I feel upset every time I hear someone giving counter productive and ridiculous advice about marriage. I don’t claim to be an expert on marriage, but I can still tell if the advice I’m hearing is good information or pure nonsense. Marriage advice is available to those who need it, but sadly, a lot of it is no good. Even the most qualified professional can give tainted marriage advice because they may have their own agenda.

A friend of mine is pretty much at the end of her marriage. She’s very devoted to her religious roots, and has made every effort to save her marriage. The problem is that all the marriage advice and counseling that she has received from different people for over four years has not helped her marriage. I find myself getting upset whenever she shares the marriage advice she has received with me.

If you belong to a church, you should probably go to your pastor or priest for marriage advice. However, you still have to consider the source, even if these people can be great sources for advice and counseling. You see, unless someone is in danger, they will never tell you that perhaps the entire affair was a mistake to begin with.

It is quite obvious to me that my friend is in a hopeless situation, but her pastor will not tell her this. The marriage advice he gives will urge her to remain with her husband, unless her life is threatened.

What I’m trying to say is that you should take marriage advice and counseling from more than one source. Move on if you don’t like what you are hearing. If you find someone who tells you that a wife should bow down and be miserable for the sake of her husband, then that person is not seeing both sides.

And if a woman counselor seems to be bitter towards men in general, you are going to see this in the advice on marriage she gives. Try to think clearly about what someone is saying to you no matter how miserable you may be.

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Great relationships do not just happen. They are the result of bold decisions. It took me years to realize why some relationships succeed while others fail. Individual after individual cited.

“I don’t know why she left me. I was a good husband.”

“I don’t know why he left me for another woman. I was a good wife.”

Eventually I realized that the difference was in the label. Good only gets poor results and poor results are not enough to carry a relationship, let alone make it satisfying. You have to decide to be GREAT because a great partner will do many things that a good partner will not. By making this distinction you will set a better course for yourself and thus you will get the kind of relationship that you have always wanted.

Learning to put the needs of your partner first is the core of becoming great. Many people struggle with this because of selfish patterns of desire.

In order to be a great partner you must put your partner first in all things.

Partner focused relationships center on the bigger picture, which is connectedness. The level of closeness shared will be in proportion to the sacrifices made. If you want to be at the center of your relationship and have everything be about you, then this book is not for you. I am only looking for the men and women who are tired of playing games and are looking for true results. If this is you, then welcome. I can show you a better way.

Loneliness is the consequence of self-centeredness. Time after time, I see people insist on having their own way until their partner leaves them in total disgust and complete resentment. Selfishness never works. This is a hard lesson for most of us to learn and some never do. Most people do not even realize that they have tendencies that are in fact selfish. By the time you finish this book that will be eliminated from your conduct. Your partner will look at you with eyes of respect and will feel safe in your presence. Trust will no longer be such a key issue and love will abound.

Is it ever too late to learn how to become a great partner? The answer is never. Are you willing to do whatever it takes? Most say yes but their actions say no.

Persistence is the key to achieve the transformation to greatness.

If you are a person with a sincere heart and honest efforts, you will achieve the status of greatness. It will be a result of your willingness to risk and your persistence to stay with it even when it seems that you are not getting anywhere.

Human nature is to want results fast and easy. Consistent application of these principles and skills will come over time. I designed most of the subjects in this book to give you fast results because I know how desperate some of you may be and how impatient the rest of you are. Therefore, I have developed a solid program that will get you results regardless of your commitments. Even with this said, some of you would give up at the first sign of trouble and move onto another book with another approach. So if it is hard, then do it hard because isn’t your partner worth it? Of course, they are, so stick with the decision to be Great and the willingness to do whatever it takes.

Character changes may be needed. You may have to stretch your present limits to find out what your true capabilities are. If you believe that you currently exemplify the model of greatness then I congratulate you. Please realize though, that you are always capable of more. This is an ongoing process of strength and love. This is sometimes physical strength but primarily mental and emotional muscles. Spiritual growth is also required.
Ask yourself, “What am I capable of?”

What is your answer? Decide that whatever your answer may be that you are willing to push that answer to a greater level. You must be willing to stretch.
Wishy-washy efforts will not produce results. You are expected to push yourself, not only by myself but also by your partner and anyone else who may have an interest in the future of this relationship. What are you willing to do? Before I asked what are you capable of, now I am asking about your level of willingness. You need to expect a certain amount of suffering on your part. Growth always involves a certain degree of pain. Anything less than I’m willing to do whatever it takes attitude will hinder your progress. Be clear about this. Do not monkey around with this initial groundwork. I specialize in helping couples in the worst kind of shape. I know what I am talking about. So do not argue, just commit yourself.

Achieving greatness also asks the question, “How much are you willing to commit to this relationship?” This question separates the serious ones from the big talkers. Unless you are willing to commit the overwhelming majority of yourself to this relationship then you will not get your breakthrough you desire. You must be willing to get hurt. The risk is always present anyway but when you open up your heart to new standards, you can get hurt. Your partner may not be as committed as you are but do not let that hinder you. I’m not so much asking that you commit everything but I am suggesting that your commitment range be from 80% on up.
Pushing yourself beyond your present limits requires that I come back to a previously asked question but with greater expectation. What more are you capable of? When you think you have given all that you can, you must ask yourself, “Is there anything else that I can do?” Do you have greater efforts within you?

This is what makes the Great great. They are willing to be different from those around them.

Friends and family may tell you to give up or that you are trying too hard. They may suggest games that incite a sense of jealousy. Whatever the case may be, you must decide whose calling the shots. You have to live with the decisions and the actions that you make. Make sure that this is done to the best of your ability.

Direction comes a lot easier when you have a model of how you want to be. When I am not sure how to model myself as a great partner in a particular situation I like to ask the question,
“How would the partner I’d like to be do the thing I want to do?”

Often, I get an immediate answer and proceed from there. Where you are right now in life is the result of the kind of questions that you ask. Make sure that you ask questions that promote a positive direction not only for yourself but also especially for the future of your relationship. Another example is “What can I do to have a wonderful relationship?”

Greatness as a partner demands that you expand your ability to love.

Growing a better relationship will be in direct proportion to your ability to love. Strive to consistently love in all that you do. Be consistent in love with the words that you speak and especially in the words that you do not speak. Love requires sacrifice. It means doing things that you do not feel like doing and listening to the same complaint over and over again. Partner focused relationships are synonymous with love. Only through these sacrifices of love will you ever achieve greatness.

Maturity takes time. Some skills are harder to learn than others. Advancement comes through hard work. You would never go to your supervisor and say, “Give me a raise and I’ll work harder.” Instead, you would make sure that your performance is top notch and if it is, then you probably will not have to ask for the raise. Promotion will be inevitable. Always be willing to go the extra mile. Your partner deserves it. Do not compare your efforts to those of others who complain. Those who whine and complain never achieve the mature levels of greatness. They end up divorced and alone.

Fear will be your biggest obstacle on your path towards greatness. Fear creates countless reasons why you should forget you ever thought about being a Great partner. Perhaps you could save yourself the embarrassment of failure and rejection if you just pretend that you have never heard the difference between good partners and great ones. Maybe you could blend in with the others who exist in a dead end relationship. It is normal to doubt your ability to transform into a great partner but do not surrender to this fear. It is a lie. I have transformed. I have seen hundreds of men and women transform. You can too!

Commit yourself to be GREAT.

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With the weather warming up and the summer in full swing, it’s a great time of year to get out there and meet someone new. Instead of looking for love in all the same places, It’s Just Lunch recommends singles change their scenery and go somewhere new. Take advantage of the opportunities your city has to meet someone special this summer. You won’t meet someone new by sitting at home, get out there and try something new.

Learn something new—
Take a dance class. Learn to salsa, rumba, cha-cha or ballroom dance. Every city is full of dance studios offering classes nearly every day of the week. Then take your new dance moves and spend the night on the town showing off what you learned. If dancing is not your thing, take a cooking class. Classes are typically held in the evening and most cooking schools offer specials if you bring friends. Grab a group of friends and learn how to make something new. Don’t have anywhere to show off of your new recipe, bring it into work. You’ll score points with your co-workers. Plus who knows, they may rave to their single friend what a fantastic cook you are.

Get happy—
Leave work at 5 o’clock and enjoy happy hour with your co-workers. Happy hours are a great way to spend time with your co-workers outside of work and the perfect opportunity to meet other professionals. After work crowds at hip restaurants and bars are perfect for mingling with other busy professionals. Most restaurants and bars have happy hour specials Monday thru Friday. But be sure to arrive early, most get packed by 5 o’clock.

Stay fit—
Head to the gym this summer. Not only will you get in shape, but you’ll meet other singles who are as into working out and staying healthy as you are. The gym is a hidden spot in every city that is often taken for granted when it comes to meeting people. Most people go the gym around the same time every day. See someone special, be sure to go to the gym the same time you saw them. Leave your ipod at home and strike up a conversation when you are lifting weights or running on the treadmill. If that doesn’t suit you, take a class. Most health clubs offer night time classes, a great place to meet other busy professionals after work who have similar interests when it comes to working out.

Enjoy the rhythm—
Attend your city’s weekly jazz festival or musical concert. Most city’s host concerts with local performers. It’s a wonderful way to support the local arts in your and hear some great music.

Join a Sports League—
If you’re a soccer player, or even just a fan of the game, join a soccer league. Many sports leagues have “Singles” teams. A sports league is a great way to meet other singles who have the same love of the game as you. If you are not into soccer, most cities also have softball or bowling leagues as well.

Get your flirt on­­—
The next time you are out and see someone you are interested in, don’t be shy. Strike up a conversation. Not quite sure what to say? If you are at a venue that has music, talk about the band. If you are at a place with a nice atmosphere, talk about the ambiance or the decor of the bar or restaurant. If you are not comfortable with either of those, talk about what a beautiful sunny summer day it is the next time you are picking up your morning coffee. You’ll be sure to strike up a conversation.

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A wedding can be exciting and nerve racking. You want everything to go off without incident as well as wanting your guests to enjoy themselves. You want to look back upon this day and the events that went into creating this day with pleasure not scorn. In this article we will give you some wedding planning ideas and tips to help your guests happy and make the day run as smoothly as possible for you.

A first piece of advice and wedding planning idea was gained from a friend of mine at her wedding. All of the photos were taken before the ceremony in the morning. True, this meant that everyone had to be ready that much earlier but it was one thing out of the way early and the photos were taken while everyone was bright and fresh. It also avoids the hassle of guests having to wait for you at the reception.

A second piece of wedding planning advice is to have disposable cameras on the tables at the reception. True, you will most likely have a professional photographer for those formal wedding shots but you will want photos of the r3eception as well. By placing cameras around you can get the guests to take the photos for you. This also lets them become involved in your big day.

A third wedding planning Idea and general piece of advice is to take a moment for you. Make sure you have some food available. The day will go by quickly and you are likely to get caught up in a whirlwind of excitement. You’ll also be talking to people that you may not have seen in a long time. You’ll want to enjoy the day as much as anyone else so take a few moments out and take the day in for your own benefit.

Your wedding should be a happy occasion for both of you and your guests. By having a few simple ideas in place and taking some time for yourself you can ensure that your wedding day will be a day enjoyed by all.

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Dating is sort of a lost art. It seems that many people go out on a date with a person, decide they like them and before they know it they are a “couple”. I say play the odds. Date a lot. This may seem obvious but I often speak with clients and friends who go out with someone and then get really disappointed when it fails to work. When you think about how many different types of people there are and the mental list that we keep in our heads of certain traits and characteristics we want our partner to possess, it would be pretty shocking to find that the first guy you go out with as you embark on this new dating journey is going to be “the one”. Dating is hard work and while you should to be open to the possibility of finding Mr. or Mrs. Right, you also have to be open to the possibility of finding Mr. or Mrs. Wrong. Dating can give you valuable information about what you want and with each person you date, you may discover something new to add to your lists of wants and don’t wants. Everyone you date is leading you closer to the relationship that may take you “till death do you part” but you have to approach each date positively and accept the gift of clarity it gives you.

I have to admit that I did not always follow this rule and unfortunately it got me into a lot of trouble. Thinking back on some of my past relationships I was never one to say that I wanted to take things slowly. I was never that girl. For me it seemed that once there was a connection with a guy and we discovered that we liked spending time with each other, we were immediately joined at the hip. Looking back I know this was not the best approach. For example, my ex-husband and I met and immediately clicked. Before we knew it we were living together. However, we were different in so many of the ways that mattered and we really never should have been together, let alone get married. But, because we were living together and got along incredibly well, it was just too easy to stay on the train. I think there are a lot of people together by default when there really are better matches for them out there – they just cut themselves off too soon.

Sometimes it is difficult to decipher what is really going in a relationship. Sometimes you will meet someone and you click with them and it feels good right away. Unfortunately, sometimes people confuse clicking with someone with actually knowing them. There is this immediate sense of comfort you feel with some people and it seems as though you have known them your whole life but you still know virtually nothing about them. It puts you into a false sense of understanding and can really confuse things. So, take your time when you are dating and make sure you really know the person and know what you are getting into before you shut yourself off from every other possibility out there. You may find that you are dating someone who has a lot of the qualities you want and need in a partner but that something is not quite right about it. This time, instead of continuing to date someone because you think it is a better alternative than staying home alone, remind yourself that you deserve to have exactly what you want and though continuing to date this person may provide you temporary gratification, it is taking you further away from what you want. I remind my clients about their goals and what they are hoping to accomplish through dating. Then I ask them to reflect on what they are doing and whether or not what they are doing is bringing them closer to their goal. If the answer is no, then stop doing it. Get out there and date!

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If You’re Really Going to Make It With a Woman, You’ll Both Know It When You Meet and There Won’t Be Any Problems

This is the man who is waiting for “love at first sight” to occur to initiate a relationship. Upon meeting a woman, if there are no vibrations or chemistry between them he simply dismisses the encounter. He uses this as a defensive excuse for initiating any intimate contact with single women.

Waiting for “love at first sight” will prevent you from establishing real friendships with the opposite sex out of casual acquaintances. You don’t have to be madly in love with a woman to show interest and to establish a friendly rapport.

Most Men Are Lucky That Meet And Attract Single Women

This is a misconceived notion that meeting women happens to other men because of luck and good breaks. Picking up or meeting a woman rarely happens by accident. Somebody has got to take that first step to initiate contact with a woman. The only difference between you and the other man is he takes action, not because of a stroke of luck. So remember, you must go out and initiate action. You must make the effort to meet women.

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If you are not familiar with what a honeymoon registry is, you should be!

Today, many couples are already living together prior to getting married. For some, it may be a second marriage. As a result, the need for the usual household items as wedding gifts often does not exist.

The natural solution to the wedding “gift giving” dilemma is the popular and growing trend toward honeymoon registries.

It’s perfect! You get a great honeymoon and your guests can feel good about giving you a gift that they know you really wanted. Something personal and meaningful.

A honeymoon registry is very similar to the usual gift registry. The difference being that instead of getting pieces of crystal or china as gifts, you will get “pieces” of your honeymoon. What a wonderful idea!

When you join a honeymoon registry, your chosen destination package is broken down into affordable “pieces” and listed just like a normal gift registry. The airfare may be broken into several smaller pieces. Each meal or activity you choose will be listed. Your guests can then search your registry and purchase a desired piece of your honeymoon for you.

There are many honeymoon registries to choose from but all are not created equal.

A good registry will…

… be simple to use. Remember, not all of your guests are computer savvy.

… provide both email and postcard notification of your registry to your guests. Not everyone has a computer and postcards are just more personal.

… provide your guests with a visual and physical accounting of their purchase. A gift card to present to the bride and groom as well as a receipt for their own purposes is required.

… have exceptional, personal, customer service complete with a 1-800 number so that guests may contact them with any questions they may have.

… have a proven track record and specialize in honeymoon registry service and travel.

… be bonded to ensure protection of the money in your registry account.

… pay out your collected honeymoon funds in a timely manner.

Call them. Talk with them. Make sure you are completely comfortable with your choice before committing.

As a polite gesture on your part, take pictures of your “gifts” while on your honeymoon. The guests who contributed to your happiness will appreciate a picture in your thank you card!

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I know you are excited and you should be but check out this informaiton on getting married in the state of Alabama.

Marriage license Laws in the state of Alabama, here is what you need to bring with you, and what you need to know about the Alabama marriage laws before filling out the Alabama marriage license form.

This article will take a beginners look at this interesting subject. It will give you the information that you need to know most.

In order to get married, you need to employ and grasp a marriage license. This is the record in your state that allows you to approvedly tie the bump under the law. The system for acquiring your marriage license varies from state to state, so you should buttress with your city’s marriage dresser at your clerk of courtyard’s work to find out what your limited system are.

You’ll typically need to employ for your marriage license at slightest one month before your wedding ceremony. You’ll traditionally need to remit in your birth certificates, tax information, and other approved records. You don’t, however, want to employ for your marriage license too early. In some states, the licenses do expire, if you don’t get married inside a few months.

When you employ for your license, you’ll not only need a resilient of identification and age, but you’ll need to employ for the certificate together, will need to bestow any information about preceding marriages, and will need to pay a nominal fee. You will also need to have a witness when you signal the application, so prepare on bringing your maid of respect or best man with you. The bride will need to know what her married name will be before she signals the marriage certificate. You’ll have to write that name on the application.

To understand the next part of this article, you need to have a clear grasp of the material that has already been presented to you.

And, umpire it or not, just because you have your marriage license sent to you in the parcels does not mean you are approvedly married. You need to have a integrity of the calm or a pious clergyman signal the record. On your wedding day, you’ll give your chaplain your marriage license, then after the ceremony, he’ll signal it and remit it to the polite government union for legalation.

ID Requirement: official Driver’s authority or Birth Certificate and societal wellbeing number.

custody Requirement: Do not have to be a tenant of Alabama.

Waiting cycle: No waiting episode.

If removed: In Alabama, inside last 6 months of wedding time,

a imitate of annulment ruling.

Fees: notes Only! Varies depending on district. $28.35 – $30 for marriage license only; $40.50 for license, ceremony and a trained imitate.

Other Tests: No tests

Under 18: essential trained imitate of birth certificate, both parents must be bestow with identification, or if you have a official guard they must be bestow with a courtyard order and identification. If one or both parents are dead, polite verify of such must be bestowd.

Officiants: Any qualified minister of the gospel in expected unity with the Christian cathedral or union of which he is a part may complete marriages. Also, marriages may

be completeed by the preacher of any pious union according to the system of the pious union. Ministers must bestow a certificate of the marriage to the umpire of probate inside one month after the marriage.

official: authority is legal for 30 existence.

The license can only be worn inside the status of Alabama.

To learn more about this topic, visit your local library or do a simple Internet search to get the information you desire.

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Buying wedding cakes will require several strategic decisions. The first thing that you will need to decide on is what type of cake you want to use. There are dozens of cake choices that you can select from. Traditionally wedding cake has been a delicately flavored cake, however, in recent years chocolate wedding cakes have become more popular. In addition to chocolate and vanilla wedding cake, you can also select from gourmet flavors like raspberry cream or mocha cream.

After selecting the type of cake that you want to use, your next decision will be what cake shape you want. Wedding cakes come in just about any shape that you can imagine. The two most commonly used wedding cake shapes are round wedding cakes and square wedding cakes. If you aren’t sure what wedding cake shape you want you may want to visit a bakery that offers wedding cakes and look through their portfolio of wedding cake designs.

After you have decided on a wedding cake shape your next step will be to select how many tiers you want your wedding cake to have. The size of your cake and the number of tiers that it will have will need to reflect how many people the cake needs to serve, as well as your budget. In addition to deciding on the number of tiers that your wedding cake will have you will also need to decide if the tiers will be stacked directly on top of one another, or if you want to use wedding cake stands. Again refer to photographs of wedding cakes that utilize both of these stacking options to help you make a decision on which method you would like to use.

Next you will want to select a wedding cake topper. Wedding cake toppers come in a variety of sizes and designs. Your wedding cake topper shouldn’t overpower your wedding cake, and it should also not be overpowered by your wedding cake. To find a cake topper that best fits your wedding cake look for one that has the design features that best reflects your wedding’s theme and design, as well as the one that best fits the overall design of your cake.

Your final decision regarding your wedding cake will be what wedding cake serving set you want to use. You have several options for cake serving sets. You can register for a wedding cake serving set along with your wedding china, you can buy a silver engraved wedding cake serving set, or you can buy a novelty wedding cake serving set that has a handle theme that matches the theme of your wedding.

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As the bride’s wedding day approaches, she will be busy making preparations for the most important day of her life.

Planning, planning, planning is the focus of every day. Selecting just the right wedding gown, the ceremony, wedding rings, invitations, brides maids, gifts, honeymoon plans, the list goes on and on.

If all of this is not enough for the bride to think about, a new tradition has entered into the mainstream of most weddings …that of the bride’s wedding day speech.

Brides have taken to the notion of making a speech of their own, participating in a tradition of speeches and weddings toasts in a new and memorable way.

Many brides, even those with some public speaking experience will ask what they should say, how long they should talk, and how to get rid of the added jitters that making a brides wedding say speech will add to her day.

Tips for Making a Memorable Brides Wedding Day Speech.

First, the bride should thank everyone who came to join her and the groom on their wedding day.

The brides speech should include a special thank you for her parents. Recall a few moments from childhood such as her favorite Christmas gift, a birthday party or family vacation that was especially memorable

The bride might include a bit of humor, perhaps telling a funny story about dad’s handyman skills, mom’s burnt cake or an escapade with siblings.

And don’t forget to thank the groom’s parents for all they have done, bringing their son into the world, and thanking them for welcoming you into the family.

The bride might want to tell the story of how she met her new husband and how much their journey and their future life together mean to her.

Finally, the bride may want to thank anyone who made a unique contribution to the wedding. This can include a guest or family member who helped with all of the pre wedding planning, the baker who made the wedding cake, the priest, rabbi or judge who performed the ceremony…even the band for all the great music!

The bride is in charge of her wedding day speech and expressing her feelings on this special day will add a beautiful and heartwarming touch to her day.

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