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Living in America makes one feel free – free to do anything, free to live, free to love, free from traditions. While this is true, there are still many wedding practices that flavor this memorable event with a distinct touch of Americana. Here are some:

Starting from the engagement, Americans can think of unique ways to personalize their wedding. As there really isn’t any engagement tradition, the more unique and memorable the marriage proposal is, the better.

For most weddings, the engaged couple visits their parents to inform them of their engagement. Then, at times, the engaged couple hosts an engagement party. The engagement party costs less than a wedding reception since most of the time, the menu will only include cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. Therefore, if the couple is on a tight budget, they can just invite more guests to the engagement party if they plan to limit the number of guests during the wedding.

Most wedding preparations include a bridal shower hosted by the maid of honor and the bridesmaids. The groom may also have a bachelor party the night before the wedding, but he has to be careful not to drink too much.

Wedding invitations should include response cards to quickly inform the couple whether the person has accepted or declined. Also, the wedding invitations should be sent four to six weeks before the event.

Usually, there is a rehearsal dinner in which the wedding party and guests come from near and far to be present. The groom’s parents usually pay for this dinner.

A bridal luncheon may be hosted for the bride’s attendants during the wedding day. However, time constraints may not permit this to be part of the schedule for the wedding day. Likewise, the groom may also host a groom’s dinner for his groomsmen.

Interestingly, even if the couple is not very religious, they often still prefer a religious ceremony. However, this may pose a problem since in America people of different faiths and religious backgrounds get married. Sometimes, because of this, people get married twice, once in the bride’s religious tradition and once in the groom’s.

Even if there are few people who believe in bad luck, some couples still ensure that the groom does not see his bride until she starts walking down the aisle.

It is still practiced that the groom and his groomsmen enter the church through a side door. The bride will then walk down the aisle with her father. In some cases when both her father and stepfather brought up the bride, she may ask them both to escort her.

During a formal reception, there is usually a bridal table where the couple and the attendants sit. Also, food and drinks should be served as the guests appear at the reception.

Before, gift giving used to depend on what the guest thinks would be useful for the couple. Now, it is better to register for gifts so the guests will know what to bring that the couple will need and this also minimizes duplication of gifts.

Upon receiving an engagement or wedding gift, it is better to send a thankyou note apart from saying “thank you” to the giver. This should be sent within two weeks upon receipt of the gift. Make a personalized thank you note, instead of using an impersonal generic thank you note.

These are just some of the many American wedding practices that make each one unique. Whether one chooses to be more traditional or prefers to have a very different wedding, the most important thing is that Americans still believe in the wedding vow, “For better or worse, ’til death do us part.”

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  • Thanks to the world of modern technology, we are now able to go online dating without leaving your room at all. With the availability of computer and internet, we can now communicate and have an online relationship. This may sounds a little bit crazy but is now the trend of the modern day life on dating and socializing..

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    One of the main reasons people choose to participate in an internet dating service, is that so many people are doing it! Technically speaking, this increases an individual’s chances of finding the right person that’s meant for him or her.
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  • At some point in your relationship you will arrive at the proverbial fork in the road where you will have to decide whether you want to continue to travel down the same path as your partner, or is it better if you begin to travel your own separate ways. If after thinking and pondering your future you come to option number two, then you will come to find out the most difficult aspects of dating and being in a relationship. Knowing when the relationship is over.

    There are many ways in which you can break up with someone. Obviously, some are better than others. However you should want to preserve the dignity of the party whom you once cared for, as well as the memories of your time together. You should always want to end the relationship with class and style.

    Be direct and be honest
    When it comes to the point that the relationship is over, the worst thing to do is to try to work through something that neither or one party wants to work through any longer. It’s best to be direct and honest in both your feelings and desire, and letting your partner know that the relationship has run its course and it’s over. By being direct, and being honest, you alleviate any hard feelings over any innuendos that might be inferred, if someone thinks that the door is still open and there’s a chance that the relationship can be repaired. If your relationship is over, the gamesman(woman)ship should be over to.

    End the Relationship in a Public Place
    When the intimacy has gone in the relationship, it makes no sense to end it in an intimate environment. Inviting your partner to dinner in your home or theirs, can only confuse the intention of the meeting. When the relationship is over, there’s no need for deception on any part. Attempting to end a relationship in an intimate setting like either partners home, or the home you share, can have disastrous side effects. When it’s time to have that relationship ending conversation, it’s best to do it in a public setting; preferably in a park or not so intimate restaurant during the day.

    Remember what you used to have with the person
    Breaking up is difficult enough without resorting to name calling, making innuendos’, and/or physical confrontations. When it’s over, it’s better to reflect and remember the things that brought you together, and not to dwell on the things that drove you apart. Keep an open and understanding mind and a positive outlook, especially if you are the person that wants the relationship to end and your partner wants the relationship to continue.

    Leave the details out
    It’s easy and common to get sucked into the ‘why are you breaking up with me?’ conversation. However, when the relationship is over, you are not obligated to provide one or a scroll of reasons why you’re breaking up with the person, nor to list all the bad qualities the person you’re breaking up with possesses. What you may find annoying, someone else may find insightful. Keep the conversation short and don’t lose sight of the fact that you’ve made a decision to end the relationship, and the other party has to learn to accept it.

    Make a clean break
    One of the most difficult aspects of ending a relationship is remembering that the relationship is over. Most people when ending a relationship like to use the old familiar cliché: ‘We can still be friends.’ It’s difficult to still be friends, when one person does not want the relationship to end and the other one wants it to continue. If the relationship has truly come to the end, so should the friendship, communication, and support, at least for the immediate future.

    When the relationship ends, both people need time for their mind, body, heart, and soul to heal. Breaking up can take its physical and emotional toll on anyone. The healing will be better when both parties put time, space, and distance between them. Be considerate of your former partners wish(es) if they have a desire for a clean break, and don’t want you communicating with them anymore. If by some chance or happenstance, you meet again on the road of life, you will both be in a better position to be more mature and reflect on your relationship in a positive way, than by one or both parties’ harboring animosity. If you try to remain friends and hold onto something that’s no longer there, one person may spend their time clinging on to the false hope of something happening, when there’s nothing left to cling to. When it’s over, it’s over. Put a period on it and move on.

    About the author: Obi aka The Relationship Guy, provides insightful, common sense, witty, and some times sarcastic articles on love, dating, and relationships. His forthcoming book, ‘The Blueprint of Love’ goes into detail about the game of love. You can read more articles and get more information about the book by going to: theblueprintoflove.com theblueprintoflove.com You can also read his blog on married life called: Marriage 101: Lessons Learned in the First Year of Marriage


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  • I believe that all men have that one girl that they really want. It could be a beautiful and gorgeous soul mate of yours that you have known since college, or it could be that hot babe at your workplace.

    But the dangerous thing here is, when there is just one girl that you want, it will become a hell lot tougher for you to get her. A lot of guys shoot themselves on their feet when come to the dating game when they focus on just one girl in their lives.

    This narrow focus will kill whatever attraction she might have for you. You will seem like a very needy and desperate wuss in her eyes, which will greatly jeopardize your success of getting her to be your girlfriend.

    Let me share with you some strategies that you can use right away to stop killing the natural attraction that girls have in you:

    Strategy #1: Do not just think that one girl is all you will meet in your life.

    Yes, she may be awesome, but I am pretty sure that there are tons of other girls out there who are just as great as she is, and you WILL definitely meet them.

    Just remember that there are a lot of girls out there who are amazing too. This way you will not become too needy and desperate over her.

    Strategy #2: Go out there and know more girls.

    If she is the only dating prospect in your life right now, it will be tough for your not to worry about it. Therefore, the solution to solve this problem is to make yourself hang out with other girls so as to increase your network of dating prospects.

    When you are surrounded by other women and lead a happy social life, you are attractive to women instantly. Create a challenge for the one girl that you really want. She’s the one who has to win your affections, not the other way round.

    Strategy #3: Change Your Mindset About Dating and Women

    Forget about neediness and loneliness. Have a better frame of mind and look at dating and women from another perspective. You will need to have a mindset that whatever attention or care that you give her, has been EARNED by her, not because of is natural for a man to act like this.

    There is a saying that if a person does not put you in his or her priority in life, you should also not prioritize them high up there in your list. This applies to dating.

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