There are various traditions and beliefs involving the wedding cake. It isn’t just a piece of dessert, it is actually a focal point of the event. Basic things to keep in mind about the wedding cake is that it must be of a flavor that you, the bride and groom love. Remember this is your day! It should look the way you want and taste the way you want.

Over the years, heaven knows why, the wedding cake doesn’t always get eaten. In some countries, after the couple have their slice, the cake sits untouched except to let the single women pull fortune slips (sort of like fortune cookies) out from under the cake layers tagged with ribbons. This is really sad! Think of the delicious uneaten cake and the kids looking longingly at the beautiful sweet treat within reach that can’t be touched.

One reason this may have come about is the belief that the cake (at least the top of it) should be preserved to celebrate the christening of their first child. Still, food is meant to be eaten. Enter the fake layers!

At a friend’s wedding, only the portion to be sliced by the bride and groom was real. The rest of the cake was already sliced and individually packed. These they gave away as their souvenirs. What a delicious and practical gift.

One superstitious reason you may want to give out the cake, sharing the cake is said to be sharing the blessing and happiness and it comes back tenfold. Another reason is that singles who put a piece of the wedding cake under their pillow will dream of the person they will marry. Help your friends find their match, share the pastry.

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“The best way out is always through.”

-Robert Frost

We all know that breaking up is hard to do. For years
songs have been written on how to get over heartache:

*50 Ways To Leave Your Lover…Paul Simon
*After The Love Has Gone…Earth, Wind & Fire
*Don’t Go Breaking My Heart…Elton John and Kiki Dee
*It’s Too Late…Carole King
*You Give Love a Bad Name…Bon Jovi
*I Will Survive…Gloria Gaynor

And the list goes on and on and on. Did you ever wonder why
so many people can relate to these songs? Because most
people have lived through it themselves; and by the way, they’ve
survived it too.

Although you may feel alone and lonely right now; just hang
in there. And just like everyone else; you too will survive your
broken heart.

You may ask, “But what do I do in the meantime while I’m hurting?”
Well, first you have to realize that you can’t go around it, over it or under it.
You have to go through it. Getting over heart break is a process that you
can and will get beyond. You just have to allow yourself a little time.

Don’t expect to pick up the pieces in a day or two; it just
doesn’t work that way.

Be realistic about healing. The first couple of weeks or months
will be the hardest, but as time goes by, each day will bring
you closer to feeling like yourself again.

Make sure you keep yourself busy doing positive things with
close friends and family. Don’t sit around listening to the old
“break-up” songs; they will only make you feel worse.

It’s very important for you to learn how to get in control of
your thinking. If you sit around all day and go over and over
what happened, you will stay stuck in the past. You need to keep
your thoughts focused on what you would like your future
to look like.

You’re vision should be on creating the life you want, not on
what you’ve left behind.

We all know it hurts, we all know it’s a struggle. Every time you
start to drift back into the whoa-is-me thinking, feeling sorry for
yourself or wondering why things didn’t work out the way
you wanted, STOP YOURSELF. Say out loud, “Stop It!”

The more you do this the quicker you will be on the road to
healing. The single most important factor that will move you
closer to feeling good again is learning how to direct your thoughts.

Become the captain of your ship, steer it where you want it to go.
If you master the technique of controlling your thoughts; you will
be on the road to a happy future in all aspects of your life.

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Susan Russo is the President of Pinnacle Thought Inc. Publisher for books and resources which provide inspiration, self-empowerment and the tools and strategies to help move you toward personal success and fulfillment. She is editor of “You’ve Got Power” ezine and author of “There Is Life After What’s-His-Name.
Copyright 2006 Pinnacle Thought Inc.

What do you most want in life? Do you think you know? Jot down a quick list right now on a scrap of paper. Is it mostly things like money, toys, or gadgets, or experiences like vacations, good sex, or watching children get started in life?

What’s most important to you? I’ve been listening to a book on tape by Kevin Hogan, “Talk Your Way To The Top,” about good communication. He asks these kind of “importance” questions, noting that often we list what are really the “means to the ends” rather than the “ends” themselves.

If we really get down to it most of us want some kind of joy, fulfillment and security. And, as couples, we get bogged down in the details of trying to achieve these “states of being.”

As partners, we often have very different ideas about what will get us to these good experiences in life. And, we often do not have the communication skills to sort out how we are actually looking for similar end points.

Kevin Hogan suggests a list of about 4 items that you really want, and then directs us to list how we hope these things will help us to feel. This helps to know what you’re really after. I suggest we use this list as a starting point for two additional life possibilities.

First, share this list with your partner. Then, listen deeply to your partner’s list. Make sure the two of you get to the point where you fully understand and empathize with the “end-state” you each desire. There will probably be a lot of similarity there. Joy, happiness, satisfaction, safety, fulfillment, stimulation and serenity are common desires.

Now, you can stop right there if you want. Just do some negotiating about how to help each person get some of what they want by planning to do some of what you each believe will get you there.

On the other hand, you can embark on the journey together that my second point suggests. This second thing is a spiritual thing. It is the expectation that all those wonderful feelings are already available to us in other ways.

Whether you are a regular church goer, a person who doesn’t buy the simple explanations you think religions give, or someone unsure but still a seeker, you probably suspect that there is something going on that’s bigger than any of us know.

I’m suggesting that, whatever your belief or tradition, that you probably have not gotten to the bottom of its spiritual experience, and therefore, are still seeking the “end-states” through your own devices.

One of the questions I often ask people is: “What are you asking (God, the Universe, Whatever) for right now?” How often they’re asking for stuff that is trifling, or they are not asking at all!

So, my second suggestion is that you start placing your expectation of the “end-states” in bigger hands than your own, and that you do so as a couple. Start watching for the results to come in surprising ways! It will almost always be from a different direction than you expect.

I encourage you, as a couple, to engage in this spiritual journey on a very deep level. Do so together, and do so right now, before the hard lessons of life force it upon you.

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According to your engagement quality, your sex activity may be a short work, a sad work, or a work of art. And your lover will be hopeful, desperate, or happy! So what is the prime requirement of successful lovemaking? Your partner’s satisfaction and happiness, nothing else!

Most of the questions asked to sexual health experts are about men’s early ejaculations and women’s orgasm troubles. When you read this you may say: It’s normal, if man is coming off quickly, woman couldn’t have an orgasm! But if you think for a second, surprisingly, you won’t see any relation between these two events. Because a man, if not a boor, will provide his woman achieve her orgasm before his ejaculation.

The next popular question is about the penis size! After all that porn movies many people are really confused. How and where to find such a prominent organ? What is the normal size? How thick and long can it be at the maximum? How small is acceptable for a great sex performance?

Every man’s genital is different as his finger print and in a happy relationship the role of the penis size is not important. At least you don’t have to be such stupid to pay sack full money to programs, drugs or advice for making it bigger or larger! Even with a huge organ a man’s chance is very limited to make his woman achieve an orgasm if he is not a good lover, and doesn’t know proper vitalinfocenter.com/sexual/better_sex_relationships.html sex techniques, and most probably he will cause pain instead of pleasures.

Even a man who has a miniscule dick can be a perfect lover if he’ll learn how to make better love, how to be a better partner instead of being paranoiacly distressed. What ever it is your penis size is normal, and this is your body, love it and try to use it more properly, more creatively and with more love and care. Learn how to use effective foreplay and arousal techniques, how to kiss and caress properly, and maybe you won’t need a penis to make her reach the climax!

Believe me, every woman desires and prefers such a talented lover instead of a big dick entering a few times into their vagina before spurting out and then sleeping in his side as nothing happened… naturally! Having a small organ is not guilt, and if he knows his body and has developed many practical solutions he is absolutely a CLEVER man and a perfect lover, a great chance for women!

What about men’s early ejaculations? This, also, is not a crime and if the man hasn’t an organic disorder, may be corrected with some effort and techniques. But many men, instead of paying attention to their situation, act like early coming off don’t make any difference in their sex life! This may be true for them but surely not for the women!

Actually you may consider the natural disharmony between two sexes. Men, by their nature, want to thrust their penis into a warm and slippery hole when erected and squirt in, but women, on the contrary, need a prior preparation, foreplay of at least 10-15 minutes to be concentrated and ready for insertion.

Further, one woman can’t have orgasm without a specific position, the other woman will desire another position, or request clitoris stimulation besides penis thrusting… Many fatiguing services asked from men! And if a serious and passionate relationship doesn’t exist between partners, men are really exhausted in the bed.

Is it a natural error, an innate lack of harmony between men and women? If so what was the secret of great womanizers like Don Juan, Ximen Qing, Giacomo Casanova…

Let see some different type of early comers:

Type A: The worst! He doesn’t even know he is an early comer. When he likes, he takes the woman under him and ejaculates. He doesn’t care anything else! Woman’s pleasures and orgasm! What is that? He hasn’t heard anything about woman’s orgasm!

Type B: The opportunist! He knows about woman’s orgasm but act like he doesn’t know. Same of the Type A, he pulls the woman under and he comes off, the only difference between type A is if by mistake or pain, woman makes a weak sound like “ah” he will suppose that she reached an orgasm, but for his comfort, he will never ask her the truth!

Type C: The lazy with crocodile tears! He knows his disorder, he is sad and wants to visit a doctor but he is ashamed or can’t find the time to go! As foreplay he kisses and caresses her a little but he can’t wait more and comes off. Sometimes he can’t even find times to thrust his dick into her. He is sad, but life goes on!

Type D: The Lover! He is aware of his early ejaculation disorder but he also knows his partner’s orgasm right! So, he will kiss and caress her at great length, give her a good sexual massage, or an intense stimulation as she likes, or oral love, and bring her to orgasm. Then he starts to make love for himself and he comes off. Because his partner reached orgasm before his quick ejaculation there is no trouble. Partners are both relaxed and happy!

That means, if a man is refined, elegant, understanding, clever… a GENTLEMAN, the early ejaculation is not an important issue on the way to happy sexual relationship. Man may visit a doctor and try to find the main reason behind this disorder, and get a treatment which is not very hard. But in the meantime he will be kind and not selfish, and will give her ultimate pleasures to achieve her orgasm!

An absolutely good sex for a woman is an average dick size, a foreplay at length with all stimulation techniques that she likes, long kisses and caresses, staying inside her long enough with many thrusting, knowing her favorite positions and giving her the best pleasures… not insisting on what you want, but understanding her and giving her what she needs to get her climax.

Remember that if she has achieved one orgasm in her entire life, she knows the best position, and an intelligent man never insists on a new position which may cause a lack of concentration, he will follow her orientation.

Finally, what is her responsibility for a harmonious and happy sexual relationship?

Women must talk and describe what they need or want clearly. Of course, talking to the boors will not produce a positive result instantly but intelligent and responsible men will understand and provide what you need. Do not imitate orgasm or do not keep silent and go to sleep… talk to your lover and kindly explain your wishes, if not you will lose your sexual desires in the time, and you won’t even like to masturbate and get orgasm by yourself in the future!

Amy Guven is founder partner of Vitalinfocenter.com since 2000 and author of “Amy’s Tutorial – Reshape your Womanhood”. Containing all vital sex tips, techniques, pro methods including vitalinfocenter.com/sexual/better_sex_guide.html how to achieve great sex performance, and being highly successful as a reference book, vitalinfocenter.com/sexual/better_sex_guide.html Amy’s Better Sex & Relationships Tutorial aims to help people have a better life and relationships worldwide.