Life & Relationship Blog
5 Apr
It’s a tough world out there, with all the upheaval and stress wouldn’t it be nice to crave for a change …some tenderness? Sure sex is sometimes fun just being hard rough sex but sex with a little tenderness is something that just simply soothes the soul in a way that nothing else can. Tenderness can transform your regular sex fest into some serious love making and I can definitely attest to that! Tenderness doesn’t have to be contrived, just let it flow naturally.
The most important factor in a tender interlude begins with eye contact. The eyes are the windows to the soul so why not open the blinds. Usually when two people have an intimate connection with each other, they can express certain emotions simply through body language and especially through an intense gaze. Keep eye contact all through your love making. Intimate tenderness can be as simple as a soft caress or a lingering kiss. Bathing your partner, brushing their hair or stroking their back are all tender moments to be savored.
Tenderness enjoyed during love play is something that can be mimicked even if it doesn’t come naturally. Next time in the throes of passion, grab your partners hands as you gaze deeply into their eyes… now that’s tenderness.
Take it slow, enjoy the moment. Be at peace in that particular minute with that one special someone. Practice the gift of tenderness by just kissing. Share soft gentle kisses… why rush. Try to pour all the emotion you can through the simple act of a shared caress. Tenderness can sometimes be as easy as transferring certain emotions through the act of touch. If you think it, try to feel it. Ease all the stresses in your life by sharing some tenderness.
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5 Apr
Many other cultures have developed traditions regarding a bride to be and her hair. For example in China it is customary for a married women to do the bride’s hair. Since she is experienced with being married and seen as a successful wife she can help ease the nervous bride. Traditionally she will also speak of the good fortune of the bride and abut the future of the couple.
In the United States and Western cultures we do not have these deeper traditions but many recognize the importance of a great hairdo. Often women spend a great deal of time planning a wedding, picking the perfect dress and labor over the makeup the day of the wedding. It makes sense then to spend just as much time on the hairstyle that will be worn. By following the steps below and planning ahead you can ensure that the wedding hairstyle will be the perfect final touch to a beautiful bride.
Step 1 Find a Hairdresser
Several months before the wedding it is important to pick out a hairdresser that you can build a relationship with. You want this to be someone that you can trust and have built a rapport with. Ask to see samples of hairstyles they have done and even go for a cut early on to see how they work. This will help you find the right person for you.
Step 2 Set up a Consultation Appointment
Often hairstylists will do a consultation appointment with you where you can meet them one on one and discuss hairstyle ideas for your wedding day. You will want to talk about the shape of your face, the wedding gown you will be wearing and possible styles that you are thinking about. The hairdresser can help you in picking styles that will flatter your features and work well with your wedding dress. For example with long hair an updo can work very well and give a very classic look. Or if you want to wear your hair down and lose it can give a more romantic feeling. Discuss these options with a trained hairstylist and see what they think would be best. They see tons of people’s hair day in and day out and have a professionally trained eye and often can spot things that you might not even think of.
Step 3 Practice Session
A week or two before the big day set up a practice session. During this time you can go in to the hairstylist and have them actually style your hair like they will for the wedding day. This will give you a chance to feel and look at the style in reality and see what you think. Spend some time with your hair in this style and see if it is comfortable. It is also important for you to get comfortable with the style beforehand so you can wear it like it is just part of your normal style and elegance. Also walk around the salon and see if it feels comfortable and if anything comes lose. You don’t want to be struggling and fighting with your hair on your big day so make sure it works for you and make adjustments to the plan as needed.
You also might want to wear a dress with a similar neckline and shape as your wedding dress. Traditionally it is a bad omen to wear a wedding dress before the big day but find something that is similar. This will help you in establishing if you like the style or not.
Step 4 The Big Day
It is important to go in as relaxed as possible. It at all possible it can be very nice to get a full body message the day or night before the wedding so that you are as relaxed as possible. Make your appoint hours before so that you will not be rushed or feel panicked.
By following these 4 easy steps and planning ahead your hairstyle should be as comfortable to you as something you wear everyday. You want your hairstyle to feel like that old pair of comfortable sweatpants or pajamas yet something that looks like a million bucks. By practicing before hand and consulting with a trained and professional hairstylist you can ensure that you will feel comfortable and clam on the big day. Well, maybe not but at least you won’t have to worry about your hair on top of everything else.
Chris Ryerson is the webmaster of planbestwedding.com Plan Best Wedding. A great resource for: planbestwedding.com wedding hairstyles

5 Apr
What does real love look like? The way we act towards other people is a true expression of how much we love.
The Indian Jesuit Anthony de Mello tells this story:
The student asks the Master, ‘What is love?’
‘The total absence of fear,’ the Master replies.
‘What is it that we fear?’ the student asks.
‘Love,’ says the Master.
We first must be clear in our own mind and understand that building a solid relationship foundation requires the following qualities that express love.
Love is Loyalty.
If you are in love it means you look to no other person to meet your desires. It means you have no longing for another. Loyalty means you are faithful and devoted to the one you are with in every way. The moment you find yourself desiring another or taking long looks and fantasying, you are no longer in love with your partner and this must be addressed before your desires turn into action.
Loyalty means saying no to all temptation that might hinder your present bond of love. While you are in relationship you must respect the moment and open yourself up to your partner’s potential as long as you are together. This does not mean you must be with someone the rest of your life. If a relationship threatens or harms you in anyway it is definitely time to move on. Loyalty is also about being loyal to your own values and respecting your partner’s values.
Love is Trust.
Do you have difficulties trusting others? Trust issues are based in fear. Every relationship we are involved in allows us to work on trust. This means communicating with a sense of honour and integrity. If you avoid your issues associated with trust it will continue to resurface until you acknowledge it and begin to clear negative belief patterns associated to your past. Trust in any relationship begins with how you feel about yourself. Do you trust yourself?
Love is Respect.
The quality of respect will always lift a relationship up. Loving relationships involve a deep level of respect for yourself and your partner. The best way to respect your relationship is to never speak negatively about your partner. Some people get caught up in trashing their mate not realizing the consequences of their actions. Most people do not realize that the more they talk negatively about their spouse or partner to others it only creates destructive energy in the relationship. What happens is your family member or friends now hold a negative image of your partner in their mind long after the issue has been resolved. If you need to discuss your relationship concerns respect each other by seeking professional help.
Love is Appreciation.
The true act of giving flows from the art of appreciation. Women tend to give more in a relationship than men. Thankfully, that is now changing. Men are ready to appreciate the feminine and honour the wisdom of women. Women are ready to appreciate the gentleness that comes from the strength of a real man. The secret every man should know is that if they give to their companion in a loving way which shows appreciation, they will receive love ten fold. For example, if a man acknowledges his partner in a meaningful way and goes out of his way to help around the house, their partner is more likely to connect sexually. Appreciating your partner, you transform loveless sex into passionate love encounters.
Stephanie Dowrick author of The Universal Heart writes, we function most healthy when we feel valued by others and value ourselves. This supports the development of loving and respectful relationships.
Love is Integrity.
Are you afraid of admitting the truth of how you feel? What do you perceive happening to you if you do? Learning to stand in our own vulnerable takes courage and brings incredible strength to a relationship. Learn to be up front with how you feel such as, I am feeling vulnerable right now or I am feeling stressed about work and I just need some time to change my thoughts. When we can communicate honestly with our partner we open the door for understanding. Bring the gift of integrity into your relationship by being real with where you are in your own mind without blaming anyone for your experience.
In changing our ways of being we give more room for love to blossom. The choices we make strongly impact our lives and the lives of those around us. Knowing what true love looks like, we can then opt to strengthen these qualities in our own lives instead of reacting in fear.
If we have a deep desire to experience more in our relationships we must breathe in the word change. People who are less adaptable to change allow for stagnation to set in which can lead to boredom. Acknowledging where we are at and taking the steps to change our behaviors we begin to create the life we long for. Instead of fearing change embrace change. We live in a fluid world forever moving, evolving and expressing in new ways. It means we will not be the same person we are today. It means we must allow ourselves to expand and evolve our heart and mind.
You may have been motivated by phantom fear in the past but now you can make a choice, a choice to renew your life, your relationship and begin again. With a strong foundation you can lift your relationship up into the vibration of love where loyalty, trust, respect, integrity and appreciation are valued and communicated. Creating a solid foundation based in love we must demonstrate our good intentions with loving action. Are you ready to make changes for the sake of love?
Karen Klassen is owner of Imagine Seminars & Consulting company based in Calgary, Alberta Canada. She is a Personal Life and Relationship Coach and facilitator of The Loving Relationship Workshop and Women Reclaiming Their Power Workshop. For more information view imagineseminars.ca imagineseminars.ca or email: mailto:info@imagineseminars.ca info@imagineseminars.ca

5 Apr
If you are in dating stage, entering a relationship, attracted to a mysterious guy, in doubts about your relationship, want to protect yourself or whatever reasons you have and you need to know his marital status and history, you can do your investigation at the privacy of your home.
Years ago, if you want to background check a person or to find out if he is really telling you the truth, you need to hire a private investigator to do the job for you. But now almost everything can be accessed through the internet, you can even know his marital status in minutes. It is true; you can do that now at home without hiring a private investigator.
Public records are now accessible through internet if you know where to look and obtain the information you need. If you want to know his marital status, in just minutes you can find out important information about a potential date or husband. This public information can benefit you if used correctly.
If you are in doubts, concerned and you want to know his marital status and history to protect yourself from hurt and from hurting others- if he turned out to be married, online people search could help you find out the truth.
Women may meet men online or in bars and although they are totally strangers, women still get interested but can practice caution in dating by conducting basic background checks particularly to know his marital status and history. It gives women some sense of protection to know his marital status from public records than find herself in a messy situation later.
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