So you’ve tasted the offerings of the caterer and you’ve selected your main menu options. What about drinks?

What’s on tap

Much like selecting the menu options, you will need to factor in what kinds of drinks everyone would like to drink. The easiest way to take care of this is to offer a full service bar. In this way, guests can have mixed drinks of all varieties or they can stick to wine and beer.

You want to plan this option out carefully as you may end up paying more than you would like. Check with the provider as to how many drinks each guest can have, or can expect from the supply that will be brought. In most cases, there is no limit.

A word of advice: Don’t ever have a cash bar. Making your guests pay for their drinks when they may also have paid for their outfits and transportation is just a lot to ask.

What to choose for everyone

In terms of wine and beer, tastes and varieties are enormous—how does someone choose?

The best advice is to select four to five different kinds of beer with each one having enough to fill everyone’s glass. This may surprise you, but sometimes all of your guests will like the same thing and you may want to make sure that they can have it.

As for wine, you may want to have at least one of each a red varietal and a white varietal. This ensures a milder and more acidic selection. A way to make sure that everyone is happy is to find blends of each of these wines. By blends, this means to find a red that includes a merlot, syrah, and pinot noir, while the white might include a chardonnay, reisling, and zinfandel.

These can be tricky to find, but they are crowd pleasers.

Champagne for toasts

Toasts are just not toasts without a little glass (or two) of champagne. It’s common sense to make sure that the new couple and their wedding party have the very finest in champagne (as determined by the budget), while the rest of the guests have another variety. In many reception halls or catering services, the champagne for the wedding party is provided.

Of course, there will also be designated drivers at the wedding, so you will also want to have water, sodas, coffee, and juices available as well. When you’re planned it thoroughly, everyone will be well-watered throughout the evening.

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“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.” -John Powell

After your relationship is over, when the dust starts to settle and you begin to pick up the pieces, is the time you begin to regret all of the wasted time spent in trying to make your partner—see the light. While in the relationship you are so determined to have things work out the way you want, that time wasn’t even an issue.

We approach this relentless pursuit of trying to right what is wrong so diligently, that we lose track of time. We are so consumed with making things work that we refuse to admit the truth, and in turn we keep hanging in there.

It’s when we look back and can clearly see there was a point that our heartfelt attempts were in vain that the remorse of time wasted begins to set in. Ultimately, the outcome was the same whether we waited another year or two, or ten. But…now that you can see the light, it’s time to put the past behind you, cut your losses and don’t waste another precious minute regretting what you can’t do a thing about now.

Many people continue lamenting this loss of time so long that it becomes a self-imposed prison. Why do you want to go over and over in your mind what was, what could’ve been and how bad you feel about what happened? What is your point? The best thing you can do is to accept the fact that it’s over, and start right this minute to begin putting it behind you.

All of the fretting, regret and introspection doesn’t help, it hurts you. There is no benefit to re-living the past over and over again wishing things would’ve worked out differently.
You’ve already wasted months or perhaps years hoping and wishing—to no avail. As difficult as it may be, now is the time to face the reality that you need to move on. Letting go of the past comes with time—just make sure that when you let go, you let go of all of it.

There are times in life when things simply don’t work out the way we want. It’s just the way it goes. But, ultimately you have to get your head on straight and understand the negative impact of holding on to something that’s over. If you continue to focus on your remorse and disappointment, how do you expect to feel?

Every time you catch yourself feeling bad, use your feelings as an indication that what you are telling yourself about this situation is what is keeping you stuck. Stop yourself and begin to focus on what you want your future to look like from this point forward. Project yourself living your life filled with love, wealth, health and all that you desire.

There’s a whole world out there waiting for you. Don’t hold onto the past. Venture forward. It’s out there—you just have to stop wasting any more of your time and go after it.

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Your mate’s decided to tie the proverbial knot and you get the task of giving him one last night to remember? If you’re looking to make your mate’s stag night more than just another night on the town, here’s a few ideas for stag weekends in Leeds that will set the wedding party off on the fun foot.

Scantily clad women are par for the course for a stag night. Why not take it to the ultimate in class and luxury? Stock a limo with beers and bubbly, add a lovely dancer and the groom and his mates, and what have you got? A Limo Lap Dance evening to kick off a stag weekend full of delicious debauchery.

That’s just one unusual, memorable idea for a Leeds stag weekend. Perhaps your wedding party is a bit more, shall we say – reserved? In that case, how about a night of laughter at a Leeds comedy club topped off with a champagne breakfast at a 4-star hotel? The City of Leeds boasts some of the best restaurants, nightclubs and hotels you’ll find anywhere. There’s sure to be at least one that’s the perfect place to host your stag do.

Looking for something even more unique? How about a full weekend of stag activities for the groom and his mates featuring a menu of daytime activities and nighttime relaxation that they’ll never forget? Start off with an afternoon of quad bike racing, back to the hotel for cleanup and drinks before heading out for a night of dancing in the hottest clubs in the city. Or gather the whole wedding party for a day out on the ranges for a clay pigeon shoot topped off with a fabulous feast at a four-star restaurant.

For the adventurous groom, hire a tour operator to create a specialty scenario geared just to your crew. Have him kidnapped at the airport and held ‘captive’ in pure luxury while the rest of the wedding party hunts him down by following clues that take them to all the fun sights to visit in Leeds.

All it takes is a little imagination and planning to help your mate say sayonara to the single life in a way he’ll never forget. If you’re not that imaginative yourself, you can turn for help to a tour service that specialises in arranging special weekends and outings like stag nights and stag weekends for ideas and help in planning.

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One of the things that really shocks step-couples is when I remind them that their marital bond is the weakest one at the beginning of the life of a stepfamily. That seems contrary to our thinking because it tends to be the opposite of what first marriages experience. It’s true though. Think about it. You’ve known your kids their whole lives. How long have you known your new partner? Even though this imbalance is present in the beginning, for the marriage to survive IT needs to be made a priority. Now, this needs to be a SLOW process, but it needs to ultimately happen.

It will take a commitment on your part as a member of the step-couple to put the marriage first. There will be times when you know you need to do things as a couple to strengthen your marriage and your children will object. They will try to make you feel guilty for spending time with your spouse instead of them. It will be important to let them know that this doesn’t need to be an "either/or" situation. Instead, you are making time for your marriage "and" you regularly make time for them.

Accept the fact that they won’t like this at first, but you must remain firm in this commitment. Your marriage HAS to be nurtured. Step-couples are no different than any other couple. If ignored, your relationship will die. Waiting until the kids get older, just flat out doesn’t work. In doing this, you are constantly sending the message to your partner that they are second class to your kids. This doesn’t elevate them to the equal partner position that they deserve. It also doesn’t give your children the stable family life that they deserve.

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There is this woman at my son’s school with whom I have a very bad human connection indeed. I think she is unapproachable, indifferent, and unfriendly. In fact, though I like a few people, there are more people in that school whom I absolutely dislike. In my book they are all indifferent, unapproachable, and unfriendly.

On the other hand I have a great human connection with my piano teacher, now a friend, who is just delightful, warm, interesting, generous, and very intelligent. Ditto for my son who is also very intelligent, sensitive, caring, loving, and absolutely hilarious.

How is that that I have great and not so great relationships with different people? What is there that makes me like and be liked as well as hated (or disliked) and hateful (or despising)? Why do I recognize negative qualities in some people and positive qualities in other people?

The answer is very simple: I am just mirroring myself in these people. As we hate to realize it, the truth is that we all have positive and negative qualities (according to our values, of course) that we project onto others, thus, some people push our buttons whereas others just delight us.

It is, thus, crucially important to know who are we exactly, so we can transform all our relationships into positive and gratifying ones. To know our qualities we need only make two lists. For each list, get a piece of paper and make a line in the middle.

In the first sheet, do the following:

1. Write on top: Qualities I appreciate in others.

2. On the left hand side of the paper, write the names of people you most admire. They can be real people or imaginary characters, dead or alive, that you have or have not known personally; it matters not.

3. On the right hand side of the paper, for each person, write all the qualities you most admire in them.

4. Keep doing this until you have written qualities for all of the people in that list.

5. Do not repeat qualities. Write them only once.

In the second piece of paper do the same, only this time, you will write: “Qualities I despise in others,” meaning all the negative qualities certain people have that you truly despise, even hate. Now, pay attention that you should not write about behavior but qualities only.

For example: Hitler = mass murderer.
Mass murderer is a behavior, not a quality. You could write instead: Hitler = unsympathetic (to put it mildly).
See the difference?

When you are done with both lists write the following at the bottom of each page:
I see these qualities in others because I too, have them.
Ouch! How can I compare myself with that despicable man?

Now is the time to reflect about each of our negative qualities, the ones we are sure NOT to have but which, indeed we do, in a subtle or not so subtle way. In our example: unsympathetic. Ok; the guy condoned the murderer of millions of people. In what way are we being and doing the same? You don’t need to go far. If you are not a vegetarian, you already have an answer. (This is a lame comparison, I know. I just want to give an example.)

See? It is not difficult at all to see where our projections go. Try it and I guarantee your relationships are about to change radically for the better.

By the way: For some reason, I can’t care less about the people in that school. I, too, am indifferent, unapproachable, and unfriendly. It is up to me to change the situation. Once I change, everything will fall into place beautifully.

© Maria Moratto 2006
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Your wedding rings were meant to last a lifetime. They are the unique symbol of your devotion to each other and the design should be something that you both can agree on. The most unique wedding rings are the one which you design your selves, and there are many mediums to choose from. Wedding rings are no longer just simple gold bands, they come in all metals, and you can even have them crafted out of stone or bone! Your wedding band will be something and you will wear all the time. Therefore, it is very important that you give a lot of thought into the design of your wedding ring.

Some of the more unique and beautiful wedding bands that have become popular over the last few years are the Irish wedding ring which depicts two hands holding over a heart, and titanium wedding rings, which are virtually indestructible. Neither of these wedding ring sets is overly expensive. When shopping for unique wedding rings, they are referred to as contemporary, as opposed to traditional.

Traditional wedding bands and modern style have come together and produced some fabulous styles to choose from. Diamonds are still the most requested wedding ring for women, although, men have come to appreciate their beauty too. A majority of wedding bands for men are diamonds set flush in gold or platinum. A popular engagement ring for women is the round diamond brilliant cut. Other styles gaining popularity are emerald cuts, baguettes and marquis.

With so many styles available, it should not be too difficult to find a wedding band that represents your personality and personal taste. Whether you have your wedding rings custom made or purchased from your local jeweler, there is sure a wedding band set that is just perfect for you.

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Infidelity is such an ugly word, especially if you are caught right in the middle of it all. None of us when into our relationships thinking that it was going to end with our partner finding another person to be intimate with, but for far to many of us this is a reality. Just looking at the divorce rates and the statistics for cheating spouses is enough to alarm anyone, but it may not be the case for you. Before you know that your husband is cheating you need to know the signs to look for in order to know for sure. Here are the signs my husband is cheating and how to recognize them.

The first thing that you will probably notice is a change in the amount of attention that they are showing you. It could be that the attention increases and then suddenly stops. A cheating husband will often do this to ease his guilty conscience, and then once their conscience is sufficiently hardened they will pull away from both you and the rest of the family. You will also notice that they are very protective of their cell phone and computer usage. In fact, if you are fortunate enough to actually hold your cheating husbands cell phone in your hand, why not see if they are erasing the call history and text messages. If your husband shuts the computer down when you come into the room this could also be the sign of a cheating husband.

The signs of a cheating husband do vary from individual to individual, but they often run in the same circles. Know what to look for and you will be in a far better position to catch them red handed.

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Cheating is usually a symptom of an unhealthy relationship. It destroys friendships, breaks trust, and causes guilt, anger, hurt and many other negative emotions. Cheating in relationships is not going to last. People know all these facts, but still go on cheating others.

The major point about cheating in relationships is that it is accidental. Most people do not want to cheat on their associates. A known fact is that most persons who experience infidelity in their relationships are likely to experience in future also, even when they move on to other relationships. This is pretty incredible, but true. Some people think that getting badly burned once would be sufficient. However, this is not quite the way it occurs for many people.

There are several reasons why cheating, adultery, infidelity and extra marital affairs often occur in many relationships. People are complicated and appearances can be deceptive. Cheating in relationships depends upon several factors. One important factor is the choice of a partner or spouse. If the choice is not in line with what they require or wish, or with what their partner can give them, there is a chance of cheating.

Cheating also occurs when people fail to give their relationships priority by putting time and energy into them. Another major reason is the failure to understand the issues that led to infidelity in the first place. Many people do not want to analyze the role they played in the failure of a relationship. In most cases, they blame others for things that went wrong rather than look inward for complete understanding.

Cheating often occurs in many marital relationships. Communication is here the most problematic issue. For a myriad of reasons, partners get little time to talk about feelings with each other, particularly negative feelings. In some relationships, partners are not allowed to share unhappiness. Misunderstandings also make people feel that their spouse does not want to hear their problems. So they do not talk about difficulties. The lack of a sense of empowerment, issues of self esteem and unequal partnership are also significant problems in any relationship.

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I want to take a look into the subculture of ‘the game’. Yes, I know Neil Strauss and read his book but I’m talking primarily about the African-American subculture and their relational dynamics.

I’m also not talking about the rapper ‘The Game’ either.

A lot of power and energy is centered around the desire for sex, put quite bluntly. African-Americans are just more open about it than most ‘white’ people who are dealing with a lot more
personal repression.

Black dudes could teach white dudes all kinds of things about the game. The thing is though that it’s limited in a way. If you define yourself as a player, you become a social stereotype
unless you are the rare man who can transcend it and combine your skills with something greater.

The black dudes that are looking for ways to transcend it are the ones who are going to outscore major players when it comes to the ladies especially when they don’t have the bling and bucks just yet. That takes a lot of self-respect to admit you want to be even better than you are.

I’m not limited to any sub-culture or it’s rules. I broke through that a long time ago. I massively respect guys who don’t limit themselves to the confines of one subculture and
the attainment of higher status just to impress others.

Be yourself. Be greater than it all while still holding your roots. I represent many things within myself; not just one thing or city.

With the dynamics as they are, I think all men should take a look into things anyways because women are used to living the fantasy more than the reality. Porn is a fantasy. Sex itself
is reality.

Bridging the gap between the sexes is what I’m working on but it’s up to each to hold his own and frankly, too many players are just trying too hard.

Look at phrases such as ‘don’t hate the player, hate the game.’

‘The Game’ is taken as a social reality and the women take a major role in it.

How is it that women know when one man is a ‘player’? When they see him approach, then they’ll judge him on his skill level or ability of the ‘game’ and his level of congruency to it.

African-American’s widely consider ‘the game’ with women and sex just what it is; ‘the game’ (which can also refer to the social power game of status). Either you have ‘game’ or you don’t.

Those men that DO ‘have game’ are usually viewed with respect and have women on rotation for booty calls.

Those who don’t have game go through all kinds of psychological torment on themselves and around women. They put the pussy on a pedestal even more than they already do.

The entire concept of ‘the game’ as it’s indoctrinated within the African-American community is that it still clearly puts the woman as the sexual (read; social) ‘prize’.

Powerful independent African-American roles models such as Beyonce have influenced the behavior of women. The women are strong; I know from experience and observation. It’s a lot for
a man to deal with if he doesn’t know his relationship to her different types of power.

Of course there is a higher level of ‘game’ that is all socially based. Being a ‘baller’ or pro sports athlete will attract women to you. Owning a strip club, making big bucks and having pimped out cars will all attract women to you.

The highest social status men in the subculture are record producers, athletes and rap stars.

This to many is the ultimate status symbol; power and influence with a lot of social status. It’s a sign of ‘I made it. Look at me and where I came from.’ At that point, they can fulfill
their fantasies of having women all around them at the peak of ‘the game’.

Or is a lot of that really just the effective transmutation of all the sexual energy around you? Or is it really still a fantasy and women are just around you because of your social
status?

Either way, if you have your goals set, you can effectively use it to your advantage (sex). Ultimately women should appreciate you for you and not for your social status. Jay-Z quips about not knowing if women are with him for him or with him for his money.

Black men have a lot of personal authority and can harness it more effectively with the ladies if they were aware of certain things. I’ve seen strong men of personality and character but
when it comes to women, they’re dealing with a lot of issues that white guys are dealing with; putting the pussy on a pedestal.

Behavioral conditioning like that takes some real answers. Seeing a woman for something other than a sex object will allow you to end up at sex faster. It’s not that you’re being ‘whiter’ or anything, rather all women share the same biological characteristics.

Transcend the social game and it’s limitations and get women turned on by you for being your intensive self.

If you’re going to play the game for being in the game you may as well go ‘direct’ and just be straightforward with women about what your lifestyle is before they even have a chance to object.

That way they can join you or not.

If you’ve been basing success with women socially…let go of that.

Let social status take second place to a newly awakened ‘natural’ game. That way you’ll be succeeding even when you haven’t made it ‘big’ yet.

It almost takes putting away your pride to open up to a higher level of reality. The results are worth it that I’ve experienced.

It’s like being humble and realizing your mistakes so that you can accelerate your success.

The ultimate ladies man is ‘above the game’. He knows it’s not a game or a fantasy, instead it’s a lifestyle. He doesn’t appear as a player because he is so comfortable around women yet before they know it, they’re in bed with him because of his understanding of women and relational dynamics.

There’s no barrier for the woman to put up to reject him because he’s not putting her social sexploitation attributes on a pedestal; he sees right through it.

She can’t reject him if he’s just making a connection. She can’t tell where he’s coming from and all of a sudden she’s exchanged information with him and they are getting together and she’s excited about it.

There’s things to be learned in different ways. I’ve drawn influence and knowledge from all different subcultures to MY advantage. Keep an open mind to learning something from the best of the best outside your own subculture and take it to YOUR advantage.

We’re all in the process of learning and growing and I’ve had many African-American, African and Jamaican friends before. I’ve learned things from them and I’ll continue to.

Continue to evolve. I’ve been with women from dozens of countries including the U.S. and I love women. I’m ‘above the game’ because I don’t limit myself to being a social stereotype.

I’m the multi-cultural, invisible player in a way. There’s a lot of value out there and hopefully I can help some guys see things in a new light.

Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and social dynamics.

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