“We can’t go on together
With suspicious minds
And we can’t build our dreams
On suspicious minds…”
(Elvis)

So you’ve got that nagging feeling that something is not quite right in your relationship but how can you be sure? The red flags for cheating are pretty much the same for both men and women so lets go over a few of the basics.

Love don’t live here anymore…
When someone is cheating, their involvement with another man or woman will cause them to treat you differently. You may notice an unusually defensive attitude when you ask questions about their day or suddenly they find fault in everything you do. By portraying you as incompetent they are justifying the affair in their mind. They will lose interest in family activities such as spending time with the kids or doing household chores because they need to make extra time for the affair.

Guilty feet have got no rhythm…
On the other hand, the opposite can occur and you may be showered with more gifts and affection than you’ve seen in years. If you’re not sure where this sudden burst of attention is coming from you may want to consider “a guilty conscience”.
Personality and behavioral changes are highly suspicious and most people will have a “gut instinct” when their partner seems to have been replaced by an alien. In and of itself it is not proof of an affair but combined with other tell tale signs it may explain their behavior.

I’m too sexy for my shirt too sexy for my shirt… So sexy it hurts…
Is your partner spending more and more time with the mirror? Have they developed an interest in their health and started working out in the gym? A sudden preoccupation with personal appearance and a “new look” could be the sign of a new love interest. Look for new lingerie, hairstyles, colognes, perfume and clothing and ask yourself if it is for your benefit or is someone else reaping the rewards.

Tell me lies…Tell me sweet little lies…
Hmmm….watch out for those pesky little lies. When your partner goes missing for hours they will need to account for their time. They will use a variety of excuses with the most common one being, “I had to work late.” If you’re smart you’ll make sure the paycheck backs up this statement. Other common lies include: Caught in traffic, out with friends, unplanned meetings and long lunches. When you try to contact them during their away time their cell phones are mysteriously turned off. You might hear, “sorry honey the ringer was turned down” or “sorry honey I forgot to charge the phone last night”.

Mister postman look and see…if there’s a letter in your bag for me…
Fortunately for cheaters they no longer have to wait for the postman. With easy access to free email accounts like hotmail, yahoo or gmail they can keep in touch with their new lover any time of the day or night. If your partner is spending more time online than usual – it’s time to start paying attention. Check the browser’s history for unusual sites, chatrooms and frequent visits to their email accounts. Watch their reaction when you enter the room and interrupt them – they will quickly close the program and react with anger and defensiveness. People with nothing to hide could care less if you are in the room or not. This sudden need for privacy is a dead giveaway.

Tainted Love…
Changes in your sex life and intimacy levels should set alarm bells off so don’t ignore them. The most obvious change is a loss of interest in sex, which could imply he or she has found another sexual outlet. Be alert for any changes in frequency and quality. You may suddenly discover you partner has a kinky side and is now asking you to do things you aren’t quite comfortable with. If you are really suspicious that “It’s a cheatin’ situation”, protect yourself and do not put yourself at risk for a sexually transmitted disease.

Call me…call me any anytime…Call me…
Ahhh, the classic mystery caller. You answer the phone only to find no one on the other end. Believe it or not most cheaters will take the risk of calling their lover from home or having their lover call them. It really throws them off when you unexpectedly answer the phone and they quickly hang up. Affairs depend on repeated contact so you may want to check the phone bill and cell phone for repeated names, blocked ID’s and unexplained numbers.

Lipstick on you collar told a tale on you…
Last but not least…the physical evidence. You would be surprised at what you can find when you know what to look for. Receipts and credit card bills can be quite revealing with purchases for everything from gifts and flowers to restaurants and hotels. Check purses, wallets, dresser drawers, closets, coats and any other hiding places you may think of. If you really want to sniff around check the cheaters clothes for odors like perfume, cologne, smoke or alcohol.

You’ve lost that lovin’ feeling….
You know your partner better than anyone. The longer you are together, the better you understand their habits and moods. When changes in behavior occur and your instincts tell you something is not right, chances are they’re not. Rule out all reasonable explanations and do some investigating before you confront your partner. Be prepared for lies and excuses but follow the facts. Cheating hurts and it’s too easy to hide from the truth when you know it’s going to break your heart. Be strong, stay calm and trust your intuition.

“So she tells him she must go out for the evening
To comfort an old friend who’s feelin’ down

But he knows where she’s goin’ as she’s leavin’
She is headed for the cheatin’ side of town…”
(Eagles)

Author: Dawn Gilbert
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How many wedding invitations have you received recently? No doubt you have received at least one since the majority of weddings occur between April and October with June and August being the most popular months. Do you need a unique wedding gift idea? Here is a list of home décor ideas to help you with your online wedding gift shopping.

Candleholders – Yes, every household should have candleholders! They can be found in unique finishes that complement any décor. Wrought iron as well as distressed metal finishes will fit in any home décor decorating plan. Shabby chic white wood candleholders are also a popular choice.

Towel Rack – A weathered white metal towel rack makes a unique wedding gift idea. It can be used in a bathroom, kitchen, or as a shabby chic home decor accessory with lace draped over it in a bedroom, sitting room or breakfast nook.

Decorative Mirrors – There are many from which to choose so look for a mirror with a unique shape and finish. Cross-shaped mirrors are a good choice as well as mirrors with unique carved frames. Decorative wall mirrors are an excellent choice since they are functional and can enhance the look of any room as well.

Small Tables – Small decorative tables are a unique wedding gift idea. Distressed wood, metal and painted tables are a trendy choice as well as tables with carved wood accents. They are sure to please every bride and groom.

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Magazine Rack – Most people have magazines and/or newspapers in their home that need to be organized. Thus, a magazine rack is a useful, unique wedding gift. Look for one with an unusual finish that will harmonize with the bride and groom’s home decorating plan.

See how easy it is to find a unique wedding gift that the bride and groom will be happy to receive and will be in their home for many years to come. Be creative, use your imagination and you will find just the right gift for every couple on your list.

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Some women simply love the sound of a man’s voice and they can never hear enough of it.

In fact, they like the sound of a man’s voice so much that she will do anything to keep a man on the phone with her.

Except, actually meet him or do anything other than talk to him on the phone.

You would think a woman like this would be a sex-phone operator, however, instead of getting paid for it she does it for free.

This wouldn’t be a problem, if it wasn’t for the fact that the man on the other end of the line, more than likely wants to actually meet her one day.

Women like this are everywhere, they give out their phone number to any man who wants it and picks up the phone.

If you are a man who wants to be in a physical relationship and not just an auditory one, there is a simple step you can take to neutralize women who date on the phone.

Limit your phone calls to setup meetings and dates only.

You should be doing this already and if you are not you might find yourself on the phone for a very long time.

Then when you think you are ready to move it into to the physical world you will discover that all you can do is imagine what it might be like to see her as listening to her voice is as close as it is going to get to you actually seeing her again.

In the end, it is important to remember that you are calling a woman so that you can meet in the physical world.

If you find you and her are listening to the two of you talking to each other, it is actually taking you further away from seeing her in the physical world.

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Imagine the perfect marriage…then imagine it’s yours!

“Give and it will be given to you.”
Give what you want more of in your life. In order to have more, you must give more. To some this may sound absurd but if you believe in the Law of the Harvest this makes real sense.

You get what you give. There is something inside us that causes us to want to give back whenever someone else gives to us. If someone shouts at you, most likely you want to shout back. Or if someone does you a favor, you make it a point to return the favor.

Try smiling at strangers and that stranger will smile back at you, no doubt about that. Isn’t it amazing how much easier life can become when you start to give whatever it is that you want in return?

“How you give love is how you live love.”…Jaci Velasquez

Cooperation
Cooperation is a joint operation or action. Since it is stated as joint, it means two or more people are involved. When two people come together in a certain relationship, expect the differences in opinion.

Our differences can actually be the key to a strong long-term marriage we are aiming for. After some time the man may want more independent activities, like going out with his friends. The woman on the other hand may want more contact with girlfriends.

“The greatest of all faults, I should say, is to be conscious of none.”…Thomas Carlyle

What’s the impact of this on marriage you may ask? Well, one of the main reasons we pick at each other is our conflicting attitude towards marital independence. Nature keeps moving forward in the life cycle. Change is the only permanent thing in this world. As you count the years, you’ll eventually discover each other’s strengths and weaknesses. It is a step-by-step process and can’t be done overnight.

“Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.”…Katharine Hepburn

These differences can even lead us in a better direction. It may even cause us to make better decisions along the way. Don’t think of your differences as an obstacle to be happy. It can have a positive synergistic effect on your lives.

You and your spouse are a team. You are partners. This partnership has two sides. Either you let this help you live a more fulfilled life, or treat your spouse like he or she is your competitor.

Is it cooperation or competition that will bring you the most success in your marriage? The answer is quite obvious. But are you practicing cooperation in your marriage from the very start?

You should work together to achieve a mutually beneficial outcome. Marriage is a partnership and not just two people living in the same roof.

Tips on how to know that cooperation is present in your household

1. Discuss all major purchases. Agree upon what to buy with your money.

2. Agree on what you will and won’t buy and where you will invest the money.

3. Focus on each other’s strengths not on each other’s weaknesses.

4. Point out the things you need to improve in your life. Ask his or her opinion.

5. Don’t try to change your spouse’s mind to your way of thinking. Assess yourself if you are willing to change your mind. Giving in once in a while is healthy.

6. Agree on how you will raise your children. Include discipline, allowance, curfew, education, religion, dress, friends and chores.

7. Write plans for the future. Discuss it together.

8. Always look for ways to improve yourself and your marriage

9. Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. Reserve judgment until you get all of the facts.

10. Try to understand your partner’s motive if you feel offended or hurt. Don’t get mad in an instant.

Treat your relationship like a cooperative partnership. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together, we can all benefit making an effort to improve our relationship. Start your journey today!

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