type of co-dependent relationship they are not independent, they are co-dependent.

If a person ‘has’ to go to work because they ‘need’ the income, they’re not anywhere near independence. That rules out most of our population right there.

Financial independence is a huge part of this, but it’s not everything. It’s just a whole different topic to cover..

Most people live their entire lives without being fully independent or achieving the freedom they could have. They have no idea how powerful and liberating independence could be.

They don’t realize how they would absolutely minimize drama while getting the most value and happiness out of all relationships.

The most powerful people in the world are independent and have a special type of relationship with other people and resources.

It’s called interdependence. Interdependence is based on the respect of someone else’s independence. There’s no room for manipulation, coercion, oppression or backstabbing.

Instead, it’s when two people can pool their independent efforts together. They can exchange value or resources to benefit each other and have a win/win relationship founded on respect and
value instead of oppressing the other person.

It takes some backbone to stand up and ‘be’ independent especially when other people want to keep you limited in co-dependent or oppressive relationships.

When we had a barter economy in the early 19th century and there were more business owners, people had more independence. They exchanged and traded with other business owners.

Look at the co-dependent ‘you owe me’ poverty mentality throughout much of America and compare it to even poorer countries where people take accountability and ‘find’ a way to make money such as being street vendors or hawking items.

Times have obviously changed. We have a different mainstream relational reality which we just take for granted. People think that they must ‘go to a job’ and do the 9-5 but they only think
that because it was what they were conditioned to believe and didn’t see anything else.

The people who really have power and money have different relationships. They put together interdependent systems to provide opportunities for other people to be in a transactional
exchange relationship; their work time for dollars.

I’m talking about the ‘j.o.b.b.’ So many people will be continually stuck in this cycle dubbed the ‘rat race’ by Robert Kiyosaki because of the relationship they have with money and the other relationships they have in their life.

People don’t realize the amount of power potential they have if all they did was change their relationships.

The past decisions they made determined where they are now whether they want to take accountability or not.

Key to actualizing your independence is by stepping up and taking accountability. You will then (ideally) free yourself from any limiting factors (including the ‘need’ for money).

In the movie ‘Joe vs. the Volcano’, Joe realizes the importance of life and finally steps up and claims his independence.

He goes back into his office with his true independence and in a show of bravado he quits his job and asks the secretary out who he never asked before.

I’m not saying to quit your job. The way I did it was I worked in the evenings building something up when I wasn’t at my regular jobs.

Though at the time of this writing I’m not financially independent just yet, I’m getting close.

I haven’t had a ‘job’ in 8.5 years if you exclude the Army (‘it’s an adventure’). I have a home office and I wake up when I want and I don’t have to be stuck in traffic like everyone else running the rat race.

I’m closer than most to full independence (which includes debt freedom) but there’s still a ways to go. People will respect you wherever you go when you accept the power of your own
independence.

Then you can operate win/win with other people, even with those of greater social power than you. Why? Because of the types of relationships you have.

So I encourage you to seek the resources if you’re interested in more satisfaction in life, less drama, less psychological abuse or opression and work towards ultimate freedom.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and social dynamics.

Learn how to be an alpha male who is comfortable in his own skin and succeeds with women and dating. Join the newsletter and get instant access to actually see the ’secret of women’ for yourself @ secretofwomen.com secretofwomen.com

You’ve finally made it. The big one-oh. Ten years of wedded bliss and you finally get the chance to give your spouse a really great anniversary gift. So what do they throw at you for the traditional options? Tin and Aluminum. No, that is not a typo and you’re not being punked. You’re probably wondering who the joker is who thought these up. Well, don’t bother trying to find out. Whoever it is has left people scratching their heads for centuries trying to understand how such an important anniversary can have such jokes for gifts. Fortunately, the modern day gift idea is a lot better. We’ll cover both of these in this article.

Okay, maybe the traditional gift ideas are a bit odd but believe it or not, you can actually come up with a few okay ideas if you just use a little imagination. For starters, you can get your spouse some jewelry made out of tin. She or he will certainly be surprised. If you want to be a little more serious you can get your spouse an aluminum watch. Yes, believe it or not, they do make these. You just have to know where to look. Go to about.com and you’ll find a few places.

This is a little sneaky, but many of the more exotic teas and coffees come in tin or aluminum cans. So you can run on down to your specialty coffee house and pick up a couple of cans. Technically, it’s still within the parameters of the traditional gift idea. After the tea or coffee is gone you can always use the can for holding pencils.

Another sneaky thing you can do is look for a puzzle or game that comes in a tin or aluminum can. There are actually quite a few of these today including a very unique Monopoly set that comes in a large square tin can.

Something that is a little more common, is an aluminum or tin jewelry box. If you want to really surprise your spouse, you can get some jewelry to put inside the box. If he or she complains that it’s not part of the allowed gifts you simply say that the jewelry came with the box. You might get some dirty looks but you’re sure to get a smile afterwards.

If you want to be a little more practical, you can always get some aluminum tableware. It may not be terribly romantic, but sometimes practical is nice. You can get a variety of items for the table in aluminum such as carafes, stuff to drink out of, platters, trays and pitchers.

If all of this is just a little too “they gotta do better than this for a tenth anniversary” then you might want to just go with the modern day gift which just happens to be diamond jewelry. You know what they say about diamonds being a girl’s best friend. Since you’re going to see diamond down the road again, you might want to go with something simple and relatively inexpensive. Otherwise, when you get to number fifty, it’s going to be hard to outdo yourself.

And number ten was supposed to be an easy one. Talk about tough anniversary gifts.

Michael Russell
Your Independent guide to anniversary-gifts-guides.com/ Anniversary Gifts