Friendship is a gift of God. Some of us are blessed with good friends. But as it happens, these friendships are taken for granted in some cases and not valued. It is similar to a case of two couples. Say one has no child even after many years of marriage and the other has many children, more than they can manage. What do you think? Will the couple with many children value the children as much as the couple which has none? Everything is relative in life. We value what we don’t have and give less valuable to what is freely available with us. Friendship is one such relationship.Why should we value friendships? What qualities does a good friend bring in our relationship that makes the friendship so valuable? Let us examine some of these.

Judgment – a good friend is rarely judgmental. We can be open in our behavior with our good friends because we know that they will not judge us. We can enjoy this freedom only with friends. It is nothing short of a blessing, because with other people our actions and behavior are always calculated and guarded and that takes away lot of pleasure from our life.

Share Sorrow and losses – A friend can be depended upon to share all our problems and sorrows. This sharing may not reduce the impact of loss but helps us to unburden ourselves. This is no small gift of friendship. Once I saw the image of a man left alone in the village after an earthquake. The whole village got killed except this man. With who, will this man share his sorrow? A friend gives us this gift.

Hope – During our times of trouble, only a friend comes forward and gives us encouragement and hope. With that inspiration one begins afresh. At times in life when we feel totally devastated and hopeless, and when our self-esteem reaches a big low, a friend helps us regain confidence in ourselves.

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Rose oil comforts and give its gentle support in times of sorrow and is useful for relieving symptoms of hysteria, confusion and despair.

Rose oil calms feelings of inner turmoil, jealousy and rage.

Allows for fresh growth and new possibilities to flow in while gently letting go of the old ways and patterns needing release.

Rose oil gently reduces our fears and reassures us that it is safe to let go and allow our heart to heal.

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Lying, we all do it.

For those of you, giving a vigorous shake of the head right now or eyebrow lift or head tilt….YES, you too.

Think about it. We all come with guises that force us into deceitful positions of varying degrees. We lie about Santa, Easter Bunny, birds and bees, confidential information, trade secrets, people’s appearances. If you have kids or nieces or nephews or just kindergarten friends, study their gestures as they tell little fibs. They tend to have obvious non verbal cues as to the lack of veracity. They may cover their mouth, look away from you, scratch various parts of their bodies. These movements tend to be pretty obvious to the adult and generally we are on to them in a flash. What does the child do? He or she learns to stop lying? I do not think so. No your little angels learn to modify their body language so that you cannot detect when they are lying.

Of course most times the people closest to us know when we are not telling the truth, the quiver in our voice , the one blink too many, whatever it is. But what do we do when the liars are not people we grew up with all our lives? This is when we need to acquire analysis skills that collect data on the potential liars’ body language and draw reasonable conclusions.

We call lying all sorts of names: fantasy, tact, comic relief, sensitivity, secrets, vows, kindness. These euphemisms serve to make our lies more convincing as they rationalize our untruths. But if you are not telling the truth, you are lying. Liars possess varying degrees of skills, and it should be understood our skill in lying depends on purpose, conviction and amount of practice.

Skill Levels:

Level one: Fibbers,

Level two: Scammers,

Level three: Paths (Pathological Liars)

Here are some verbal and non-verbal signs to detect lying.

SPATIAL CHANGES:

Liars are generally uncomfortable facing those they lie to. Creating space between them and the victim makes lying easier. There may be different rationale for these. If you cant see clearly, you can not tell I am lying, you cant see my mouth as clearly, you cant see the other parts of the body that indicate I am lying or you feel guilty about doing something that hurts another.

HIDING

Hiding behind objects, desks, doorways, counters etc. this is quite similar to Spatial Changes but it is also the adult equivalent of blocking their mouth or hands behind the back.

SPEAKING NO EVIL

Direct mouth covering to lightly touching areas around the mouth, steepling on the lips etc see Bill’s picture at the senate hearing to determine if he had sex with that woman.

FIDGETING

Nervous tapping, foot shaking, collar adjustments, lint picking, organizing items….this is mostly done by unskilled liars or Obsessive Compulsives who are quite innocent but annoying, or so Ive been told.

POSTURING

Crossing legs, tensing of shoulders. Many of us cross our legs and may tense up in speaking at difficult times. Make sure that other cues are considered along with this.

AVOIDING – EYE CONTACT

Eye shifting and not looking directly at counterpart is a good indicator but the direction of the shift can be even more useful: Up-Right (Creating a visual lie) Right (Creating auditory lie) Please note down right is recalling feelings, not lying. Down-Right (Kinesthetic)

SMILING Plastering a smile on faces, giggling Smiling with lips only eyes not smiling. I am a terrible giggler when it comes to lying, but I also do it when I am nervous.

PACE CHANGE

Walking and speaking slower Walking and speaking faster.

DEVIATION FROM NORM

Any extreme changes in behavior could possibly a sign of lying. (suddenly picking up a book when they normally detest reading, giving unusual gifts,etc.)

EMOTION SEQUENCE DELAY

Not displaying the appropriate emotional behavior when making statement, but a few seconds afterwards. Often cutting the emotion short after it is displayed. ” No it was funny, really”….smile….stop smiling.

DEFENSIVENESS

Displaying defensiveness behavior instead of offensive behavior, particularly when confronted.

SPEECH PATTERNS

Avoiding using direct statement or direct quotes. Answering with questions Using humor to deflect Giving far more detail than necessary

Okay my last tip, don’t go accusing the first person you meet of lying cause they looked right while pulling lint of their jacket. No the best part of having insight into a liar’s intent, is to build your dossier and define the appropriate strategy to follow. The next move is yours.

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Are you going to use a wedding program? I’ll give you some tips on what to include in your wedding program. There are three main sections that will need to be included in your program.

The first thing everyone will see is the cover. The cover of the wedding program you will need to include a picture of yourselves, date, location and your names. The cover does not need to be extravagant but should have some design element to it.

The second thing you need to let everyone know about is all the events you are having and in some cases the time of that specific event. List everything that will be happening at the ceremony such as scripture readings, the music that you are having, prayers, exchanging of your vows and so on. You do not have to include everything you are doing at your ceremony but the main parts of the ceremony are essential.

The third thing you will need to list is all of your bridesmaid and groomsmen and everyone in your bridal party. Just keep it simple list the names and the role they have at your wedding. Here is an example list. Parents of the Bride: Ron and Rita Nash, Maid of Honor: Jane Doe and so on. Just keep it simple. You do not have to list everyone but a thank you note would be nice to the people who play the smaller roles.

Make it fun by including your heritage and some other rituals and traditions your families might have. List all the items when you request singing, praying times, or guest participation. Just list everything that will be special to your wedding when you require a specific time. Make it memorable to everyone by writing a few lines about how you appreciate every ones help and participation and any other special notes you wish to include. Make the program a summary of events and it will guide you through your transformation.

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