Contrary to popular belief, taking a girl’s virginity is not an easy subject to discuss and picking them moment causes a lot of guy’s embarrassment and awkwardness. So how do you approach the subject and when do you know the time is right.

We will assume here you are the boyfriend, or possible boyfriend for this situation, and that you are sensitive to your partner’s feelings, carrying human being who will be remembered kindly for the rest of the girl’s life.

Before we go on needless to say your partner should be someone you care for and over the legal age of consent for sex

These things are often spontaneous, but that does not mean that (a) you can be prepared for the event, and (b) she has not dreamed of some romantic situation where she loses her virginity.

What is losing one’s virginity anyway? Generally considered, its penile (or other) penetration into a girl’s vagina that goes beyond they hymen (that thin membrane that is part of the vulva, the external genital organs. The hymen is located outside the vagina. The hymen is a layer of tissue that partially conceals the vaginal orifice.

Environment

Getting into the techniques involved, if you can, select a nice surrounding. Car backseats have been popular for a long time, but are really uncomfortable, and often more public than you can imagine. Be affectionate, and figure out if you love the girl or not.

It can make a real difference. There is no explanation to this, but sex without affection is less than sex with it.

You may have a nervous young girl with you, and lots of alcohol is not exactly what you want. It can have really negative consequences. A little bit, just to calm the nerves is ok. You can also calm her nerves yourself by being re-assuring and affectionate.

As you are getting ready to enter her, you have to have three really important things in your mind. The first is birth control. For all intents and purposes, have a condom with you. That will take care of the birth control issue.

The second is getting her wet enough. In this situation, you cannot be too wet. You need to have engaged in a great deal of foreplay and even (if she will let you) engage in cunnilingus. This will assure she is wet enough, and you may even, if you are clever, achieve an orgasm for her before you enter.

If she is not wet enough, try to have some sexual lubricant with you. This suggests some pre-meditation, but she will enjoy the encounter much more than if you don’t use it. In any event, do not enter her until she is really wet enough.

The third point is that when you have entered, try and so very slowly. Gradually, if she is relaxed, and as she relaxes more after you have penetrated her, thrust in long slow movements. You can also alter your thrusting from some shallow moves to eventually deeper ones.

It may be a very good idea to have her on top. In this way she controls the penetration to the point where it is not painful. Also with the girl on top the process generally will last longer.

When you both or you have finished, withdraw slowly, and for as long as you can, keep close contract. Remember, you are the first in this activity. For you, it may not mean much, but for her, it is something she will have in her memory forever.

Keep in mind if its her first time to be caring and considerate to her feelings so she is comfortable and relaxed.

You want to be remembered as a sensitive gentleman who made the lovemaking experience something to treasure.

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These days, new communications technology allows us all to conduct our social affairs at the touch of a button or the click of a mouse. Text messages, email and chatrooms allow us instantaneous access to friends, acquaintances and perfect strangers across the world without ever having to speak face to face, new dating and social networking sites spring up every day, relationships and marriages are made (and broken) via these channels on an even more frequent and burgeoning basis. But all these technological and social changes are largely confined to the past fifteen or maybe twenty years. To try and gain a sense of how romance was conducted in the days before every house had even a television set, let alone a wireless internet connection, we talked to Mary Walton, 84, who married her late husband Ralph on the 14th of July 1942. They remained married until Ralph’s death from a stroke in 2000. Mary recalls vividly her first meeting with Ralph:

“He was this handsome young soldier, home on leave from fighting in the war. I’d known him vaguely before the war as he lived only a couple of streets away and our fathers knew one another from around the way. Anyway, it was the middle of June and I was working in Coates, the corner shop at the time. I was outside one morning, stood on the stepladder washing down the windows. As Ralph was coming past from the station, one of the old men from around the way called to him because he was a soldier in uniform, which used to mean you got an awful lot of respect from everybody at that time. So, as Ralph turned to give this chap a reply his kitbag got all tangled up in my stepladder so that when he walked on he pulled me right over! It wasn’t that far to fall as it happened, but the bucket of water went flying all over me. Oh, I was livid! Ralph picked me up and started apologising but I wasn’t having any of it, I laid right into him, calling him all sorts of names – I was quite the little madam in those days you see and here was this filthy soldier still mucky in his uniform, tipping water all over me and then manhandling me with his dirty great paws!

Anyway, there I was scolding him like a fishwife in the street, getting all hot and bothered and he just started to laugh! Well, I couldn’t believe it! I thought I’d have a heart attack right there I was so cross, but that’s when I first looked at him and saw the man I fell in love with, just standing there laughing at me being cross with his little blue eyes all twinkling and his handsome smile! I just ran out of steam and stood looking up at him, and he told me that he was going home to his bath and that he’d come and meet me for closing and take me out dancing, and I couldn’t refuse, couldn’t say anything at all. We were married a month after, three days before Ralph went back to the war. You didn’t hang about in those days what with all that could get in the way, you saw a chance and you grabbed it! Fifty-eight years of marriage we had together, and I’ve never regretted a moment of it.”

Croydon J Hounslow works for loopylove.com a free singles site in the UK.

Now that the warmer weather is teasing us into thinking summer is around the corner, we can start thinking about all those summer weddings. Are you going to be a summer bride this year? Perhaps you are having an English summer inspired wedding theme or maybe you are having a garden party wedding?

Tradition tells us that most weddings take place in the summer and although there is a growing trend to marry during winter months, July & August are still the biggest wedding months in this country.

So, if you are getting married this – or next – summer, then read on as we tell you how you can create a garden inspired wedding that won’t be spoilt by the British weather!

First and foremost you must consider your colours. Choose sage greens, pinks, yellows and lilacs for a truly summer feel. These colours will make an appearance in bridesmaid dresses, floral arrangements, table décor, invitations and garden wedding favours.

Your garden inspired wedding theme absolutely has to take place outside. If you are not prepared to play Russian roulette with the British weather, you could always have a marquee. Trellis tables and garden chairs make perfect reception tables for your garden wedding party. Cover tables with pastel coloured gingham table cloths or stick to plain white. Remember, anything floral is key to creating this look so scatter tables with pretty flowers such as daisies or hydrangeas in pastel shades. Fill pastel coloured tin favour pails with handfuls of coloured sherbet, Dolly Mixtures or fruity jelly beans! Tie their handles with co-ordinating ribbon.

Complete the look by hanging lanterns from the surrounding trees and decorate trees with lots of bunting.

Water your guests with fizzy wine or Pimms filled with fresh strawberries. Enjoy a yummy barbecue and give guests a slice of deliciously light sponge wedding cake as a dessert.

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Cheating, affairs, infidelity… the words alone are tough to hear.

What’s so hard-hitting about this topic? No one wants to admit that their partner may be cheating. Even the idea of infidelity feels unsettling. The message we say to ourselves is, “there must be something wrong with me if he/she has an affair.” The truth is, there’s nothing wrong with you, but if it’s happening, critical areas of your relationship have been neglected by both of you.

You can look at cheating in two ways. Some view infidelity as a devastating end to a relationship. From a fearful distance, they say they’d never tolerate it, and it’s the worst betrayal of all. But, avoiding affairs only works by offering love, respect, understanding, and trust to a nurturing relationship. Fear then, the opposite of these strengthening qualities, only adds a layer of negativity, leading to the result you’re trying to avoid.

On the other hand, you can choose to see an affair as a major red flag in the relationship. An affair in your relationship is alarm sounding off. It’s ringing loud and clear that your relationship is in major trouble, and needs immediate attention. But, where does an affair leave your relationship? I’ll answer this in an upcoming article.

For now, here are 7 Do’s & Don’ts to consider if you face this painful realization.

1. Don’t Ignore Your Gut. It’s not very easy to cover up cheating behaviors. The signs of cheating are usually pretty consistent, which I’ll also cover in a future article. Whether it’s a one night stand or a lengthy affair, a cheating partner is often overly cautious. Their attempt to “act” normal can create great suspicion. You also know when a sequence of events doesn’t quite add up. It’s usually more than one questionable occurrence that’s created a restless frenzy of worry for you. But, be careful and stay in control of your thinking. Don’t create stories about what you “think” he/she is doing. It’s easy to obsess about hypothetical cheating and convince yourself its taking place, even with no evidence.

2. Do Be Objective. Obviously, if your partner has cheated, you’re upset, and will go through a very normal sequence of pain with infuriating thoughts and feelings. But, it’s really important to objectively look at the evidence. Emotions are running high now, and it’s easy to create a cloud over the truth.

3. Don’t confront the other man or woman. A relationship that’s facing an affair really has nothing to do with the “other” man or woman. Then, why do people get so mad at the other man or woman? Because, an affair is saying that something’s been neglected in your relationship. It’s easier to blame a third party than face the truth about your own troubles. There’s no man or woman that can make your partner cheat. Your partner decided to cheat. He or she, therefore, is the one you need to face, and the one who changed your relationship forever.

4. Don’t end it right away. Give yourself some time and space to think. You may decide that a cheating partner is not worth your time, which is understandable. But, walking away from any relationship purely out of pain and anger will never help you heal…you’ll continue to feel victimized and angry. It’s important to understand what happened in your relationship so that you can move on. Whether you forgive or dump your partner, both people actively played a part to create this relationship, including you. Analyze what you could do differently in future relationships, or what can be done to restore the one your in.

5. Don’t Obsess about What Others Will Think. You may be thinking, “What others will think if they find out?” Who cares? What others think of you is none of your business, and it won’t help your situation. Focusing on world’s vision of affairs is looking “outside” of the real issues facing your relationship. It’s the same behavior that leads to affairs in the first place…the “inside” of the relationship wasn’t being nurtured. Unrealistic expectations, a lack of respect, appreciation, intimacy, and understanding drive relationships down very rocky roads. Consequently, people put lots of effort to make a relationship “look great.” On the inside, however, these relationships can lack true care, appreciation, and affection.

6. Do get help. The emotional tsunami you’ll face if your partner is cheating is too much to think through clearly. Earlier on, I mentioned to think objectively, and I feel strongly about this. But, you’ll need some support, someone that can help you sort through the initial shock of it all. Honestly, how can you strategically plan what to do next when you’re distraught? You’ll need to go through all the phases of cheating, and then learn how to set boundaries in the future. Consider working with someone that’s not biased, to help you sort through this tough time. Your partner has already sought comfort from someone else, and you can too (without cheating, of course…see #7 below).

7. Don’t cheat for revenge. If someone stole from you, would you steal from them?
If you’re not a thief, you’re not a thief. You wouldn’t become a crook because someone else is. So, don’t be a cheater just because someone cheated on you. You decide which values you live by. Consequently, cheating on your partner for revenge has a list of painful consequences: 1. It hurts your relationship further. 2. You show your partner that cheating is okay with you. 3. You hurt yourself by living against your own value system. 4. You hurt the “other” person, who didn’t ask to be used. If you cheat for revenge, say goodbye to your dignity, and any hope of restoring your relationship to a healthy place.

Whatever the reason, cheating is an emotionally charged topic, and the idea alone feels devastating. In future articles, I’ll discuss more about the reasons men and women have affairs. Just know that while you’re hurting and angry, it’s not the end of the world. But it is the end of this relationship as you know it. You’ll have to decide if your partner really deserves you. If so, then it’s not just your partner’s job to restore your relationship. Become aware that it’s also your job to analyze what went wrong, and help create a newer, stronger, more loving relationship that’s shielded from the destruction of affairs.

Kimberly Talley operates a Life & Relationship Coaching private practice in Maryland. She offers working solutions to singles and couples facing scores of challenges with dating and marriage. Kimberly serves as a Counselor and Adjunct Professor at a Maryland college, leads workshops, offers teleconferences and private dating & marriage coaching to people nationwide. Kimberly can be reached by phone at 301-875-5019, or visit her website: all-about-cheating-wives-and-cheating-husbands.com all-about-cheating-wives-and-cheating-husbands.com

When we plant a tree, we take care of that plant from the smallest stage of growth. We not only nurture that plant with water, air and fertilizers , but also protect it from any damage. Friendship is one such plant. One has to take care of friends, as one takes care of the plants one grows.

Most of us take friendship for granted. We believe that friends are always there, whenever we need them. Why this attitude
for friendship. Because, a day soon comes when our friends will begin feeling that we don’t care for them. that day the
friendship will get over. Does anyone wants to destroy long term friendships? No.

What can be done to keep the friendship strong?
How to relate with friends so that the bond grows stronger?
What to expect from friends, and what to give them in return?

Make a quick list of all your good friends. now write the date, when you last communicated with them in anyway. When did you last meet them? When did last share meal with them, or a drink? when did you send them a gift? What was the date, when you tried to find out about their problems? Did you ask them and they called up to tell you? What is the ratio of your telling them of your problems, and they telling them theirs? Go deeper in the analysis of relationship. This exercise may reveal quite a lot to you about your bonding and sharing. Put yourself in your friend’s shoes and think about what they might be feeling about the friendship?

This exercise will give you clues about any thing that needs to be done by you to nurture friendship. Value your friendship by nurturing it on a regular basis. Meeting friends regularly, finding about what may be bothering them,sending them small gifts over intervals, sharing jokes with them, asking them for a movie together, and so many other things can help us make our friendship bond stronger.

Make your friends feel proud of you and your friendship.

Mohatta writes about different aspect of life. Love, inspiration, pains, humanity, truth etc. He is currently dedicated content writer for screenenetwork.com screenenetwork.com network. He writes text for the eCards, Wallpapers and Screensavers for cardstofriends.com cardstofriends.com.

I am sure most of us have encountered a situation in which we were emotionally hurt by our partners and we find ourselves with the decision whether to forgive or not. Sure, there are too many instances where we forgive our partners, but where do we draw the line NOT to do so?

Do we not forgive based on the amount of hurt felt? Or do we take into consideration the nature of the deed? Or even list out the past records of all the deeds and then decide?

In a relationship, hurt is inevitable. When two people get close, friction and clashes are common thus resulting in actions which results in emotional pain for either partners. Sure you can forgive and tolerate some aspects. But you cannot tolerate everything. We don’t have to tolerate what people do just because we forgive them for doing it. Forgiving heals us personally. To tolerate everything only hurts us all in the long run.

The nature of the deed also plays a pivotal role in making this decision. Should a partner make a mistake that stirred the fundamentals of the relationship, should we forgive them? I don’t seem to be able to figure out the optimal solution on this but my take is, it depends on the intent of the partner for making the mistake and your ability to forgive and move on. To forgive in theory is easy but to commit to it in reality demands much more. Forgiveness has to come from inside as a desire of the heart. I recount a friend who told me what his partner commented to him “I’m glad that you too make mistakes. It shows the essence of your humanity much more than any of your daily good deeds. I love you so much more for it than if you were a perfect, yet cold and inhuman person whose judgment never failed.”

The last point is raising past deeds and contemplating them in the decision making process. To me, the past is exactly what it is, the past. To bring it up would not be beneficial to another. Yes, we have to learn from the past but to use it for judgment would not be accurate. Again, this is all clear cut on paper, because in reality, one could not help but reflect on the past and be influenced by it. Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future and after all this is over, all that will really have mattered is how we treated each other.

Oh by the way, I had found out a quote which is rather interesting “Most of us can forgive and forget; we just don’t want the other person to forget that we forgave”. How true.

Ahmad Azizul, 22, nomading wanderer, undergrad.

There are lots of things that one must do and lots that one must not do in order to rescue and sustain a long-distance relationship. Below is some advice that may look simple but when it comes to the actual execution, it may take more effort than you think.

Establish an effective communication channel

Most people will think that the telephone is the most convenient mode of communication, but there are other means of communication that help keep in touch and say things you might not say over the phone. Instant messenger, emails, VOIP phone and conventional mails can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the channels has its own advantages and disadvantages and therefore you must start to explore each of them.

Plan to meet each other

There is nothing more important than planning to meet each other at intervals throughout your long distance relationship. If you think you can sustain the relationship on patience and daily chats, it doesn’t happen. It’s also a sign of commitment if you take the trouble of actually visiting your partner or better, paying them a surprise visit.

Find a hobby that you can both share

By finding and sticking to a common hobby, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your long distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting.

Surprise your partner

Occasionally surprise you partner with cards, gifts, letters and flowers when they least expect it. Put your imagination to use and your partner will be sure to love your efforts to keep them happy.

Capture and share that interesting moment

You can always capture some interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as audio recording. This will keep your partner informed on what has happened in your life despite the physical distance.

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This may offend some people, but it’s just an opinion based on some statistics and from looking at real-world relationships. So, please do read with an open mind, even if you do not agree with the points made here.

Statistics show that most people who living together usually don’t ever marry, or the marriage generally ends in divorce. Many individuals (especially women) are doing themselves ill service by living with a partner in a intimate relationship, without being married. Some people argue that marriage is only a piece of paper signed and or meaningless. The part about being a piece of paper is partially true. The truth is when someone marries someone it’s much more than that! Individuals are expressing to each other that they truly love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together.

One of the many reasons divorce rates are so high amongst people who have “shacked up” before marrying is that they anticipate that things will change after they are married. Some people believe that ultimately being married will all of a sudden make life seem perfect and the other person will change. The reality for most is that it does not happen. This disappointment is ultimately what makes many individuals to end the marriage.

Many men who living together never ending up marrying because many men simply do not feel the need to. If you look at it from a man’s perspective, he is basically getting everything (and probably more than) a wife would give him without marriage, so why should he even bother? There is a comfort zone mostly for men who live with women they are not married to. There is no actual (or legal) commitment. He can leave whenever he wants with much less guilty feelings than if it was his wife. Women are most likely to want to marry as she knows in her subconscious mind of the fear that he may pick up his bags and leave at any time without too much emotional hassle.

This may sound brutal to some women, but there is a difference on how live-in girlfriends and wives are looked at by men. A man is much less likely to leave his wife than he is to leave his girlfriend. Men do leave their wives of course, but for the most part, men are much more likely to leave their girlfriends more easily and without guilt. It’s a similar principal for men cheating on their girlfriend verses their wife. Again, this unquestionably happens where some men cheat on their wives, but a man will feel less guilty about cheating on his girlfriend then his wife.

The best solution is to not living together with someone if you are looking for a possible marriage partner. This will benefit women more than men, but it helps the marriage overall for both partners.

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Almost all foreign bride sites tell you about the women which are in their database that are:

“gentle, respectful, and loving”

“strongly maternal and family-oriented”

“plays a subordinate role to men in both the public and private spheres”

“a mail order bride does not really ask for a lot”

I am sure that you have read these facts about women who are seeking a western man for marriage or friendship. But how can we classify thousands of women just in a few words?

The scarcity of suitable husbands in Romania has led many marriage-minded Romanian women to explore the possibility of pursuing a Western man.

1. Romanian mail order brides are not character-less toy dolls. She needs what every woman needs: a good husband.

While there is no denial that a substantial number of foreign brides hope to live a better life in a western culture, it is just as legitimate to argue that a fat bank account does not top the list of qualities that these women look for in a man.

What women want is a man who is honest, loyal, sincere, respectful, and able to provide for her children basic needs. The same happens with western women too.

2. A Romanian bride does not harbor the illusion of landing a millionaire for a husband, but instead pins her hopes on finding a man with strength of character, a shared respect for family values, and the financial means to adequately support a family.

Romanian woman perceive Western men as decent, responsible, easy going guys who know how to treat their women well.

3. Because she is a healthy balance of traditional values and a modern, tolerant outlook, the Romanian brides possesses the intelligence and sensibility to adapt to a western environment without sacrificing her norms and customs.

4. Most of the ladies who apply to dating agencies can at least read and understand English.There are doctors, lawyers, teachers, government employees, sales clerks with ages ranging from 18 to 40-plus.

5. A Romanian bride is just seeking the man of his life. Are You the one?

If you believe in destiny you should check out some Romanian brides. Your soulmate can be right there.

6. Just BE YOURSELF when you get in touch with these women and you will be surprised to see the success you’ll have.

7. NEVER try impersonate someone you are not. Not only will you come across as insincere, but you will also feel uncomfortable and make others feel this way right along with you.
8. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn’t true. If this is your perfect match for God’s sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.
Trying to be cool, aggressive generally just makes you awkward and unapproachable. Relax, be natural, be the you that your friends and others who know and like you, see and appreciate.

9. Show Enthusiasm but stop acting like Kiss-Ass Wussbags. Romanian Brides are looking for someone that would ADD VALUE to their lives!

And don’t forget that you don’t have to impress all the women, only those which are things in common with you: same goals, same interests. You have to know what are you looking for.

Just try, maybe you are single only because you haven’t searched in the right place yet.

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A number of people play an important part in making your wedding celebration a success. A well chosen wedding party gift is the best way to thank all the people in your wedding party who helped make the day so memorable for you. Here we have some ideas that tell the members of your wedding party, in the best way possible, how much you appreciate their being around on your special day:

Wedding party gifts for female attendants (including the americanbridal.com/bridgif.html Maid of Honor and the Bridesmaids): A favorite gift option for the most important people in your wedding party is jewelry. A simple, yet elegant necklace or bracelet is bound to be loved by all. Consider hair jewelry, like a bejeweled barrette, as well. A variation on this is a decorated jewelry box. For an added personal touch, consider getting it engraved with their names.

For Maids of Honor and Bridesmaids who love surrounding themselves with sweet smells, great gift options include a bottle of perfume, votive candles and aromatherapy kits. For those who love looking good, think of gift ideas such as a make-up kit, a manicure and pedicure set or even a spa set. Maids of Honor and Bridesmaids who love good food and wine will love a bottle of fine wine and a box of chocolates. Yet another option for these foodies is a set of gourmet cookbooks or a collection of fine and rare spices or even a set of gourmet teas and coffees. The music lovers in your wedding party are sure to appreciate a set of CDs from their favorite artist just as much as the movie freaks will enjoy a DVD or two. And for those who love to have a good time, a set of margarita glasses or wine glasses works great!

A new trend in wedding party gifts is gifting an experience as opposed to a thing. This can include just about anything from a day at the spa to creative classes to concert tickets to a favorite band.

Other popular wedding party gifts for your female attendants include handkerchiefs, evening bags, photo frames, stationery, candle-sticks and decorative items.

Wedding party gifts for male attendants (including the americanbridal.com/groomgif.html Best man and the Groomsmen): It’s tough enough finding a gift for one guy, so it is understandable if the task of finding gifts for all the men in your wedding party seems practically impossible. But help is at hand – we have for you some great ideas for gifts for the men in your wedding party.

Popular wedding party gifts for male attendants include leather wallets, Swiss army knives, cuff links, leather shaving kits and silk ties. For those who are into the great outdoors, gift options include binoculars, camping and hiking gear, fishing gear, protective eye wear and a cool back-pack. Show the sports lovers in your wedding party how much you appreciate their help with some sporting gear like golf or tennis accessories. For the busy executive, a smart organizer, an engraved pen set or business card holder and personalized stationery make great gifts. And almost every guy we know would love to get a cool tool box, a barbecue set or a smart set of beer mugs.

Gifted experiences work very well with men too. This could again be anything ranging from a creative class to tickets for the next big game to an adventure trip like white water rafting.

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