It’s Saturday night and you are out at yet another singles event. You felt some reluctance about signing up, but this one offered promise- a different crowd, nice venue and a convenient location. Two of your friends are meeting you, so at least the evening should not be a complete bust. It seems that you have done all the right things in order to maximize your opportunity to meet people, and always put a lot of effort into looking your best- so why do your efforts usually leave your feeling like a wallflower, with no prospects on the horizon. What are you doing/not doing?

There are many singles out there, looking for love. In their quest to meet compatible people- they often invest a great deal of time and money on their appearance and on finding and utilizing the resources available to help and enhance their search. These include everything from clothing, transportation and costs for their personal ad to self-help books, matchmakers and fees that cover the many singles events they attend. Many of these are necessary “expenses” that will increase one’s probability of meeting Mr./Ms Right – however, an important aspect may be getting overlooked. First impressions are received through our two primary senses- visual and auditory- yet how we look often gets all the attention as folks forget about the importance of what and how they relate and communicate about themselves.

The missing piece is the “dating elevator speech.” You are probably familiar with this concept as an “elevator speech” is a networking tool used in a professional context by those who have placed an importance on having an interesting and succinct way to describe their chosen career – and it must be brief enough to articulate in the time it takes to share an elevator ride with the listener.

The world of dating often places singles in situations that require they be able to get and hold that interesting someone’s attention – yet only have two minutes or so to accomplish this before the moment (opportunity) has passed. You know, that cute guy or girl in front of you at the grocery store, riding on the metro, ordering a drink next to you at the bar, standing alone at the singles event, etc. Often you struggle to come up with something to say that comfortably gets their attention- but do you know how to showcase your positive traits and do it briefly? It may be easier than you think.

Begin by coming up with a list of your three most unique and positive characteristics. Avoid using just adjectives here. An example could be that you are a funny guy BECAUSE you are quick with the comebacks and known by your friends as the one who is always sure to offer comic relief in any tough situation. In other words, come up with an example for each trait you list- from funny, well educated and never boring to risk-taker, world traveler, certified scuba diver, pilot, etc. The key here is to heighten your own awareness of the traits you think most speak to who you are and what the other person should know about you. Once you have done this, you need to package it in a way that allows you to SHOW these traits to someone- not just recite them.

Woman sees cute guy standing alone at singles event, as room is quickly filling up. She has given careful thought to her dating elevator speech and with a clear awareness of what she wants to convey, approaches him. She walks over with confidence and an open and inviting manner, as she looks him in the eye and displays a warm smile. She uses her great sense of humor by making a tasteful joke about the place they are standing in, the food, the night’s planned events, etc. Her humor is funny, generic, not self-deprecating and elicits a smile back from him, as he feels more at ease. He asks her the standard questions- her name, where she lives/works, how she know about the event, etc. After each, she gives a very brief, but interesting response and poses the same or similar question to him. He likes her smile, sees her sense of humor, finds her work and passions (1 or 2) interesting, and gets the sense that she is bright, confident and a good listener. How did she do this in a couple of minutes? She showed him her sense of humor; she projected an air of confidence and interest in him- and an ability to listen deeply and well. She offered brief and interesting highlights about her career and interests – things he could relate to or that wetted his appetite and left him wanting to know more. In other words, she delivered her dating elevator speech effectively- good enough to help her stand out in the sea of singles and lead to an exchange of numbers/emails and a tentative plan to get together again.

Toni Coleman, LCSW is a psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of consum-mate.com consum-mate.com. As a recognized expert, Toni has been quoted in many local and national publications including; The Chicago Tribune, The Orlando Sentinel, New York Daily News, Indianapolis Star and Newsweek newspapers and Family Circle, Cosmo Style, Tango, Men’s Health, Star (regularly quoted body language expert), and People magazines. She has been featured on ABC news, Discovery Health, AOL news, MSN, and Match. Toni is also the featured relationship coach in “The Business And Practice Of Coaching,” ( Norton,September 2005); and is the author of the forward for,” Winning Points With The Woman In Your Life, One Touchdown At A Time” (Simon and Schuster, November 2005). From March 2005 until December 2005, she was a weekly contributing commentator (love and dating coach) on the KTRS Radio Morning Show, (St. Louis, MO). Toni is a member of The International Coach Federation, The International Association of Coaches and The National Association of Social Workers.

When trying to find a date online, the most important aspect is represented by your image. Your image consists of your description about yourself and, of course, your image also includes your photo. All the details that regard your image must be in perfect “shape”, in order to place you on the right way of finding an “Internet romance”. For sure, when you meet a new person (especially a woman), you look in her eyes, you memorize the features of her face, you notice her hair color, general physiognomy and so on. After all this, you can create your impression regarding the woman’s attractiveness. So, the main idea is that appearances matter, especially when meeting somebody for the first time. And as online dating is as real as the traditional type of dating, the photo is the one which represents your appearance. This is the main reason why you need to be very careful when you select the photo that you want to display. If you are interested in online dating, then you must have noticed by now that not all people choose to display a photo of them. Pictures of movie stars, celebrities, animals, or models often replace the image of the members. But the fact is that this is not helpful at all, if wanting to find a date online. As a matter of fact, it is useless. So, if you are trying to hide your image, forget about being successful.

When selecting your picture, you should think about one detail: if everything goes well, you will actually get to meet one of the female members of the sites. So then, think that your picture has to reflect the reality. It has to be flattering, sure, but it has to look like you. So, forget about Photoshop or about other photo editing programs. There is one thing that makes all people look well: smiling. This means that you should select a photo where you are smiling. Furthermore, smiling is the thing that says about you that you are fun, social and communicative. And these qualities are appreciated by most women out there. It is better to post more than one photo of yourself. You can choose a close-up photo and others from a longer distance. In any case, you must show both your face and your body figure. Regardless of the way you look, you will seem an open and honest person if you choose to do so.

There is another detail that you shouldn’t forget when selecting the photos: they shouldn’t be older than one year. Just like it is not a good idea to hide your image, it is not a good idea to hide your age. All the photos that you select must be clear and of high quality. Make sure that the viewer can identify you clearly from the picture. It might not be such a bad idea to ask some of your female friends about the selected pictures – they will offer you a woman’s perspective upon your photo. And this is what you need, right?
Finding romance on the Internet might not be as hard, if you are choosing a flattering and appropriate photo of yourself. So, from now on, you know what to do in order to find a date online!

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Magic is known to be of two types, white magic and black magic, and both have been performed since ages. White magic is mainly used to create a positive effect whereas black magic has always had a negative aspect to it. Black magic and love spells together are considered a strong combination, as black magic involves a lot of spells that help to create wonders in love related matters. Black magic has always been known as evil but black magic love spells can be used in a positive way. For instance, these spells are normally used to protect love and get back lost lovers. Hence, at times people do not refer to black magic as being evil, instead it is regarded as a concept to remove all the dark clouds from life by a different means than a white magic spell would.

Black magic love spells involve a lot of witchcraft and objects such as voodoo dolls. The most important thing that is involved to cast a black magic love spell on a person is energy. The entire black magic procedure is based on energy levels. The spells come in various types and serve different purposes. For instance, there are spells to reunite lost lovers, to have healthy marriage relations, to get back love who is with someone else, to improve love relations, to change a friend’s mind and attract him towards love, and so on. Black magic love spells also include gay spells, break up spells, and lust or sex spells. Gay spells are designed to help gay and lesbian people fall in love with each other whereas lust spells helps to improve sex appeal between two lovers. Break up spells are normally used to end relationships thereby bringing an end to love amongst lovers.

There are a number of black magic love spells offered online through various websites. Some of these sites sell the spells for different prices, others give them away. People can also receive various spells from experts by giving them the concerned person’s name and date of birth. Though some people do not take black magic as evil but controlling a person by crossing the line in a blatant manner is negative in every way, as it is done without the person’s consent.

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You are looking for a fun and unique way to have your guests sign in at your wedding. The only problem is you are not quite sure on how to achieve this. You could do many different things but you are not sure of what you would like to do. You could purchase a sign in mat and display it in a frame, you could have a unique wedding guest book…choices choices. I suggest that if you are looking for a truly unique and fun way to have your guests get involved and make a instant keepsake then you are wanting a signature guest book platter.

Signature guest book platters come in many different shapes, sizes, colors, personalization and prices of course. So below I have listed some of the many different signature guest book platters that you have to choose from.

Bride and Groom Platter

Your wedding memories will be the talk of the town on this porcelain platter. The simple and elegant art work of the bride and groom has hand decorated pink accents with “Our Wedding Day” text scrolling along the bottom. Using the permanent black pen that is designed to write on porcelain finishes; guests can sign their names and thoughts to create a one of a kind gift. This signature platter is one of the most popular one. Great way to express your thoughts and feelings on their wedding day. Excellent choice.

Personalized Guest Book Platter

Create a unique keepsake for your next special occasion. This oval platter is perfect for weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, or any special celebration! Using the permanent black pen that is designed to write on porcelain finishes; guests can sign their names and thoughts to create a one of a kind gift. When you get this personalized it just makes for an awesome keepsake.

Palm Trees Platter

Bring in the romance of a beach breeze with this classy commercial grade porcelain platter. It’s a unique and cute way to keep your guests preserved somewhere other than a book! Hand painted with green, brown and pink ink. Using the permanent black pen that is designed specially to write on porcelain finishes; guests can sign their names and thoughts to create a one of a kind gift. Excellent choice for your beach style wedding.

These are just a few of the many different types of signature guest book platters that their are to choose from. I suggest that you just browse around until you find the perfect platter that will make a great keepsake of your special day.

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