1. Sleepless nights are part of a victims’ experience and they have countless reasons to toss and turn. They lie awake at night filled with anxiety fearing an STD (sexually transmitted disease). Until the doctor’s visits end and a clean bill of health (many years later) a victim lives in trepidation. After a divorce they worry that a future relationship is not achievable. They speculate whether their medical condition may erupt on them. They lose sleep over wanting to live a long life.

2. Infidelity creates a financial strain. This is one of the greatest causes of marital struggles and battles anyway. One client reported her spouse, who recovered from bankruptcy with her, ignored mortgage payments to run off on her. Instead of buying groceries, he paid down his debt leaving her to fend for herself and their kids.

3. There is a “need to know” the truth in every relationship! It’s like the air we breathe. We cherish affection and affirmation; it’s an innate need in us. When we lose trust in our spouse these feelings wane. Often our internal radar triggers a horrid signal. We feel suffocated and starved for oxygen. Truth calms a troubled heart although the loss of trust makes the pendulum swing the other way. The repercussions last a lifetime.

4. Having “peace of mind” in your relationship is worth it’s weight in gold. Isn’t that true? What’s more important to you? Would you trade exotic cars, vacation homes, and six figure incomes for a great relationship with your best friend? That question is decided everyday by both faithful and unfaithful spouses. The lack of peace in a home can single-handedly account for more distress and affliction than any other dynamic. Infidelity is the shortest distance to that end. In fact it’s very predictable; just ask someone who encountered it. Infidelity uproots the truth in a relationship.

5. Infidelity trends will bring devastating results. Do you sense a tsunami coming upon our society? I suspect many of us have witnessed infidelity in the flesh; a neighbor, coworker, family member, pastor, clergy or politician confronted us with this reality. Infidelity and sex sells; especially in today’s media. We are becoming numb to this trend. I should know after witnessing almost four decades of infidelity cases. But those who felt the pain of infidelity recognize another face of this beast. Kids in marriages that come apart over adultery have to cope with thoughts of self worth, distrust, and blame. With current trends promoting disloyalty how does it make them suffer? It’s not a promising outlook.

6. A new flourishing industry has emerged. Second to pornography and prostitution is internet fostered adultery web businesses. “Adultery marketers”, as I call them, are reaping millions off this new venture in human debauchery. These profiteering businesses align themselves with the “alleged” needs of married men and women. They are preying on the notion that consenting adults would perpetrate adultery “anyway” and sign them up. Adultery promoters offer an assortment of assistance. Not only do they anesthetize the scruples but augment the deception, through cover-ups, lies, or whatever it takes to dupe the unsuspecting spouse. It’s outrageous! This past year I appeared on Dr. Phil and was seated next to an internet mogul. His demeanor was convincing. He stood tall, proud, and armed with confidence to justify his venture. He dueled with all audience naysayers. Members shell out a much as $55 per month for the opportunity to break their marriage apart. In fact this website claims to have in excess of 425,000 members. Do the math, its millions of dollars. This is an atrocity hostile to the institute of marriage. This tsunami will over take us by surprise. Will our society survive this sort of assault?

7. Are we ready for what’s to come? The next generation has witnessed a trend of misbehavior like none other. They’ve learned marriage does not last and isn’t worth fixing. They are dragged off to courthouses then ordered to change homes on weekends. While Daddy continues to sleep in the other room with a girlfriend (knowing a call to mom for liberation is forbidden) they feel a sense of pain that lasts a life time. This scenario is very literal. I just witnessed two children dragged on vacation with Daddy and his girlfriend. His mistress left her own two offspring behind in exchange for a free adulterous vacation. In single hotel rooms with two queen size beds I just wonder where the mistress slept – on the couch. Hardly, it was missing from the room. Does infidelity cause a sting? From my perspective there’s no doubt a victim lives with a wound our society offers no accommodating remedy. The outlook is in the hands of therapists, sociologists, physicians, lawmakers, lawyers, and judges. They need to gear up for a larger wave of infidelity that’s swelling up.

Warning: The impending sting of infidelity will be more acute than what we have discerned thus far! It will take more than a knee jerk reaction from our society to discern a tonic that works. Does anyone care? We ought to be aware of these trends and do something proactive about them. Our lawmakers and court systems are failing us. It’s time for a grass root effort to ebb the escalation of unfaithfulness. Turn off the TV, make a complaint to the media about their comments and programming, get in touch with your politicians and demand change. Infidelity is going unpunished. Judges have culpability, but we can make a difference. It’s forever NO unless you ask!

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Emily Watson once said that the heart speaks the language of love that is best expressed by poems. As far back as the written word, poems have played an essential role in the expression of human dreams and desires. Poets in all parts of the world have always made efforts to explore and express the emotion of love in the form of poems. These love poems transport readers to the realm of pure, passionate and undying love; unchanged since the wheel of life has been put into motion.

The everlasting nature of the theme of love makes it as relevant today as it was centuries ago; the perennial fame of the master poets can be ascribed to the same cause. Their poems are our guiding beacons to the uncharted depths of love, and the reason we can’t do without them. According to Leslie Pockell, some of the most popular love poems of all time are – La Vita Nuova (Dante Alighieri), Shall I Compare Thee to a Summer’s Day (William Shakespeare), Who Ever Loved (Christopher Marlowe), Excerpt from Paradise Lost Book IV (John Milton), To Helen (Edgar Allen Poe), A Red, Red Rose (Robert Burns), She Tells Her Love While Half Asleep (Robert Graves), Last Night You Left Me and Slept (Rumi), I Prithee Send Me Back My Heart (Sir John Suckling) and I Carry Your Heart with Me (EE Cummings).

The above mentioned poems have been published in a single volume called “The 100 Best Love Poems of All Time,” edited by Leslie Pockell. Furthermore, one also has the option of choosing books that have the best love poems of recent times alone, which are by no means in a small number. The Internet has been a vital force in popularizing poetry. One can find scores of web sites that have a huge collection of poems both old and new. Some of them are exclusively oriented towards love poetry. These sites not only have classic love poems archived, but also make efforts to have a collection of contemporary love poems by inviting amateur poets to contribute. The poems are voted on by readers and a list of the best is compiled.

Love-ontheweb.com Love provides detailed information on Love, Love Poems, Love Quotes, Love Songs and more. Love is affiliated with e-LoveSpells.com Magic Love Spells.

Wine can be an important part of your wedding and picking which wine to serve,
along with picking the caterer and deciding on a cake, one of the decisions you’ll
have to make along the way that involves taste. But this is one decision you can use
to bring friends together and have a little relaxing fun during the planning stages.

Most caterers will have a wine list available that includes one or two “house wines,”
which are usually the lowest priced, and several more expensive labels for you to
choose from. You’ll most likely choose both a red and white so everyone at the
reception is accommodated. In certain states, California for example, restaurants
allow you to bring in your own wine. While this seems like it might be a great way to
go, they can charge what is known as a corkage fee, which can be as high as $30 or
even more per bottle. Unless you want a very rare and expensive wine, it’s usually
better to go with something off the list.

Sometimes the decision comes down to money and sometimes it comes down to
taste. But in either case, this is one taste test you can have fun with. When my wife
and I got married we invited some friends over, bought a bottle of each of the wines
offered at the reception location and had a wine tasting party.

Between my junior and senior years of college I worked in a wine shop where we had
a bottle available for tasting every Saturday afternoon. The owner and I got along
very well and he gave me my first lessons in wine tasting. I’ve been a student ever
since.

While drinking wine might be a part of your everyday life, you probably don’t spend
much time actually tasting it in comparison to other wines. Most people are
intimidated when it comes to tasting or even selecting wine, but the first thing I
learned was that no matter what anyone tells you, if you don’t like a particular wine
then you just don’t like it. As far as selecting goes, in this case the wine has been
pre-selected for us by the catering manager. We’re just going to narrow down the
list.

For our party we made a small chart with each bottle on it and three columns. The
columns were for Appearance, Smell and Taste. We asked each of our guests to
score each wine with a number from 1 to 10. We also left a little space for
impressions to be noted.

Before we get started though, the first thing, obviously, is to drink in moderation
and make sure that everyone at your wine tasting makes it home safely so they can
party at your wedding. Never drink and drive. In fact wine tasting doesn’t really even
require drinking at all. Most professional tasters will spit the wine out after tasting
it. It makes a lot of sense when you might taste dozens of wines in one day. (If
you’ve seen the film Sideways, there’s a scene where the character played by Paul
Giamatti is so desperate for a drink that he actually drinks from one of the buckets
used for this.)

The first thing you’ll notice when you open a bottle and pour a glass is the color, or
appearance of the wine. Red wine can vary greatly from a deep purple to rich brown
while white wine can vary from a light brown to a yellowish green. While color won’t
necessarily tell you if a wine is good or bad, a richer fuller red could indicate a
richer, fuller taste while brown might actually mean the wine has gone bad. A richer
colored white wine usually indicates one that’s sweeter while a clearer wine might
be drier and crisper.

Next comes smell, or as wine aficionados call it, the bouquet. The bouquet of a wine
can add an enormous amount to the overall experience of drinking it. At least half
of what we eat and drink is experienced through smell. If you’ve ever had a bad cold
with a stuffed up nose, you know that food can taste like nothing. But the bouquet
of a good wine can be amazing if you really pay attention to it. Swirl it in your glass
a little to release it and let it breath. Take a deep whiff and let it linger. You may
start to notice smells you never noticed before. It might be musty or it might be
sharp, it might smell like a forest or it might smell like a garden. You never know
and finding out and challenging yourself to recognize different traits in the bouquet
is one of the things wine lovers love about wine.

Now it’s time to taste the wine. This isn’t a time to gulp or chug but a time to sip
and let the wine linger on your tongue. In fact, let it roll around on your tongue. You
experience taste differently through different parts of your tongue. If you really
concentrate on it you can taste amazing things. Some wines will be drier than others
(a function of how much sugar is in the wine,) leaving less of an aftertaste while
some will be richer. Some will taste like oak, some like fruit, some might even taste
like flowers. Again that discovery of taste is one of the things wine lovers love. It
also fun at this point to discuss with your friends what you taste in a particular
glass. You’ll be surprised at what people will taste and it might even surprise you a
little that once they tell you, you’ll suddenly taste it as well. You may also want to
try tasting the same wine again after the bottle has been open for a little while.
Wine, especially red wine, breaths after being opened. In other words, it reacts with
the air and the taste can change, in some cases drastically, after even a few minutes.
Decanting a wine often speeds up this process, but may not be practical for a
tasting party.

It’s also important to have a small tray of crackers or bread or glasses of water
available for your tasters to help cleanse their pallets between tastes, especially if
you’re switching between red and white. It’s also a good idea to rinse out the
glasses between bottles.

In the end, we tallied up the scores, read all the comments and ultimately picked the
wine we liked best. Of course it just happened to be that the wine we liked most
coincided with what our friends liked but don’t feel pressured. Enjoying wine is all
about what you like and tasting wine is all about discovering what you like. We had
a great meal afterwards and our friends felt honored that we let them help pick the
wine for our wedding. As it turned out, we were so busy and having so much fun
during our reception that neither of us really even remembers having a glass.

RJ Thomas is a wine aficionado and collector. He is also the owner of two wedding
businesses, cherishvideo.com Cherish Video, a Los
Angeles, California based wedding videography company and
myuniqueweddingfavors.com My Unique Wedding Favors.com a
website devoted to selling affordable and unique wedding favors (including wine
wedding favors.)

As we move into the twenty-first century we are leaving behind many of the traditions of the twentieth century, including many of the customs associated with the white wedding. Couples are seeking to personalize every aspect of their wedding today and to create a truly unique event wherever possible. It’s no surprise therefore to find that couples are increasingly looking for new wedding invitation ideas.

It is already commonplace for many couples to dispense with the services of a professional printer and to purchase blank wedding stationery, either from their local supplier or through the Internet, and to produce their own wedding invitations using a home computer. This allows couples to stick with the traditional form of invitation but to save considerably on the cost. But what about those couples who are looking for a different way of inviting their guests altogether?

Well, to be honest nowadays you’re really only limited by your imagination and just about anything you can think of can be used by way of a wedding invitation. Some couples are even choosing to send out email invitations. This is fine as long as all of your guests have access to a computer and regularly use email but, for most people, this is a quick and easy but perhaps not ideal solution.

The secret if you want something that is both personal and different is to stick with a printed or written (or perhaps even video or audio) invitation that can be sent through the regular postal service and to look for something special that you can send your guests which will give them the details that they need and provide them with a memento of the occasion.

One idea would be to use boxed invitations. These are essentially oversized invitations send in a box which allows you to include a range of items including bows and ribbons, photographs and even fresh flowers from your garden. This can certainly provide a stunning invitation but will also be expensive.

Another idea might be to use handmade paper for your invitations, possibly with dried flowers pressed into it. These delicate papers which are readily available today can be hand or flat printed to produce a very beautiful invitation.

To really make your invitations personal you could send each guest a personal video invitation. This is not as difficult or expensive as it sounds today and many home computers today have everything you need to record your message and burn it onto a CD ready for posting.

These are just a few of the many wedding invitation ideas that you will be able to generate with just a little bit of thought, but they will hopefully point you in the right direction.

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